Am I trying too hard?

naterciarodrigues58

Thanks for all the replies. I always said that I didn't want to go on a "diet" this time, and found myself completely terrified of something I used to love so much. Did not like the feeling.

I will work on this in the future :flowerforyou:

mercurysfire

i know how you feel and i did the same for a while. it's hard to get used to when you go from eating whatever whenever to counting everything and strict control. but you have to let loose every once in a while, and i promise as long as you tighten back up the next day or two you'll be fine. if he wants pizza, maybe lay a few ground rules like no extra large carnivore nightmares with extra extra cheese. just enough for the both of you to enjoy the pizza goodness and maybe enough for him to take to work for lunch the next day. he orders, NO extras like garlic bread or whatever. or go to a pizza by the slice shop and celebrate out of the house.

you have to learn how to eat and live at the same time. which means like any other skill, you have to practice. and you might fail sometimes. as long as you get back at it instead of letting it beat you into submission you win. it does get easier. it gets more natural. it becomes habit rather than an obstacle. it's awesome that he didn't get pouty about it. and it's sooo hard because food is so ingrained in our psyche as a means of celebration.

BUT you have to take this at a pace that makes sense to you and that you are comfortable. with. i gave myself panic attacks for a while when we had to eat out. especially if it was a local place that didn't have nutritional data. eventually i was able to relax, not panic, and pick out the most reasonable thing on the menu (FYI- beware of Chili's. seriously...) take your time. do what you feel like you need to but realize that there's only failure if you throw in the towel completely. if you have a bad day you have one. but you're never going to not need to eat and there's more occasions to eat than not. baby steps. so what you have to until you can trust yourself to do it without fear. and forgive yourself for those times when you screw up.

jackjackattck

Like many people on this post have already said, you need to find a diet that fits into your lifestyle. It is impractical for most people to cut out ALL junk food, no pizza, chocolate, cake at a party, wings and beer on game night, for all eternity! The trick that I have found is that when situations come up or I have a craving, I eat it, just in moderation. If you cut out pizza for the rest of your life, yes someday you are bound to binge and eat 3000+ calories. However, if you eat a salad first and then 1-2 slices of pizza on a special occasion, the next time pizza comes up, you won't be salivating at the thought. I allow myself one glass of wine a night as well as a small piece of chocolate, and this saves me from drinking an entire bottle of wine or having 15 pieces of chocolate in one sitting. Balance is a large part of life and a healthy diet. You need to develop a healthier relationship with food, and allow yourself to give in to those special moments, just not over do it. What would a baseball game be without beer and a hot dog? Or a birthday party without one slice of cake? I honestly can't imagine a life without those indulgences! To me, it would be a boring and deprived life, not a healthy and happy one.

Good luck!

prattiger65

You did good. It seems like overkill, but if you haven't gotten to your goal weight and developed a proven record of maintenance you're right to avoid foods that will prompt a lot of bad eating.

Nonsense

jackjackattck

You did good. It seems like overkill, but if you haven't gotten to your goal weight and developed a proven record of maintenance you're right to avoid foods that will prompt a lot of bad eating.

Nonsense

^^This! What good is a "diet" of restricting going to do once she DOES achieve her goal weight and then goes back to eating NORMAL again? She will gain the weight right back. Never do anything while trying to lose weight that you cannot continue in maintenance.

mirrinias

In this situation I would have tried to make some kind of compromise. Luckily, pizza isn't a trigger food for me, although I do want it sometimes. A few options would have been to let him order his own pizza but order a personal pizza for you, or buy a lean cuisine pizza (surprisingly good). A third option would have been to order a thin-crust pizza, which drastically reduces the calories per slice. I ordered a thin crust veggie pizza and ended up eating four pieces each day for two days and still lost weight. It's about management. And, if your calories are still under maintenance, you won't gain weight from it. At the worst you'll stay the same or gain a little water weight which is temporary.

That being said, I have to turn down all chocolate ice cream. I still can't handle it. Although I did eat chocolate yesterday for the first time in a couple weeks and it didn't trigger cravings!