I just got dumped

beginforthelasttime16

So last night I got the good ol' "it just doesn't feel right" talk and now I only want to eat is chinese food and drink coke.


What do you guys do when you get life altering bad news?

Also, feel free to add me- I'm always looking for support and motivation.

goldthistime

Not sure if this is what you want to hear, but I'd increase my calories to maintenance right now. I'm not down with being stressed, sick, over tired, sad etc AND hungry.

kd_mazur

working out helps me to relieve stress and occupies my mind for a while.

BennettVicious

That sound really rough. I'm sorry for you.

I'd say go for a bike ride. You'll feel better afterwards than if you give into your (very understandable) urge to eat and drink comfort foods.

2011rocket3touring

Congratulations! A future problem just fixed itself. It hurts now, but once the pain subsides you will be much happier.

T0M_K

don't let it define you...its fuel to the fire. use it to make yourself better.

samhennings

Even if its a good thing to split up its always something you mourn and something you need to 'process'.

Personally Id have the Chinese and Coke, work it through, and take it as a good point to start working on myself with renewed impetus.

25lbsorbust

Yup. I'd have the Chinese and Coke, flop around on the couch for a bit, watch some bad reality TV (might I recommend Toddlers & Tiaras?), have a cry, and then pick back up tomorrow and keep going.

tcunbeliever

I work out more, particularly workouts that involve punching and kicking so I can really vent that super pissy aggression.

beginforthelasttime16

Thanks guys! I've always either binged or just lost my appetite all together and I want to avoid both of those!

Katiebear_81

I'd probably do the coke and chinese food, but then set my alarm to get up and go to the gym tomorrow (if that's a thing you do). Mourn the relationship but try not to get completely off track.

If you think one night of bad food choices might end up derailing you, then I might consider eating other foods to maintenance and try to find something else to occupy your mind and hands. Bike riding, a hobby that you haven't done in a little while, etc.

rsclause

Being married for 35 years I haven't been there for a long time but nothing is better than losing extra weight if needed and getting in shape. Running, walking and hiking clears the mind. From what I understand it is also very satisfying to look fantastic when your ex sees you again. Best of luck.

MrsKila

Use it as motivation I know it's easier said than done. But in the end you win. You don't want to let someone else motivate you to go backwards.

RuNaRoUnDaFiEld

Congratulations on your big weight you dropped

Do some boxing imagining his/her face

brialger

Order your Chinese food and Coke for one meal but keep busy. Go to thr gym go to work go hangout with friends and family. Sitting at home and mourning will make you feel worse emotionally and make worse nutrition decisions. I'm sorry for the breakup

zcb94

I have never broken up, but I personally always go to my Higher Power for comfort and strength/wisdom in the midst of bad news. He then infuses me with the strength and information necessary to make the necessary changes.

Edit: although it is hard, I then proceed to take care of my body the way I normally would: eat right, sleep well, and exercise consistently if possible.

Alluminati

I lose my appetite and don't eat for days, so I have no advice. Sorry you are going through a sucky time. Just go with grieving and giving in today and get back on track tomorrow.

txfyreflye

beginforthelasttime16 wrote: »

So last night I got the good ol' "it just doesn't feel right" talk and now I only want to eat is chinese food and drink coke.


What do you guys do when you get life altering bad news?

Also, feel free to add me- I'm always looking for support and motivation.

Rejection of any kind can be disheartening. Whether its a relationship or people bullying you or just not being allowed to join in on something.

Last night I allowed it to get the better of me, too. But hey, at least it was 2 slices of pizza and not four!

One of the other posters here said to replace the urge to eat with something constructive that keeps you busy. He recommended exercise. Like, get up and take a walk (but not to the local pizza joint lol). Or maybe work on a project?

I don't know if you believe in God, but I do find myself yacking at Him as well. Not so much a "dear God" prayer as a conversation. But you can also come on here and talk to people as well.

Oh, for the record? Whomever it was that dumped you? They really messed up methinks. You're an honest person. Such a rarity nowadays!

Stay strong and stay long

RoxieDawn

I would probably kick something, cry, complain, laugh, be sad or all of the above for about 15 minutes, have the Chinese Food and Coke in honor of this person and says Cheers and Thanks for saving me time in my life to find something better!

txfyreflye

LOL Roxie thats great!

ElJefeChief

kd_mazur wrote: »

working out helps me to relieve stress and occupies my mind for a while.

That's what I would do. Hit the gym twice as hard.