Females opinions on this

ninerbuff

So I was listening to KGO (talk radio) and a business woman named Heather Monahan was the guest. And one of the things she said was that in the professional world, if a female goes into an interview at a company, men will be curious about her, but females will be offended by her. I'm like really?
Do women really feel some sense of insecurity when another female may be added to the professional staff?
Again this was her view as a business entrpeneur and coaching females for interviews.

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Hamsibian

I've never heard that before. Did she say how the insecurities manifested? I'm kind of curious.

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hapa11

That mean girl stuff never completely goes away but I'd say the ones offended have pretty low self-esteem. I would definitely say they are in the minority.

RoxieDawn

I have seen and experienced it both ways. Women can be catty everywhere you go. I have had great women mentors, really bad women bosses and supervisors. Insecurities I have seen arise when a new girl comes into territory that women feel is or can be a threat.

deluxmary2000

"Offended"?? That's such a weird choice of words.
No, I have never felt this way. I work in a very male-dominated field, so whenever a woman interviews or is hired, I'm pretty stoked to see a little more diversity.

Gimsteinn

I just tend to stay away from females.. I have a very bad experience and the only female boss I've had... got fired cause she said straight out: "I don't like women and I'm not gonna like you" to a female coworker.. So this might be true.. I don't know.. maybe ?
I honestly just feel very distrustful when a woman enters my life.. But I don't feel insecure or that I'm threatened, I just stay back and don't get attached

zdyb23456

deluxmary2000 wrote: »

"Offended"?? That's such a weird choice of words.
No, I have never felt this way. I work in a very male-dominated field, so whenever a woman interviews or is hired, I'm pretty stoked to see a little more diversity.

This is how I always felt. I just left my job last month and now I'm only around other moms, but for 18 years I worked with men with an occasional woman here or there.

DeficitDuchess

Gimsteinn wrote: »

I just tend to stay away from females.. I have a very bad experience and the only female boss I've had... got fired cause she said straight out: "I don't like women and I'm not gonna like you" to a female coworker.. So this might be true.. I don't know.. maybe ?
I honestly just feel very distrustful when a woman enters my life.. But I don't feel insecure or that I'm threatened, I just stay back and don't get attached

This' so true for, me but only if, they're attracted to; me. I've had 2 separate women tell me that, I need to get raped when; I didn't reciprocate their interest & sadly the, 2nd 1 I; knew had been.

ninerbuff

I believe she also said that if a female wanted another female out of the company, she would covertly go about doing it. Before she got off, they were talking about Trump's tweets about his daughter's clothing line being pulled and one of the female hosts and Heather got into a little debate that started to get a bit heated. I didn't get a chance to listen to her whole guest spot, but I believe it's on KGO's site. I'll have to check.

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Carbkiller1970

I don't gossip. Probably cause I don't care what other people do plays no factor in my life

JennyRATL

Haven't experienced this personally, have always gotten along well with female coworkers. I work mostly with men in IT and sadly don't generally have as many women in this particular field. But I think it depends.
Some women are territorial because they feel they've been taught to be tough in the workforce to "be like a man" and feel as if roles for women in a business are few enough as it is....
Some women would be bitchy if the candidate was attractive (jealous, insecure, catty, judgmental) but wouldn't care if the candidate was not as attractive.

I currently have a fantastic (female) boss.

TheRoadDog

Back in the 80's, I was dating a gal in Accounting. All the accountants were gals at the time. I used to take breaks with them. I noticed that if one of the gals wasn't at break, then that gal was the topic of the day.

I learned to never miss break. didn't want to be the topic of the day.

toned_thugs_n_harmony

bishes don't like other bishes stepping on their territory.

Bonny132

Some of my best managers have been female, so has my worst manager. Never had a bad experience at a job interview with females and I have also hired men and women. I judge people on their skills and if they will fit into the team. Weather they are male or female does not really matter.

lutzsher

Again you can't paint everyone with the same brush, but in my experience many women are more competitive, not just in business, but in general, which i think does go back to their own insecurities.

djwar9858

I've been in the nonprofit sector for 25 years. I learned a long time ago not to let yourself get caught up in the drama that goes on. I find it odd that people tend to flock to my office to spill their guts...about work, coworkers, their love lives, etc. I think it is perhaps because I don't encourage or judge. I simply listen.
On another note, I've been interviewing for new jobs and have found a bit of age discrimination going on.

cnadiger

I've noticed that the higher I go in position, the bishier the other women get. Probably because it's still somewhat unusual to find a woman in the executive group in this male dominated industry and the idea of being the only woman is kinda empowering. Don't want another alpha bish in the pack!!

amandaeve

I have never noticed anything like this, nor have any of my female friends. Although I am not an office professional. Unless she surveyed women or is a industrial psychologist with research to back up her opinions I would say her experience would be limited to her industry or location.

ericatoday

Some women yes. Its a territory thing to some. I don't think its offended or insecurities. Just a territory thing.

Gimsteinn

@toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »

bishes don't like other bishes stepping on their territory.

Yes.. That's one of the reason they're bishes. But then we have the girls who don't really play that game... And they end up as the easiest target.

rugratz2015

ninerbuff wrote: »

I believe she also said that if a female wanted another female out of the company, she would covertly go about doing it.

In my opinion experience it wasn't done covertly and was a very expensive mistake for the company.

ninerbuff wrote: »

So I was listening to KGO (talk radio) and a business woman named Heather Monahan was the guest. And one of the things she said was that in the professional world, if a female goes into an interview at a company, men will be curious about her, but females will be offended by her. I'm like really?
Do women really feel some sense of insecurity when another female may be added to the professional staff?
Again this was her view as a business entrpeneur and coaching females for interviews.

Some people are naturally insecure and others are bi@tches. Regardless of their roles.

The woman is entitled to her opinion but, on the understanding this isn't a 'one off' then as she isn't sitting in the interviews then it's not actually an informed opinion ...

cwolfman13

I've worked in a professional office environment going on 13 years...I'm not sure that "offended" is the right word, but in my years I've noticed that ladies seem to be rather catty and talk behind each others backs a lot while putting on a "friend" front when they're together...actually I've seen this with ladies who otherwise do seem to be good friends.

I've also noticed that there seems to be "problems" when a new hire is also kind of up there on the attractiveness scale...the other attractive ladies don't seem too pleased.

mitch16

Women in the workplace can be downright evil. I worked in a group of ~20 where 17 of us were women--the backstabbing/cattiness was unbelievable. I now work in a small group (5) with 3 men and another woman--so much happier now!

toned_thugs_n_harmony

Gimsteinn wrote: »

@toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »

bishes don't like other bishes stepping on their territory.

Yes.. That's one of the reason they're bishes. But then we have the girls who don't really play that game... And they end up as the easiest target.

yup! i work in a majority female field and it's ridiculous how much cattiness there is.

ninerbuff

My DW is an electrical engineer amongst many men in the same field. From my understanding she's treated quite well since it is a government job. One of the people she collaborates with at Lockheed (who's also female) doesn't get quite the same treatment.

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katjennings

I've worked as teacher and as an engineer in the construction industry. The women are as professional as the men. I will say that women in general are seen in a more negative light for minor things. Also, I find men more likely to gossip especially about sex. The construction industry is close knit and people travel all over the country. You know everyone.

strozman

138shades wrote: »

I tend to be the only guy working in my departments etc............it a strain listening to women talk about each other all the time.

I know those feels

kwph

What???U can't call them their gender? Wtf is going on ...

NewlifeinNW

Social acceptability is overrated