Can I get some people to help motivate me

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,568 Member
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    _benjammin wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    If you need pushing, then you're really not wanting to do it. Motivation is internal. You can get all the inspiring, cheering on, etc, but if you really don't want to do it, it may not happen anyway.
    That's harsh. A motivational support system is a tremendous help for success.
    That's why alcoholics, drug addicts and cigarette smokers fail many times. Everyone wants them to stop, but if the person doesn't want to, it ain't gonna happen, even if given all the correct information and the benefits, as well as supportive help, etc.


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  • ninerbuff
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    JoeMacCready wrote: »
    _benjammin wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    If you need pushing, then you're really not wanting to do it. Motivation is internal. You can get all the inspiring, cheering on, etc, but if you really don't want to do it, it may not happen anyway.
    That's harsh. A motivational support system is a tremendous help for success.

    I agree. He has it backwards; motivation is external, inspiration is internal.
    People or idols inspire people to do things. If someone is truly motivated (internal), nothing stops them from achieving what they are shooting for. Look up any success book and you'll get it.


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  • Cylphin60
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    @f4istunter4 - I sent you a friend request as well. Consistency is key - new methods will become habit after a time, and it's always good to have support when you log in. :)
  • Cylphin60
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
    _benjammin wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    If you need pushing, then you're really not wanting to do it. Motivation is internal. You can get all the inspiring, cheering on, etc, but if you really don't want to do it, it may not happen anyway.
    That's harsh. A motivational support system is a tremendous help for success.
    That's why alcoholics, drug addicts and cigarette smokers fail many times. Everyone wants them to stop, but if the person doesn't want to, it ain't gonna happen, even if given all the correct information and the benefits, as well as supportive help, etc.


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    Well, he did create a thread asking for help, and clarified exactly what he's looking for when approached about it. I think that counts as "Wants it." :)
  • Flyeaglesfly8630
    Flyeaglesfly8630 Posts: 39 Member
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    DROP THE WIFE that's crazy man then enjoy life if you want to bulk do it if not don't it takes dedication and years to have a bulk physical appearance you can do it but YOU have to want it for YOU no one else
  • ninerbuff
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    Cylphin60 wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    _benjammin wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    If you need pushing, then you're really not wanting to do it. Motivation is internal. You can get all the inspiring, cheering on, etc, but if you really don't want to do it, it may not happen anyway.
    That's harsh. A motivational support system is a tremendous help for success.
    That's why alcoholics, drug addicts and cigarette smokers fail many times. Everyone wants them to stop, but if the person doesn't want to, it ain't gonna happen, even if given all the correct information and the benefits, as well as supportive help, etc.


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    Well, he did create a thread asking for help, and clarified exactly what he's looking for when approached about it. I think that counts as "Wants it." :)
    Lots of people "desire" to play the piano. Now are they really doing anything to achieve that or is it just talk? There's a difference. If someone REALLY wanted to play the piano, they go take piano lessons and practice everyday.

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  • Cylphin60
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Cylphin60 wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    _benjammin wrote: »
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    If you need pushing, then you're really not wanting to do it. Motivation is internal. You can get all the inspiring, cheering on, etc, but if you really don't want to do it, it may not happen anyway.
    That's harsh. A motivational support system is a tremendous help for success.
    That's why alcoholics, drug addicts and cigarette smokers fail many times. Everyone wants them to stop, but if the person doesn't want to, it ain't gonna happen, even if given all the correct information and the benefits, as well as supportive help, etc.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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    Well, he did create a thread asking for help, and clarified exactly what he's looking for when approached about it. I think that counts as "Wants it." :)
    Lots of people "desire" to play the piano. Now are they really doing anything to achieve that or is it just talk? There's a difference. If someone REALLY wanted to play the piano, they go take piano lessons and practice everyday.

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    When someone approaches you for coaching, do you give them a chance to show up for the first scheduled appointment or just assume they aren't going to?

    The man said he already started, yet he comes into this thread and sees reasons why that isn't good enough. That's not very motivating. ;)

    I'm satisfied with my take on this. I sent him a FR and he accepted, and I'll do what I can to support someone asking for help. Others are welcome to their own views on it.

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