My daughter scoffed at...

leanjogreen18

my 125 lb goal weight.

I'm 5'4" 50 and I have 75 lbs to still lose. She seemed to indicate that my goal weight was way too low for me. It's in the middle of the bmi chart and I haven't weighed that since I was in my early 30s. She thinks at my age I would have trouble getting down that low and suggested I set it closer to the upper bmi her recommendation was 140.

If it matters my daughter is 5'5 approx 120 and a marathoner and does crossfit. She doesn't count calories just watches her weight with a 5 lb range.

Is she right is 125 an unrealistic goal for my age?

ETA - she wasn't mean about it just sincerely concerned that I have my expectations up too high.

graceanthony19

Its really what feels best for you. My 'normal' BMI says I can go as low as 115!!! I would look horrible at 115. I know that, for me, I start to not like how it looks once I get any lower than about 135.

kenyonhaff

Well, you have a long way to go...and I think she's just concerned that you may get discouraged if you set your sights too high. It's harder to lose weight as we...well, mature...but impossible, no.

robininfl

NO. This is not unrealistic. I am nearly 49, 5'9" and have no trouble maintaining 135ish.

My mom is over 70, 5'4" and maintains under 140, this is heavyish for her but she feels good at that weight.

There's no reason to prematurely decide you can't or shouldn't be some weight or other.

Just work out, eat moderately and see where you land. You know you still want to lose weight, see how you like 140 then if it's not right keep going. Really, you don't have to decide today what you want to end up weighing.

But hard no to telling you 125 at 5'4" is unrealistic based on age. It's not.

rainbowbow

This is not unrealistic.

She may just be used to you being larger.

This is a perfectly healthy weight for your height, so once you've gotten into a healthy BMI you can evaluate where you look and feel your best. If you want to start now with the "goal" of 125, that's perfectly fine and can be adjusted later!

nutmegoreo

I don't think it's unrealistic. Just be open to the idea that as you approach it, you may feel content elsewhere. Personally, my goal is the top of my BMI, but I intend to be fluid with it. Where ever you feel comfortable, sounds about right.

bbell1985

Not unrealistic. It depends on your body as well. I'm 5'4" and feel super tiny around 128. I'm 148 at the moment and think that looks alright too. You can decide as you go.

kgirlhart

I'm 48, 5'4.75" and 128. My goal was actually 135 but I unintentionally have gone lower and I don't think it is too low. I don't think your goal is unrealistic. But like others have said you may change it as you go. If you really like how you look and feel at 140 then you might want to stay there. But if you want to go to 125 then there is no reason you can't achieve that.

leanjogreen18

Thank you all. I was feeling just a little down after talking to her today but now I'm feeling much better!!!

ETA - not really down but just maybe needed reassurance that I wasn't being unrealistic. Thanks again!

ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken

You just might not like it when you arrive at 125. The good news is you can gain back if you prefer to do so. The way our bodies change sometimes means we may like our weight of 30 years ago less on our older frame. Just take it as you go. You may arrive at 130 or greater and feel that it looks and feels better than 125. Time will tell.

spzjlb

Well I lost 30 lbs when I was 50. I'm now 52, still at 125 and am also 5'4". I'm no anomaly! You can surely do it.

GottaBurnEmAll

By all rights, I should be 5'3", but my discs have degenerated and given me scoliosis, so I measure 5'1". Anyway, I'm 54, and weigh 116. I started losing weight when I was 52. I was 210 pounds.

I don't think you're being unrealistic at all.

JeromeBarry1

At 5'4", 125 is a healthy weight. Americans tend to think that healthy is too little. Maybe it's just projection.

leanjogreen18

JeromeBarry1 wrote: »

At 5'4", 125 is a healthy weight. Americans tend to think that healthy is too little. Maybe it's just projection.

She doesn't disagree its a healthy weight, she thinks as a 50 yr old with 75 more lbs to lose that its an unrealistic goal. But as some have mentioned here it is not so I'm still shooting for it:).

Sued0nim

It's a goal...you head downwards and reassess as you get closer and you watch your body change

You smile and nod at daughter

Kids, they know everything don't they

kami3006

Sued0nim wrote: »

It's a goal...you head downwards and reassess as you get closer and you watch your body change

You smile and nod at daughter

Kids, they know everything don't they

Yes, sounds like the typical young person who hasn't quite learned that 50 is not old.

ninerbuff

leanjogreen18 wrote: »

my 125 lb goal weight.

I'm 5'4" 50 and I have 75 lbs to still lose. She seemed to indicate that my goal weight was way too low for me. It's in the middle of the bmi chart and I haven't weighed that since I was in my early 30s. She thinks at my age I would have trouble getting down that low and suggested I set it closer to the upper bmi her recommendation was 140.

If it matters my daughter is 5'5 approx 120 and a marathoner and does crossfit. She doesn't count calories just watches her weight with a 5 lb range.

Is she right is 125 an unrealistic goal for my age?

ETA - she wasn't mean about it just sincerely concerned that I have my expectations up too high.

One of my clients at 55 and 5'3 got down to 111lbs for a contest and is now at 115lbs.............with abs.
Mind you, she had to work really hard for it and genetics played a part too as showing defined abs for females isn't an easy thing to do.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

AnnPT77

At 5'5" and age 59/60, I got down to 120 without undue difficulty, losing 63 pounds. It took about 10-11 months, losing more quickly at first, but slowly at the end. In fact, I overshot goal and hit 116, so had to work my way back up a little.

Whether 125 is the right weight for you is up to you, but you can assess that much more easily when it gets closer. Many things enter into that decision: Ease of attaining, ease of maintaining, body type, how you feel, health markers (blood pressure, blood lipids, etc.), appearance preferences, and more.

Absent symptoms of body dysmorphia, no one should need to tell you. You'll know.

dutchandkiwi

Not unrealistic at all. I am now entering the middle part of my BMI. I am 48 and 1.60m (about 5"3)
I am taking the slow route and it has taken me nearly 3 years to get here. Conscious choice, it does not matter to me that it takes longer. I enjoy the ride.
I adjusted my goal weight several times. I am now on my fourth goal. Working my way down into effectively uncharted territory - I am now at a weight that I was at 18. Not been lower than that as an adult.

What weight it right for you is for you to decide - not anybody else. It may be out of concern, but chances are she did not know you really at your goal weight and therefore has no insight as to why that point may be important to you

LivingtheLeanDream

When you get a bit closer to your goal you might feel differently, you'll know yourself when you get to a certain weight and are happy with how you look, in the mean time just keep on losing.

I'm 2 inches shorter and maintain at 126-128lb and am very slim (I wear a UK size 8/10) - I'm in my late 40s now. In my teens/early 20s I was averaging 120lbs yet I'm two dress sizes smaller now than I was then.... having lots of muscle tone accounts for me being smaller in size. So the weight on the scale isn't everything

trigden1991

This highlights exactly why I never discuss weight loss, diet or fitness with people. You focus on your goals and let other people do their own thing.