People that say rude comments that don't even notice it...

bmeadows380

1) I know it hurts - sometimes those of us, especially the ones who've been heavy their whole life, internalize things and interpret comments according to our own internal biases. But I think the others are right - the girls probably didn't mean anything against you personally.

And those who said you probably don't look like you weight what you do are right as well. My brother and I are like that; both of us are obese, but when we mention our actual weight to someone, they are usually shocked as they would have guess we were weight lighter than we actually are. However, that's a problem on the flip side too - when we manage to lose weight, we have to drop a significant amount before it becomes noticeable!

2) the guy was a jerk. Unfortunately, there are a lot of those types out there. Compassion and understanding aren't in vogue these days, sad to say. I was watching a couple of TED videos the other day from large women who are encouraging us as large people to be more accepting of ourselves, to be easier on ourselves, and to find joy in who we are as a person and quit evaluating our selfworth based on our body weight. The video was quite inspiring, but the comments below where horrible - people basically commenting that if you are fat, you don't deserve to be happy or even treated with any respect at all because by giving us affirmation or respect or compassion as a fat person, that would be "encouraging our unhealthy lifestyle."