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  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    bringing up things that you aren't sure of can create problems that aren't there.

    I agree with this. I would tell my friend if I was 100% sure her husband was cheating, but that is IT.

    My husband and I were having problems about a year ago. Serious problems, and we were on the verge of divorce. I stuck it out (mainly for the kids), but my husband caused a rift in my relationship with my parents by talking to them about OUR problems for 6 months behind my back. He told them I was CHEATING (I was not), and he told them I wasn't there for our kids (I WAS). He painted himself as the victim and me as the one ruining the relationship. All during this time, he was struggling with major addiction problems (which my parents knew). They chose to support him over me, and that HURT me. My Dad thinks that cheating is the WORST thing in the world, and because of what my husband put into his head he does not think of me the same.

    So UNLESS you are 100% sure then NO. You are getting in other people's business and there could be serious repercussions.
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    bringing up things that you aren't sure of can create problems that aren't there.

    I agree with this. I would tell my friend if I was 100% sure her husband was cheating, but that is IT.

    My husband and I were having problems about a year ago. Serious problems, and we were on the verge of divorce. I stuck it out (mainly for the kids), but my husband caused a rift in my relationship with my parents by talking to them about OUR problems for 6 months behind my back. He told them I was CHEATING (I was not), and he told them I wasn't there for our kids (I WAS). He painted himself as the victim and me as the one ruining the relationship. All during this time, he was struggling with major addiction problems (which my parents knew). They chose to support him over me, and that HURT me. My Dad thinks that cheating is the WORST thing in the world, and because of what my husband put into his head he does not think of me the same.

    So UNLESS you are 100% sure then NO. You are getting in other people's business and there could be serious repercussions.


    SHAME on your parents. They should have known better since you are their daughter. At least they could have quietly talked to you about what he was saying. You're a strong woman. Keep smiling! :flowerforyou:
  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    bringing up things that you aren't sure of can create problems that aren't there.

    I agree with this. I would tell my friend if I was 100% sure her husband was cheating, but that is IT.

    My husband and I were having problems about a year ago. Serious problems, and we were on the verge of divorce. I stuck it out (mainly for the kids), but my husband caused a rift in my relationship with my parents by talking to them about OUR problems for 6 months behind my back. He told them I was CHEATING (I was not), and he told them I wasn't there for our kids (I WAS). He painted himself as the victim and me as the one ruining the relationship. All during this time, he was struggling with major addiction problems (which my parents knew). They chose to support him over me, and that HURT me. My Dad thinks that cheating is the WORST thing in the world, and because of what my husband put into his head he does not think of me the same.

    So UNLESS you are 100% sure then NO. You are getting in other people's business and there could be serious repercussions.


    SHAME on your parents. They should have known better since you are their daughter. At least they could have quietly talked to you about what he was saying. You're a strong woman. Keep smiling! :flowerforyou:

    I am slowly re-building my relationship with them. I have a very close sister who supported me the whole time.

    I told my parents I didn't want to talk to them about my relationship, because my husband I needed to talk it through.

    My husband and I have come SO far in the last three months. We've really rebuilt things. He changed a lot for the better, just by finding out he was self medicating and not facing up to his problems. I'm super proud of him, and I'm happy I stuck through the bad times. Sometimes such horrible things happen, and you get through them and things are better than they've ever been on the other side!
  • PattyJane167
    PattyJane167 Posts: 94 Member
    if I was on the verge of divorcing my husband, I wouldn't be sending him pics of myself, let alone in my underwear, then I would be questioning the best friend...
    But as far as the cheating issue, I wouldn't tell, karma is a *****!!
  • crnacrn07
    crnacrn07 Posts: 10 Member
    I agree with other posts. Only if I was absolutely certain and had proof.
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    I am slowly re-building my relationship with them. I have a very close sister who supported me the whole time.

    I told my parents I didn't want to talk to them about my relationship, because my husband I needed to talk it through.

    My husband and I have come SO far in the last three months. We've really rebuilt things. He changed a lot for the better, just by finding out he was self medicating and not facing up to his problems. I'm super proud of him, and I'm happy I stuck through the bad times. Sometimes such horrible things happen, and you get through them and things are better than they've ever been on the other side!
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    I truly hope that as he recovers he admits to your parents that he lied and made up stories about you. I come from a *****y back stabbing family (I've disowned them all because of this, it's vicious) and it does so much harm. Virtual hug to you. :smile:
  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member

    I truly hope that as he recovers he admits to your parents that he lied and made up stories about you. I come from a *****y back stabbing family (I've disowned them all because of this, it's vicious) and it does so much harm. Virtual hug to you. :smile:

    Thanks. He is not the type to say he is sorry. I realize this, and there's nothing I can do to change him (people can only change themselves). Luckily, I know I'm not guilty and all I can do is live my life and show my parents through my actions that I'm not that type of person. They'll come around. I'm lucky to have a great sister and brother who really supported me and did not feed into my husband's manipulation. We were both to blame in the disintegration of our relationship, and both of us have to put it back together right now. We're doing it, and we're learning how to communicate, to live and love again, despite each of our flaws.

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