Being Big all my life kinda getting Discouraged

Naturally_Beat

Looking for advice for someone whom is either in my shoes or have been in my shoes to give me some advice on what I need to do to just get motivated and see some results. PLEASE HELP

queenliz99

What are your stats? Height weight and goal weight?

Sheks41191

I am not sure what your definition of big is... Around 2 years ago I was 253 pounds and 5"3. I am currently. Down to 193 pounds - not all of that time was spend trying to lose weight. The only thing I can say is that unless you want to lose the weight.... Nobody else can motivate you. The doctor told me I was at risk of getting diabetes, I was effectively pre-diabetic. Didn't matter I kept eating. The only thing that helped was when I ended up getting Gerd because of my weight, the pain meant that I effectively stopped eating solids - the only thing that I could tolerate was meal replacement shakes and as a by product lost weight. That is not somewhere you want to end up. I have been big since about 12, I am an emotional eater I'm sure that adds to it. I don't remember ever being a normal weight or ever not being obese (my mini goal is to get to 175 pounds so that I am categoriesed as overweight). I have told you some of my story in the hopes that maybe you see some parallels. Not just from a confidence point of view but for your health and everything it means. At 253 pounds I did a 5K walk with my dad for charity - it took me nearly two hours and I was in severe discomfort. At the end of July we did the same walk the exact same route again - it took me an hour and I even ran some parts. You can do this. Set your mfp to lose 1.5 initially reassess later and stick to it. Weigh everything.

vrojapu

There's an ebook titled Spark that I often use to get motivated. The fitness and NSV boards/threads on MFP have helped tremendously. Also a thread titled "what no one ever tells you about losing weight". I'm sorry I'm not tech-savvy enough to post the actual links. Hope this helps!!

Neanbean13

Question: Do you have health issues? Diabetes!? High Blood pressure? If yes do you still want to be aviation to your situation?

mysticatgal1

I've been big for so much of my life. I hit a point where I wanted to be thinner and healthier than eat the way I was. I have 2 kids which made it more important for me so I can play with them and hopefully they will be healthy all their lives. I've been there and you gotta find what you're missing otherwise it's possible but more like pushing a boulder up a mountain. Let me know if I can help further. It is easier the younger you are if you find that motivation.

Gallowmere1984

I was always a fat kid (over 200 lbs. by eleven years old), my genetics suck *kitten*, blah blah etc. I got to 265 at 5'10", 26 years old before I finally decided to do something about it. Within eight months I had peeled to 196 doing nothing more than running a heavy deficit (1600 kcals/day) and lifting weights four to six times per week.

All I can tell you is that if you want it, you'll make it happen. "Always been big" can either be a driving motivator to fix yourself, or an excuse to stay the same. Don't let it be the latter.

Naturally_Beat

="queenliz99;37402695"]What are your stats? Height weight and goal weight?

My height= 5'7
CW:266
GW: 180-195

JeromeBarry1

25 years old. Don't be so dramatic. First, decide whether or not you want to do the easy and fun things you have to do to lose weight. Once you get past that decision point, you have to start doing them. Eat. Exercise. Feel great. There are little details you have to attend to, such as weigh all your food with a digital scale and record everything you eat in your food diary. Then you have to care a little bit about getting those macro numbers in your food diary to end each day in single digits, but's it's ok if they don't. This is easy. You can do it.

Francl27

I was fat all my life. But I started having health issues and got a panic attack that scared me, so it was the motivation I needed. I decided to wait after the Holidays 3.5 years ago to get started, and ate so much I managed to make myself sick of food... so I just said enough is enough and created a MFP account.

Unfortunately... nobody can find that motivation for you. All I can advise is to start slowly, and not jump straight to the 'lose 2 pounds a week' setting or you're more likely to give up (I had 80 pounds to lose and picked one pound a week).

DetroitDarin

first step - decide being unhappy with yourself hurts WAY WORSE than abstaining from over-eating.

Naturally_Beat

Neanbean13: Question: Do you have health issues? Diabetes!? High Blood pressure? If yes do you still want to be aviation to your situation?

None of these problems with me but they run in my family

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stephenhopkins2

Naturally_Beat wrote: »

Looking for advice for someone whom is either in my shoes or have been in my shoes to give me some advice on what I need to do to just get motivated and see some results. PLEASE HELP

I'm just starting out. I've been overweight all my adult life but it's got worse the last 5 years. Was starting my weigh loss journey at 330lb 2 weeks ago. So far I've lost 8lb. I want to do it for my kids. It's getting annoying having to worry if I can go on a ride with them or constantly assessing seats before I sit down incase they don't look sturdy enough. I want to be able to enjoy my children without my weight getting in the way.

dragon_girl26

Francl27 wrote: »

I was fat all my life. But I started having health issues and got a panic attack that scared me, so it was the motivation I needed. I decided to wait after the Holidays 3.5 years ago to get started, and ate so much I managed to make myself sick of food... so I just said enough is enough and created a MFP account.

Unfortunately... nobody can find that motivation for you. All I can advise is to start slowly, and not jump straight to the 'lose 2 pounds a week' setting or you're more likely to give up (I had 80 pounds to lose and picked one pound a week).

This is very close to my story, only substitute "dehydration episode " for "panic attack ". I started my weight loss campaign a week or two before Thanksgiving of all things. Yeah, crazy I know, but everyone always starts in January, and I refused to gain anymore weight over the holidays that year.
Here I am now 85 lbs gone, and that seems like ancient history. I realized that I was the one who made myself fat, so I was going to have to be the one to fix it. No one could do it for me. You have to want it more than you want to have unhealthy habits. That inner drive made the choice to not overeat much easier. Good health is a lifelong journey, and you deserve to be healthy. Just tell yourself that everyday..

tryett

I have been way fat since high school, have tried many times to lose it. This time at 57 I am determined. I started at the end of May at almost 244 pounds (that was a couple weeks after I started). I set my goal at 1 pound per week and am currently at 225. I have a long way to go but have found several new dinner recipes that my family loves, have increased the number of steps per day gradually and even went to the gym last night. It is doable but you have to do it, no one can make that decision for you. I would say to make one change at a time, diet first so it becomes habit, gradually increase your activity. See if you can find a buddy to do it with. Although my sons are enjoying the meal changes, I am pretty much on my own for the gym. The good news on that is the difficult step is over, I walked through the door the first time. Now I just need to make that a habit also. Feel free to add me as a friend, I intend to be around for awhile.

kshama2001

Naturally_Beat wrote: »

Looking for advice for someone whom is either in my shoes or have been in my shoes to give me some advice on what I need to do to just get motivated and see some results. PLEASE HELP

After making a few tweaks to my diet (less products with flour, more fruits, veggies, and protein) and beginning to exercise regularly, I felt so good that that was all the motivation I needed to continue.

I will take this opportunity to caution you to not try to do too much too soon - that's a recipe for binging or burnout. A pound a week doesn't feel like much in the beginning, but if you start now you might look back in a year and see you've lost 50 pounds already

BodyzLanguage

It has to come from within. When you make that final "enough is enough" decision. No one else can make you do it but yourself. Also, when you do start to working out, "start where you are". Don't try to do more than what you're capable of. The time will come when you can push yourself past uncomfortable. Good luck.

SusanMFindlay

Start a food diary. Set a goal or don't, but just write down (or type in) everything you eat/drink. The accountability tends to act on our brains and automatically make us choose to eat less. Try to be honest/accurate about portion sizes. If you have trouble with that, a food scale may help. There is a lot of psychology involved in our weights.

cebreisch

First thing you can do is: be a willing participant.
Don't begrudge the process of what things you'll have to do to lose weight. You're going to have to make changes on how you approach food. Log everything down to the packets of ketchup. Review often to see how you can make your entries more "food journal friendly".
Drink your water, get in your protein and your fiber.

Elise4270

I'm not in your shoes. I just wanted to say that you can do it. You can rule your diet and enjoy some sort of activity. Everyone loves a success story, and I wanna hear yours.

Make a plan. Start small. I think many people make the mistake trying to change everything immediately and it becomes discouraging. Make better choices week by week. Reach out to a nutritionist if needed.

There are some great people here on MFP. Stay connected and focused. It's not "all your life" if you change it. Good luck!

rankinsect

Naturally_Beat wrote: »

Looking for advice for someone whom is either in my shoes or have been in my shoes to give me some advice on what I need to do to just get motivated and see some results. PLEASE HELP

I started at 320 lb last year, down to 190 now. I've been obese since about age 8-10 or so.

What really worked for me:

1. My overall focus has been on making the smallest changes that lead to success. I'm not trying to overhaul every aspect of my diet and fitness, just the ones that are necessary and sufficient for me to reach my goals. For me, that's tracking calories, tracking protein, and 3 hr/week of a combination of strength training and cardio.

2. As that implies, I have no forbidden foods. I'm not giving up ice cream, or cake, or chips, or anything like that. I won't give up anything now that I don't plan to give up forever.

3. I pre-plan each day the night before and pre-log it. I start every day knowing not only that I'll succeed, but exactly how. Then I just use the food scale to weigh out the portions I already picked. This was my biggest change from other times I've counted calories, and one I credit most of my success to.