How much is it worthy!
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Wheelhouse15 wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »In my personal experience, he isn't interested and isn't thinking about you. When he does reply when you initiate its just because he is being polite. Sorry if that sounds mean but life isn't always bubblegum and roses.
Agreed. It's really not rocket science. Women, in particular (rarely a man) try to justify or even make excuses for why a man doesn't call or text her. Men are really not that complicated. If they wanted you, they would reach out. That's basically it, in a nutshell. No need to overthink.
He's Not That Into You should be required reading lol.
It's a good movie. lol0 -
Wheelhouse15 wrote: »Wheelhouse15 wrote: »sw33tp3a_1 wrote: »I texted someone yesterday. I reached out they didn't bother to reply back so I guess I got ignored. Oh well
Maybe his phone got cutoff maybe he's gotten into a wreck maybe he's in the hospital maybe he's in court, jail at a funeral.... I dunno I'm trying to give dude the benefit of a doubt
I've heard of stranger things lol. One guy said, through his "father", that he was in the special forces and was becoming a ghost. He had actually claimed to have been retired from the military before and working in the UK but then the story changed, his name changed... How do you spell "catfish"?
Or maybe he became a spy duh!
Oh, no he already was, or was he an engineer? Or, oh wait the story just kept changing lol.
Isn't it obvious? Girls love mysterious guys that why he's being mysterious
Yeah and maybe that's why I keep on thinking of him [by the way I stopped txting already]...when they are hard to reach we girls want them even more "ouch" for us0 -
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MsAmandaNJ wrote: »It bothers you that he doesn't initiate contact or doesn't respond in what you deem an appropriate amount of time. It's hard to accept sometimes, but each person has their own life with their own rules, just as you do. You may not be being ignored, it could be he has things going on that he feels has to put his energy into first. You mentioned priorities, we all have them and not everything/everyone can be top.
If his M.O. is to not contact you unless you initiate, why would you expect him to be there for you when you "reach out"? Does that make sense?
Yeah....actually last week I didn't call ot text for 3 days..then when I mistakenly [and yes it was def a mistake touch screen fault I swear] I called and abruptly cancelled it when I noticed but it was too late... he got back as soon as he saw it..apologizing for missing my call and explained why he didn't pick up the phone...I meant I never even asked..but I accepted the apology and we talked a lot..but it bothers me that I always have to initiate it...so I once again stopped it ...and even though it's killing me..this time I am NOT gonna reach him again...I have my values too.0 -
grayblackmfp wrote: »Turn and run. If he suddenly gets interested keep running. He has had his chance.
As my brother keeps sayibg to me "he is not the last cookie of the jar" please show him that once and for all!!!0 -
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LiftingLady5 wrote: »elianecnas wrote: »MsAmandaNJ wrote: »It bothers you that he doesn't initiate contact or doesn't respond in what you deem an appropriate amount of time. It's hard to accept sometimes, but each person has their own life with their own rules, just as you do. You may not be being ignored, it could be he has things going on that he feels has to put his energy into first. You mentioned priorities, we all have them and not everything/everyone can be top.
If his M.O. is to not contact you unless you initiate, why would you expect him to be there for you when you "reach out"? Does that make sense?
Yeah....actually last week I didn't call ot text for 3 days..then when I mistakenly [and yes it was def a mistake touch screen fault I swear] I called and abruptly cancelled it when I noticed but it was too late... he got back as soon as he saw it..apologizing for missing my call and explained why he didn't pick up the phone...I meant I never even asked..but I accepted the apology and we talked a lot..but it bothers me that I always have to initiate it...so I once again stopped it ...and even though it's killing me..this time I am NOT gonna reach him again...I have my values too.
If you enjoy talking to him and vice versa why stop for initiation sake?
In my post above I explained how he probably responds to her to be polite. She may feel as if she is wasting his time. He's probably too polite to tell her. Perhaps she doesnt want to feel like she is bothering him every time she talks to him. Thats no fun now is it?
Overthinking it... He responded as soon as he saw the missed call, talked a lot seems to me they enjoy talking to each other
Which indicates to me that he has others he is also talking to but wants to keep her on the line. No contact for three days? Did you miss that part? If he doesn't think of her enough in 72 hours to at least say "hi" then he isn't thinking about her unless she initiates, which means she isn't a priority.4 -
Wheelhouse15 wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »elianecnas wrote: »MsAmandaNJ wrote: »It bothers you that he doesn't initiate contact or doesn't respond in what you deem an appropriate amount of time. It's hard to accept sometimes, but each person has their own life with their own rules, just as you do. You may not be being ignored, it could be he has things going on that he feels has to put his energy into first. You mentioned priorities, we all have them and not everything/everyone can be top.
If his M.O. is to not contact you unless you initiate, why would you expect him to be there for you when you "reach out"? Does that make sense?
Yeah....actually last week I didn't call ot text for 3 days..then when I mistakenly [and yes it was def a mistake touch screen fault I swear] I called and abruptly cancelled it when I noticed but it was too late... he got back as soon as he saw it..apologizing for missing my call and explained why he didn't pick up the phone...I meant I never even asked..but I accepted the apology and we talked a lot..but it bothers me that I always have to initiate it...so I once again stopped it ...and even though it's killing me..this time I am NOT gonna reach him again...I have my values too.
If you enjoy talking to him and vice versa why stop for initiation sake?
In my post above I explained how he probably responds to her to be polite. She may feel as if she is wasting his time. He's probably too polite to tell her. Perhaps she doesnt want to feel like she is bothering him every time she talks to him. Thats no fun now is it?
Overthinking it... He responded as soon as he saw the missed call, talked a lot seems to me they enjoy talking to each other
Which indicates to me that he has others he is also talking to but wants to keep her on the line. No contact for three days? Did you miss that part? If he doesn't think of her enough in 72 hours to at least say "hi" then he isn't thinking about her unless she initiates, which means she isn't a priority.
You might be right he may be talking to somebody else I'm assuming they're both single so they're free to date, talk to anyone but my point is whether she text/call first or not and they both enjoy it what's the harm?
Me thinks the gentleman doth protest too much.
My experience here is that there is a big open secret about who does what to whom in MFP land. There are a lot of cheating spouses/SOs running around and not only that most people who are on KIK etc tend to be talking to several people at once. This isn't news for anyone who's been around MFP for awhile, especially in this neck of the woods. As long as both people are being honest about their relationship I don't think it's a problem.
The issue is that the OP has expressed clearly that she isn't actually enjoying this the way it is and seems to be looking to let go. Playing with other people's emotions by leading them on, whether online or in person, isn't something I could ever support.2 -
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LiftingLady5 wrote: »elianecnas wrote: »MsAmandaNJ wrote: »It bothers you that he doesn't initiate contact or doesn't respond in what you deem an appropriate amount of time. It's hard to accept sometimes, but each person has their own life with their own rules, just as you do. You may not be being ignored, it could be he has things going on that he feels has to put his energy into first. You mentioned priorities, we all have them and not everything/everyone can be top.
If his M.O. is to not contact you unless you initiate, why would you expect him to be there for you when you "reach out"? Does that make sense?
Yeah....actually last week I didn't call ot text for 3 days..then when I mistakenly [and yes it was def a mistake touch screen fault I swear] I called and abruptly cancelled it when I noticed but it was too late... he got back as soon as he saw it..apologizing for missing my call and explained why he didn't pick up the phone...I meant I never even asked..but I accepted the apology and we talked a lot..but it bothers me that I always have to initiate it...so I once again stopped it ...and even though it's killing me..this time I am NOT gonna reach him again...I have my values too.
If you enjoy talking to him and vice versa why stop for initiation sake?
In my post above I explained how he probably responds to her to be polite. She may feel as if she is wasting his time. He's probably too polite to tell her. Perhaps she doesnt want to feel like she is bothering him every time she talks to him. Thats no fun now is it?
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elianecnas wrote: »LiftingLady5 wrote: »elianecnas wrote: »MsAmandaNJ wrote: »It bothers you that he doesn't initiate contact or doesn't respond in what you deem an appropriate amount of time. It's hard to accept sometimes, but each person has their own life with their own rules, just as you do. You may not be being ignored, it could be he has things going on that he feels has to put his energy into first. You mentioned priorities, we all have them and not everything/everyone can be top.
If his M.O. is to not contact you unless you initiate, why would you expect him to be there for you when you "reach out"? Does that make sense?
Yeah....actually last week I didn't call ot text for 3 days..then when I mistakenly [and yes it was def a mistake touch screen fault I swear] I called and abruptly cancelled it when I noticed but it was too late... he got back as soon as he saw it..apologizing for missing my call and explained why he didn't pick up the phone...I meant I never even asked..but I accepted the apology and we talked a lot..but it bothers me that I always have to initiate it...so I once again stopped it ...and even though it's killing me..this time I am NOT gonna reach him again...I have my values too.
If you enjoy talking to him and vice versa why stop for initiation sake?
In my post above I explained how he probably responds to her to be polite. She may feel as if she is wasting his time. He's probably too polite to tell her. Perhaps she doesnt want to feel like she is bothering him every time she talks to him. Thats no fun now is it?
I really don't want to bother him, and even though he said I can reach him at any time I want...it doesn't seems like it... because of unresponsive behaviour...so...we'll see...not gonna lie here I will miss him badly..already am...but my decision is NOT to reach him back again....and I will try hard and do my best on this one.0
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