Weight loss Saboteurs

bluecrush84

Hi guys,

Recently people have been talking about my weight loss at work, home, yoga class. I have lost 60 something pounds last year. An average of 2lbs per week.

Back story:

So I was a little obese last year, had a back pain/injury, and started having trouble breathing, especially just doing minor activities.

I have yo-yo dieted most of my life. My family especially always had something to say about my weight to the point of insults, taunts, food policing. I would diet, then like clock work I had family encouraging me to eat. Then I would go back to my over eating, then gain the weight back. Then would be criticized for failing at my diet.

But this time around I have stuck to taking care of my body and losing this weight slow and steady.


At work some dude asked me when I had my baby....I have no kids...and barely knew the guy.

All the while I was obese, no one at work said anything about their concern for my health.

Now things have changed...people keep testing me

now at home and work I get remarks I should stop losing weight. Or I am 'so thin.' I am average size now with some loose skin and rolls. My family all of a sudden wants to eat out more and more....and they buy junk foods I loved to eat. when I was obese they never wanted to eat out. At work people push food on me and encourage me to eat. I had a co-worker come up to me with all seriousness say 'do not lose anymore weight.' she was imploring me stop losing.

I am tired of people policing me about my weight.

I feel healthier now and I have my personal goals for losing weight. I still have 20 something pounds to lose and I would be well into a healthy BMI.

I am tired of people commenting on my weight loss and I am worried the more I get fit....this will get worse.

I feel like they all want me to go back to being overweight so they can continue to criticize or take jabs at me.

I know I should ignore them, but I get comments a lot.


Thanks for reading my rant


I just have to remind myself this is for me, no one else.

cahubbard6421

Take it in stride. There will always be people out there who just don't get it. There will also be people out there that actively want you to fail because in some way they are jealous of the success you're having. You're doing fantastic and will absolutely keep it up.

neldabg

As hard as it may be, ignore them and continue working hard for your health. I've fortunately never had people actively try and get me to eat more as I lost weight, but I've dealt with the annoying "too skinny" comments, even when I was at the high end of a healthy BMI. I was nicer to family and friends who used to make comments, but I ignored or gave not-so-nice replies to everyone else.
If people don't keep quiet, be more direct and firm and tell them that you will not tolerate comments about your weight.
Also, I strongly believe that sharing blood is not enough to make people family. If your family hinders you in areas in addition to weight loss, perhaps it is time to keep away from them.

suruda

I think it's peoples' own insecurities about their weight that makes them do that. You are strong, you have had great success in your weight loss! Now you just have to work on tuning them out.

ninerbuff

Sabotage would be offering you some they claim is healthy but isn't.
Trust that ANYONE who tries to do ANYTHING successfully will be deterred by people who aren't having the same success in their lives. It's human nature for people not to try to be "one upped" by someone else.
You do you. Worry about what others think and feel doesn't help you progress.

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loseweightbb

You are absolutely right to feel you need to do this for yourself - no one else. Perhaps a reply of "Thank you for your concern, but my goals are healthy ones & I'm feeling better than ever." Then just change the subject or walk away. Whether someone's motives are jealousy or genuine concern (some people have been known to take wt loss too far to unhealthy levels so maybe they're concerned you will), you need to focus on what you feel is right for you. 2 lbs a wk is certainly a healthy pace.

Have experienced myself the comments about my weight over the years. Also, it's not always direct comments that are hurtful - looks & snickers are too. Often very self-conscious these days about my big fat roll at my waist (worse since menopause). I've noticed some of my students (7th graders) making mocking gestures about it. Can't wait to slim it down again. More importantly, I know it's really unhealthy to have the extra wt in my waist now. Keep reminding myself that my health is what's most important, not the opinions of my students or anyone else.

Keep on track & remind yourself that you are making positive changes for YOURSELF. Eventually many of the people who are so opinionated will probably move on to something/someone else to comment on. Some people are also just busy-bodies by nature.

bluecrush84

Thank you all for your replies. You are right. I will keep Looking forward towards my goals, never backwards. I will tune them all out.

Lukdbestucan16

I know.I feel guilty for sometimes making funny comments at my friend who lost weigth. But honestly don't bw bothered juat go fir what you want..No one can make you feel best in the world except you.So why worry about others..

fiddletime

I've had two women friends who both went on a weight loss program a couple of years ago. Both became extremely thin. Both got sick for various reasons and gained some of it back. One said she had had bulimia and her new weight is much better. The other just said her new weight was also much healthier. They now look much healthier to me, and I have a critical eye.

I think some of your family is just concerned. Look at your BMI as you get to goal weight and make sure it's healthy. Then thank them for their concern. I bit my tongue and said nothing to my two friends, but was glad when I saw them both slightly heavier. It's a journey and if you do think you're slightly underweight, it's not like you can't gain a few pounds. This is YOUR journey, not theirs.

goldthistime

I know I have had to bite my tongue in a couple of instances when I've seen coworkers whose change in appearance (aka large amount of weight lost) seemed worrisome to me. It's inappropriate for them to comment, agreed, but I know my own thoughts were only thoughts of their well being, nothing more nefarious.