When you come across an ex...and you feel ok...

WannabeStressFree
WannabeStressFree Posts: 340 Member
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I was online last night, and as many social media sites try to "connect" you with ppl you might know...I came across an ex, then I Googled another one (I never do this), and I found out a few things my old self would be "devastated" to learn....it didn't bother me and I'm pleasantly surprised!

I'm feeling good today, I'm ok all by myself at the moment. It's a great feeling!
Has anyone had a good moment like this- it feels good! Who knew? I had avoided looking them up over fear I might be crushed, etc, but I'm in such a good mood today! yeah!

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  • caroldot
    caroldot Posts: 388 Member
    I do specifically remember the moment when someone mentioned my ex in conversation (we have mutual friends but have always managed to avoid each other in social situations) and I honestly didn't feel that little twinge in my stomach anymore. It felt soooo good to know I was finally past him and I truly want happiness for him. I accept we were on different paths and not meant to be. But I have to say it took over a year to get to that point!
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    I felt the same way at one time. Then I realized, I'm better off.
  • WannabeStressFree
    WannabeStressFree Posts: 340 Member
    me too! I felt nervous Googling- but I wanted to get over it completely I guess, and I did!
  • michellechawner
    michellechawner Posts: 892
    Been here!

    I'm actually still friends is one of mine. I see him once every few months, or run into him around town. He's single, and i'm in another long term relationship. It doesn't seem to bother him. And it doesn't bother me any either that he isn't with someone, or dating... we've really gotten to the point where we can be happy with the other decisions and still be just friends.

    Some others... not so much. But the way I look at it - i love my life right now. I have a great job, loving family, and although i'm not married like I hoped I would be by now, my boyfriend of nearly 3 years has talked about maybe getting married in the next year or so, and I'm ok with that.

    Another example - a friend of mine just found out she was pregnant for the first time at the age of 37. Normally, when I find out someone i know is pregnant, i throw a bit of a fit... yes, jealousy... (It should be me, why am i not married with a child, I've always wanted a family why the hell is someone one in the spotlight, when the hell is it going to be my turn?). However, this time, I wasn't like that at all. I think i've matured a bit lol. Just like you were able to google and see things and not feel any angst or depression or sadness!
  • Mcmilligen
    Mcmilligen Posts: 332 Member
    Hah, it really does help validate that you are indeed better off :)

    I've only gone as far as Facebook to see what my exes are up to (yes, we're all still Facebook friends, although I haven't spoken to any in person in years)

    One time though, a friend of mine saw my ex in Shoppers, and texted me about it immediately. Apparently he gained a bunch of weight, and looks pretty unhealthy now (he was a huge fitness geek when I was dating him, extremely well defined six pack and all). Although I felt bad (and hey, everyone gains weight every so often) for feeling a little happy from the fact that he's not doing so well... It did make me feel just a liiittle bit better about my current situation. ;)

    Yes yes. I'm a bad person. Heheh.

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