Need some support and reassurance
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ronjsteele1 wrote: »So much good advice here. Food allergies are so hard! We dealt with some anaphylactic food allergies for quite awhile and it's exhausting staying diligent. You're doing a great job! Just hang in there. It feels like forever but you're more then half way. Just do your best food wise and deal with it afterwards. I completely get your panic. I did that too. I think @avskk gave you great advice and I would just echo that for trying to deal with the mental aspect of the weight. I wish someone had suggested I look at the weight gain that way. I think it would have been helpful to have a specific place to put the weight focus.
Thank you! Yeah, anaphylactic reactions are nothing to play with. It was a long road to figuring out what I could actually eat.0 -
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. From what my friends tell me (haven't been there myself and don't really intend to go there) it can be hard on body and psyche, especially when things go awry.
So *hugs* from me and keep doing what you're doing, because regardless of the number on the scale, I'm positive it's the right thing. 1 -
ladyreva78 wrote: »I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. From what my friends tell me (haven't been there myself and don't really intend to go there) it can be hard on body and psyche, especially when things go awry.
So *hugs* from me and keep doing what you're doing, because regardless of the number on the scale, I'm positive it's the right thing.
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Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.1 -
Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.
Please take your negativity elsewhere. It is clearly not wanted here as I started before. You don't need to keep harping about a dietitian-I don't trust them and refuse to see one when they don't understand my dietary requirements.
Which by the way I did start at 252, so so far have only gained 8lbs. It's the mental fact of seeing 269 that is bothering me. I have not just been letting my eating out of control and have been eating within my calorie requirements. I'm sorry that you seem to not get that and think it is appropriate to continue to harass a pregnant woman who has up until now, been nice in rejecting your advice. Now I'm just fed up.
Please just leave this thread. I don't need your negativity and it is not helping. Not sure where you are from where harping and harassing someone who is already emotional is considered okay( but where I'm from it is rude and usually gets that person screamed at. Please just go.4 -
Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.
Did you somewhere miss where a number of us suggested she continue to weigh, measure, and log what she eats to make sure she doesn't overdo it? No one is telling her to eat with abandon. What we're telling her is she's growing a baby. She can (and should) be careful with her diet (weighing, logging, etc) but at this point, it is counterproductive for her to stress about her weight and the scale. Stress isn't good for a growing baby either. If she's doing the basic things she can for monitoring herself, then not weighing herself is not going to do any harm and will likely help her mental outlook. I think you are stepping in here without either having really read what the rest of us have said, or just don't care if you come across rude.
We are telling her she's doing a great job because she's HAS done a great job of holding the line on her weight gain to as little as she can with her doctor's blessing. Gee whiz. Cut a hormonal, pregnant lady some slack, will ya?
@elphie754 Well, some of us were hormonal when we were pregnant. Maybe you're not.
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ronjsteele1 wrote: »Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.
Did you somewhere miss where a number of us suggested she continue to weigh, measure, and log what she eats to make sure she doesn't overdo it? No one is telling her to eat with abandon. What we're telling her is she's growing a baby. She can (and should) be careful with her diet (weighing, logging, etc) but at this point, it is counterproductive for her to stress about her weight and the scale. Stress isn't good for a growing baby either. If she's doing the basic things she can for monitoring herself, then not weighing herself is not going to do any harm and will likely help her mental outlook. I think you are stepping in here without either having really read what the rest of us have said, or just don't care if you come across rude.
We are telling her she's doing a great job because she's HAS done a great job of holding the line on her weight gain to as little as she can with her doctor's blessing. Gee whiz. Cut a hormonal, pregnant lady some slack, will ya?
@elphie754 Well, some of us were hormonal when we were pregnant. Maybe you're not.
Hihi. Some of us get hormonal even when NOT pregnant...
@elphie754 reading comprehension isn't everyone's thing and there's the option to 'ignore' a user. Considering your circumstances you are doing great. Take it one day, one meal at a time. You know what your body needs, your doctor is looking out for you (at least I hope so or we might need to gang up on him) and honestly, with all the allergies you have, I wouldn't trust a dietician either. 
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ronjsteele1 wrote: »Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.
Did you somewhere miss where a number of us suggested she continue to weigh, measure, and log what she eats to make sure she doesn't overdo it? No one is telling her to eat with abandon. What we're telling her is she's growing a baby. She can (and should) be careful with her diet (weighing, logging, etc) but at this point, it is counterproductive for her to stress about her weight and the scale. Stress isn't good for a growing baby either. If she's doing the basic things she can for monitoring herself, then not weighing herself is not going to do any harm and will likely help her mental outlook. I think you are stepping in here without either having really read what the rest of us have said, or just don't care if you come across rude.
We are telling her she's doing a great job because she's HAS done a great job of holding the line on her weight gain to as little as she can with her doctor's blessing. Gee whiz. Cut a hormonal, pregnant lady some slack, will ya?
@elphie754 Well, some of us were hormonal when we were pregnant. Maybe you're not.
Oh no, I certainly am. I just try to bite my tongue when possible, although it's not easy,ladyreva78 wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
So going to a dietitian, having them change what actually works for me and keeps me safe, and try a new way of eating that could
Kill me is better? No.
Last time I went to a dietitian, they quite literally gave me a food plan that would have killed me because they didn't understand my allergies.
I didn't need a lecture about my weight, I needed some support. This is not helpful. I'm already panicking literally everyday about the baby, I don't need you to make it worse.
You are saying your current weight is 260 lbs and that you are telling yourself some of the gain is baby. Baby pkus everything else at this stage is about 5 lbs. If you had started 250ish, I am guessign you wouldn't be worrying now. Sometimes, worry is good. I do not get at all the "you are pregnant, it is ok" mentality. You have about 20 more weeks to go, it is not like it is over, so just give up, do nto step on the scale, it is one more week. 20 weeks of uncontrolled eating could easily mean a final weight of 300 or more. I am not saying "PANIC!!!", I am saying, get advice from a professional, because you need to control this. If you now have a list of safe foods, surely a dietitian can work with this list. I also have serious allergies, I understand. I am not sure every pregnant woman can just estimate calories and count and be fine. I doubt I could when pregnant.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I do nto understand why a pregnant obese woman needs to hear "you re doing a great job, do not step on the scale". If weight gain was bad pre-pregnancy, uncontrolled weight gain is twice bad now. And pregnancy does nto make us stupid and does not take control away from us. Of course you can still control this.
Did you somewhere miss where a number of us suggested she continue to weigh, measure, and log what she eats to make sure she doesn't overdo it? No one is telling her to eat with abandon. What we're telling her is she's growing a baby. She can (and should) be careful with her diet (weighing, logging, etc) but at this point, it is counterproductive for her to stress about her weight and the scale. Stress isn't good for a growing baby either. If she's doing the basic things she can for monitoring herself, then not weighing herself is not going to do any harm and will likely help her mental outlook. I think you are stepping in here without either having really read what the rest of us have said, or just don't care if you come across rude.
We are telling her she's doing a great job because she's HAS done a great job of holding the line on her weight gain to as little as she can with her doctor's blessing. Gee whiz. Cut a hormonal, pregnant lady some slack, will ya?
@elphie754 Well, some of us were hormonal when we were pregnant. Maybe you're not.
Hihi. Some of us get hormonal even when NOT pregnant...
@elphie754 reading comprehension isn't everyone's thing and there's the option to 'ignore' a user. Considering your circumstances you are doing great. Take it one day, one meal at a time. You know what your body needs, your doctor is looking out for you (at least I hope so or we might need to gang up on him) and honestly, with all the allergies you have, I wouldn't trust a dietician either.
I think ignore might be a good option, otherwise I may say something I regret.0 -
I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.1 -
SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh yes! I have gained a full shoe size already and had to buy a few pairs of "pregnancy shoes" that were comfortable.1 -
SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
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ronjsteele1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
Oh wow. So the sausage hands and feet are not just me haha. I got so upset about two months ago when I could no longer wear my engagement as well as my Ownership and commitment rings.0 -
ronjsteele1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
Oh wow. So the sausage hands and feet are not just me haha. I got so upset about two months ago when I could no longer wear my engagement as well as my Ownership and commitment rings.
Oh girl. This is SOOOO normal. And it should make you feel better about the weight because you'd be surprised how much water you lose that first 24hrs (hidden meaning: peeing non-stop. LOL). I pump the serious fluids the first few days trying to just flush everything out. The ring thing is pretty common. I finally got a plain band sized for when I'm pregnant and I would switch to it when my regular rings got too tight.0 -
ronjsteele1 wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
Oh wow. So the sausage hands and feet are not just me haha. I got so upset about two months ago when I could no longer wear my engagement as well as my Ownership and commitment rings.
Oh girl. This is SOOOO normal. And it should make you feel better about the weight because you'd be surprised how much water you lose that first 24hrs (hidden meaning: peeing non-stop. LOL). I pump the serious fluids the first few days trying to just flush everything out. The ring thing is pretty common. I finally got a plain band sized for when I'm pregnant and I would switch to it when my regular rings got too tight.
I've just put them on a chain and have been wearing them as a necklace, along with my other necklace. May look silly, but it works.2 -
Has anyone had luck with compression gloves for the finger swelling?0
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Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
But what she said WILL work. Right now she is growing a baby though so there will be some weight gain due to that. Eating everything within your calories has worked great for many people, myself included. She doesn't need some diet plan. OP, I know how stressful it is. I was obese during my 2nd pregnancy and really stressed about too much weight gain. Right now your focus needs to be on baby and try not to stress too much about the weight.
Exactly. It's led me to lose 100lbs in the past (I got lazy when we added another person to our household). Right now I'm supposed to be gaining (eating 300 calories above maintainence) according to my OB. I just don't like seeing the number go up.
Ah, I think I misread your OP. Sounds like you are pretty much on track, with, as @HippySkoppy mentioned, perhaps a little inflammation from your recent illness.
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kshama2001 wrote: »Maybe ask your dr for a specific diet plan (most probably this will mean a reference to a dietitian)?
No. I already have dietary restrictions due to severe allergies that have led me to stop breathing. I have gotten really good at avoiding my allergens, so I won't tamper with that. Besides, I'm also a firm believer of you can eat anything as long as it fit into your calorie goal.
In general, I would agree. But what happens when this is not working and you are also pregnant? Your weight already makes this a high risk pregnancy, and not stepping on the scale will not make the risk lower. I do not understand all the "no worries, you are pregnant". Obesity is a risk factor for several complications, so having a medically supervised plan to avoid further weight gain or even lose weight, depending on dr's instructions, sounds safer than not worrying.
But what she said WILL work. Right now she is growing a baby though so there will be some weight gain due to that. Eating everything within your calories has worked great for many people, myself included. She doesn't need some diet plan. OP, I know how stressful it is. I was obese during my 2nd pregnancy and really stressed about too much weight gain. Right now your focus needs to be on baby and try not to stress too much about the weight.
Exactly. It's led me to lose 100lbs in the past (I got lazy when we added another person to our household). Right now I'm supposed to be gaining (eating 300 calories above maintainence) according to my OB. I just don't like seeing the number go up.
Ah, I think I misread your OP. Sounds like you are pretty much on track, with, as @HippySkoppy mentioned, perhaps a little inflammation from your recent illness.
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ronjsteele1 wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
Oh wow. So the sausage hands and feet are not just me haha. I got so upset about two months ago when I could no longer wear my engagement as well as my Ownership and commitment rings.
Oh girl. This is SOOOO normal. And it should make you feel better about the weight because you'd be surprised how much water you lose that first 24hrs (hidden meaning: peeing non-stop. LOL). I pump the serious fluids the first few days trying to just flush everything out. The ring thing is pretty common. I finally got a plain band sized for when I'm pregnant and I would switch to it when my regular rings got too tight.
I've just put them on a chain and have been wearing them as a necklace, along with my other necklace. May look silly, but it works.
Lots of people do this. It works well (and doesn't look silly IMHO). I'm just not a necklace person.
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SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Same here. I was holding sooooo much water with my son that I could not wear more than flip flops at the end. It was horrible.
I have never lost weight so quickly in my life.
(((((Elphie))))) Hang in there.0 -
ronjsteele1 wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Oh my goodness, yes! I gained 50#'s with my first two pregnancies. I left the hospital 24hrs after having them having already lost 35#'s (they were 9.3 and 9.12 so a long ways from 35#'s). Birkenstocks were my friend b/c my ankles were so swollen (and my fingers, face, and anyplace else that had an inch that could hold fluid).
Oh wow. So the sausage hands and feet are not just me haha. I got so upset about two months ago when I could no longer wear my engagement as well as my Ownership and commitment rings.
Oh girl. This is SOOOO normal. And it should make you feel better about the weight because you'd be surprised how much water you lose that first 24hrs (hidden meaning: peeing non-stop. LOL). I pump the serious fluids the first few days trying to just flush everything out. The ring thing is pretty common. I finally got a plain band sized for when I'm pregnant and I would switch to it when my regular rings got too tight.
I've just put them on a chain and have been wearing them as a necklace, along with my other necklace. May look silly, but it works.
Lots of people do this. It works well (and doesn't look silly IMHO). I'm just not a necklace person.
I have a necklace I wear everyday, so the rings with it look somewhat silly lol.GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I will also point out that water retention while pregnant is a very real thing and can contribute a lot of scale weight. I blew up like a balloon with both pregnancies. Lost 30 pounds within days of giving birth both times. Baby was not 30 pounds. Baby+placenta+amniotic fluid was not 30 pounds. At least 10 (probably 15) of those pounds was from swelling around my legs, my ankles, my fingers, you name the body part, it swelled.
I'm not the only person that happened to. My itty bitty teeny tiny nurse who weighs less than 100 pounds? She gained 80 pounds with pregnancy (and lost it all again and is teeny tiny again). Because of water retention. Which is another very good reason not to harass pregnant women about their weight.
Same here. I was holding sooooo much water with my son that I could not wear more than flip flops at the end. It was horrible.
I have never lost weight so quickly in my life.
(((((Elphie))))) Hang in there.
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Just wanted to say thank you again to everyone.
Also-went the the OB this morning and she said my weight was right in line with what she was hopeful for. She even congratulated me on not "over doing it" like many people do just because they are pregnant.
On an unhappy note-another round of antibiotics for me (grrr). Lymph nodes in neck are swollen and have a fever so they want to be cautious and start me back on antibiotics.0
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