eating too much
LonelyObeseGuy
Posts: 63 Member
going to eat too much because others are in relationships and I've never been
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Well that won't get you any closer to having one.10
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Sure why not. That's one option.
Or you could, y'know, try taking some of the great advice you've gotten in other threads like this and try and change your life to something that makes you happier.11 -
I have gone from eating to much to apparently not eating enough!!! It's stupid... And Dw relationships ain't always the best just focus on you and let the future slowly reveal itself... The last thing you want is to rush into a relationship because your feelings lonely and regret it or have a terrible experience because the two of you are to different.... And never change who you want to be to make someone else happy stay true to yourself and the right person will come along3
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have at it1
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LonelyObeseGuy wrote: »going to eat too much because others are in relationships and I've never been
ok. enjoy!2 -
Oh OP!! Stop feeling sorry for yourself!! The only person who can make you feel truly good is YOURSELF. Pull your socks up and carry on.10
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How about trying to find a physical activity that makes you happy. Dance? Running? Swimming?
Well done for not turning to the food.3 -
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OP, what sort of help/support are you looking for with this post? It has all the charm of a threat, and that (combined with your unfortunate choice of screen name) is off-putting. It's very hard for me to take you seriously at all, and I feel bad about that.
If you want to meet someone--for friendship or more--find something positive about yourself, and start with that.
Seriously.
I'd suggest that you choose a more positive, upbeat screen name and start over on MFP.
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I'm a lonely obese chica but cmon man chin up. Or "chins" up for us lol! Figure out what sort of person you want to be and be that person! I want to be a jogger, so I'm working my way up to jogging. I want to be a photographer, so I tell people I am (it's not my income source but that doesn't mean anything!). Be your best, be you, and don't ever hate yourself for trying!7
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you were given some great advice in your other posts and you didnt want to hear any of it. people tried to reach out to you.you need to see someone,this isnt being a bully or a joke.you keep saying how awful life is and that you are alone.I dont know what else you expect people to do for you by posting how miserable you are.call someone and find a therapist please.4
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From memory you aren't all that overweight for your height.
Have you every thought that what keeps you from being with someone is that you are totally engrossed with yourself. It is not an attractive trait.
Get out and be among people who have real life struggles, go volunteer in the community somewhere...perhaps you wouldn't be so miserable.4 -
Nobody is entitled to a relationship. Wallowing in self pity only makes people avoid you more.
Get yourself in an emotional place where you can be happy on your own terms, and you will attract the company of others. And a guy who can cook for himself and his date is dead sexy.5 -
So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.3 -
chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
Welcome to the community!3 -
I'm single and lonely too! I spend Friday nights commenting about "how miserably alone i am" on mfp (but that doesn't mean i won't go for a jog later )4
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chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
Really?
How about you read a few of OP's past topics and read the responses there? Lots of good advice. It sucks to continuously wrote good advice to someone who doesn't apply it.7 -
chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
Yeah, being new you won't have realised that there are certain posters who come back again and again with the same issue, everyone tries to be helpful and make suggestions and the person ignores or shoots down every single suggestion and a week later is back with the exact same post. It gets really old.6 -
chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/search?adv=1&search=&title=&author=LonelyObeseGuy&cat=all&tags=&discussion_d=1&comment_c=1&group_group=1&within=1+day&date=
nuff said...1 -
tiptoethruthetulips wrote: »chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/search?adv=1&search=&title=&author=LonelyObeseGuy&cat=all&tags=&discussion_d=1&comment_c=1&group_group=1&within=1+day&date=
nuff said...
Wow. I missed seeing a few of those threads.
Clearly a case of you can lead a horse to water...
...but that eventually, the trough runs dry.2 -
chachachi82 wrote: »So I'm new to this community and this was one of the first posts I'm replying to. I'm in shock at this reaction from what I thought was supposed to be a supportive app. I'm so glad I didn't post anything to start a topic nor will I ever now. Some times people don't know what they're looking for in terms of response n I'm sure yelling at him via the net about self pity isn't helping... feel ashamed of yourselves for responding so immature some of u.
On the topic when I'm alone I tend to overeat. I find taking the dogs out helps me get away from food. Bc if I can't have self control I must remove myself from those temptations. I am not sure the over eating has to do with the empty feeling from not having a mate, but the fact possibly boredom? Glad you got this app n are trying to connect.
You're new and have no idea----. As they're saying, this person has gotten tons of good, sympathetic, advice--pages and pages and pages. He has never acknowleged the advice given, or tried any of it. Then a few days later starts a new thread with the same song. The reaction is what you're seeing. Good luck trying to help.2 -
He does acknowledge in one of these threads that he suffers from depression. It's hard to respond to someone who is very depressed and low but,maybe it's then better to just not respond? This forum probably isn't the best place for someone suffering from depression but to say that they're wallowing in self pity etc seems a little harsh. I get that it's frustrating when someone doesn't seem to respond to advice- so maybe just scroll past it then?
I'm relatively new here too by the way so haven't seen all the op 's earlier posts.3 -
comptonelizabeth wrote: »He does acknowledge in one of these threads that he suffers from depression. It's hard to respond to someone who is very depressed and low but,maybe it's then better to just not respond? This forum probably isn't the best place for someone suffering from depression but to say that they're wallowing in self pity etc seems a little harsh. I get that it's frustrating when someone doesn't seem to respond to advice- so maybe just scroll past it then?
I'm relatively new here too by the way so haven't seen all the op 's earlier posts.
Do yourself a favor and read them. It's easy, he just started another one. By the way, we are NOT the meanies you may think we are. People on here are not always what they seem.2 -
snowflake954 wrote: »comptonelizabeth wrote: »He does acknowledge in one of these threads that he suffers from depression. It's hard to respond to someone who is very depressed and low but,maybe it's then better to just not respond? This forum probably isn't the best place for someone suffering from depression but to say that they're wallowing in self pity etc seems a little harsh. I get that it's frustrating when someone doesn't seem to respond to advice- so maybe just scroll past it then?
I'm relatively new here too by the way so haven't seen all the op 's earlier posts.
Do yourself a favor and read them. It's easy, he just started another one. By the way, we are NOT the meanies you may think we are. People on here are not always what they seem.
I don't think you're meanies at all - sorry if that's how it came across.
I just looked at his previous threads,1 of which is closed so I couldn't read it. He says he suffers from clinical depression. That's beyond the help and remit of a forum like this. All I was saying was,if it's irritating or you feel like you can't say anything more then it's better to say nothing.1 -
LonelyObeseGuy wrote: »going to eat too much because others are in relationships and I've never been
what a silly remark ... I am going to rob a bank because I never had any money5 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Look what I had for dinner last night
I'm coming to your house! That looks delicious!0 -
LonelyObeseGuy wrote: »going to eat too much because others are in relationships and I've never been
This is a very immature thing to say.
I used to think every time something was not right in my life it was because I was fat. I grew up being treated differently at home and at school because I was fat (in those days, overweight children were the minority).
I let my fat control my life until I saw overweight or obese friends who were happy, in relationships and getting married, having kids. They loved life, participated, smiled a lot, projected positive happy vibes.
I wallowed in a lot of self pity, until I realized that I was alone because of my contribution to others. I was wallowing in self pity and unhappiness, and I had allowed fat to become a wall between me and other people. Fat had power and was part of my personality, of who I was.
At some point I decided that my destiny was up to me and I began working on becoming a better and more positive person. I started taking care of myself inside and out. I began opening myself up to other people, and my life completely changed. I actually learned that my most important relationship is the one I have with myself because I need to support me no matter who is or is not in my life.
OP, let it begin with you because, otherwise, you will stay alone and miserable.6 -
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comptonelizabeth wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »comptonelizabeth wrote: »He does acknowledge in one of these threads that he suffers from depression. It's hard to respond to someone who is very depressed and low but,maybe it's then better to just not respond? This forum probably isn't the best place for someone suffering from depression but to say that they're wallowing in self pity etc seems a little harsh. I get that it's frustrating when someone doesn't seem to respond to advice- so maybe just scroll past it then?
I'm relatively new here too by the way so haven't seen all the op 's earlier posts.
Do yourself a favor and read them. It's easy, he just started another one. By the way, we are NOT the meanies you may think we are. People on here are not always what they seem.
I don't think you're meanies at all - sorry if that's how it came across.
I just looked at his previous threads,1 of which is closed so I couldn't read it. He says he suffers from clinical depression. That's beyond the help and remit of a forum like this. All I was saying was,if it's irritating or you feel like you can't say anything more then it's better to say nothing.
op also said that they didnt have depression @ first and did not have low self esteem(thats probably in the closed threads), they said they hated their life and couldnt wait for it to end.that having a partner would make them happy,the OP also could not understand that going up to random people and asking them out was not the right way to go and would be rejected based on that. The op was told to get out, find some hobbies,make friends and meet someone that way and build up to asking someone out after you got to know the other person.. only to go online and throw several whoa is me threads.OP was also told to see someone over and over and claimed nothing was wrong with them and they needed no help.2
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