How to deal

Angela937
Angela937 Posts: 514 Member
edited November 13 in Chit-Chat
How do you deal with the emotions that go with being ghosted by someone you thought really cared for you?

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  • thisonetimeatthegym
    thisonetimeatthegym Posts: 1,977 Member
    edited November 2016
    However that guy you were messing with had to deal with you telling him he's one of three and you aren't interested in being serious with him.

    Was he the one who ghosted you?

    Sometimes people who ghost you are depressed and withdraw from a lot of people not just you.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Were you sick on him?
  • novio50
    novio50 Posts: 778 Member
    Time heals all wounds...but you gotta' do you and not worry about how the other person is doing.
  • km8907
    km8907 Posts: 3,861 Member
    I think he could still care about you but not know how to end things or just didn't have enough balls to even text you. Breaking up is never easy. Or idk maybe he's dead? Covers all the bases there.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    He might have been in accident.. I might call the hospitals/family/work..

    But if you know you have really been ghosted, the option is to scream, cry, laugh, kick something.. Later on after calming down, I might eat and drink something in his honor and thank him for saving you time to find someone else.
  • MsAmandaNJ
    MsAmandaNJ Posts: 1,248 Member
    I was recently ghosted by a friend. It pissed me off, but in time, I realized that it really has nothing to do with ME and everything to do with THEM as the ghosting is their action. It's an odd feeling, thinking you've been tricked or lied to the entire time, when in actuality, it was just that they were unable to be an honest adult. From what I understand, I'm not the only one.
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    If he they have definitely ghosted you then treat it like a break up.

    Do not chase after them accept that they have made their decision.

    Give yourself 2 or 3 days to cry and be sad, then be angry, it is ok to be upset.

    Then box up (or archive messages) anything he has given you and to remove it from your sight.

    Reach out to your friends or family, they can be a wonderful support network at times like this.

    Don't watch sad/romantic films it will just make you cry again. Watch something funny.

    Delete them from social media and all your devices.

    Move on with your life but be aware you are in a vulnerable state and don't get involved with anyone else too soon.

    Most importantly, don't assume that it is your fault. The chances are they just didn't know how to tell you it was over and ghosting seemed easier and it was.......for them.

    Finally, forgive them, if you keep bearing a grudge and keep re-hashing those negative feelings you are just inviting them to move in to your head and you don't need that as it will tarnish future relationships.

    Sorry you are going through this but it will get better
  • thisonetimeatthegym
    thisonetimeatthegym Posts: 1,977 Member
    If he they have definitely ghosted you then treat it like a break up.

    Do not chase after them accept that they have made their decision.

    Give yourself 2 or 3 days to cry and be sad, then be angry, it is ok to be upset.

    Then box up (or archive messages) anything he has given you and to remove it from your sight.

    Reach out to your friends or family, they can be a wonderful support network at times like this.

    Don't watch sad/romantic films it will just make you cry again. Watch something funny.

    Delete them from social media and all your devices.

    Move on with your life but be aware you are in a vulnerable state and don't get involved with anyone else too soon.

    Most importantly, don't assume that it is your fault. The chances are they just didn't know how to tell you it was over and ghosting seemed easier and it was.......for them.

    Finally, forgive them, if you keep bearing a grudge and keep re-hashing those negative feelings you are just inviting them to move in to your head and you don't need that as it will tarnish future relationships.

    Sorry you are going through this but it will get better

    Friend request sent. Such a wise answer.
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    Not enough information to tell...

    How well did you know each other?

    If not very well, some people just find it easier to disappear rather than be honest. I'm not saying it's right, but that's what they do.

    If you knew each other well, one of two things - something may have happened to them, or they are a coward.
  • kschwab0203
    kschwab0203 Posts: 610 Member
    emdeesea wrote: »
    Not enough information to tell...

    How well did you know each other?

    If not very well, some people just find it easier to disappear rather than be honest. I'm not saying it's right, but that's what they do.

    If you knew each other well, one of two things - something may have happened to them, or they are a coward.

    This.

    I have to admit I have been guilty of as you call it "ghosting" someone, but I didn't really know them long and didn't feel that I owed an explanation. Plus it would have been weird.

    Do you know each other long? How serious was the relationship?
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Just find someone new. * shrug

    Why waste any amount of energy on a complete *kitten*?

    I consider myself an authority on this... because, well I'm a complete *kitten* too.

    I know how we think and how narcissistic we really are.

    He's just on to the next.

    Why not you too?



  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    Just move on

    Keep dating ten people and forget they existed
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
    novio50 wrote: »
    Time heals all wounds...

    "Time wounds all heels."
    -RAH
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    Angela937 wrote: »
    How do you deal with the emotions that go with being ghosted by someone you thought really cared for you?

    It depends on how much I cared for them. But usually I just drink lots of wine and drown my sorrows.

    ps. Don't take my advice I suck at life sometimes. B)
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