My weight loss motivation - includes my ex

readytobeatfat54

I had been dating someone steadily for a few months, it had been going well. Like any relationship we had some highs and some lows, but overall everything seemed highly positive. Towards the end I found myself getting told, "go to the gym every night this week" or "did you really need dessert?" Such comments hurt. I carried my weight well, but I still carried it. You can imagine how the relationship didn't continue much longer after these comments started. It still hurts me to think about these comments, but c'est la vie.

Looking back, I realize I had been in a caustic relationship, one in which I found myself stifled if not put down greatly and often. But as with most things in life, I also view it as a great learning opportunity, and perhaps a wake up call. Aside from dating, I learned that I do need to get my health in check--not for any relationship, but for myself. Health includes the gamete: weight loss, increased fruits and vegetables, high fiber and regular BMs (sorry to get gross!), regular exercise and daily walking, more reading and less time on social media unless for productivity (so myfitnesspal gets cleared!), and overall mental well being, including getting involved in my community. I can't believe it took dating the bottom of the barrel (good looking, but such a scum personality) to get me to realize this. Nonetheless I am happy that I have realized it at all.

As for this site, I joined it in the past and then never used it. I want to. I know I'm not alone when I say that at times I just feel like eating 1000 calories or more and doing nothing more than watching TV. On cold dreary days where I feel like doing nothing, my go to reaction had been to order Chinese (and not from the 'healthy menu portion') and just curl up on the couch. From now on I want to get my life in check. I want to use this site as a tool to help me. I want to hear advice and comments, and I want to offer them as well.

Anyway, thank you for allowing me to introduce myself, and I welcome any creative comments, advice, or suggestions. Aside from more exercise and a healthier lifestyle, I have no way to track my weight, so I will be purchasing a scale. Not looking to break the bank, but suggestions appreciated!

Spartan_Gingi

Welcome!! If I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to LOG WITH TOTAL ACCURACY! It's sooo critical to success! Also, get some friends on here, develop a strong support group (you're welcome to friend me if you want)! Sometimes, it's a huge motivation when I log in first thing in the morning and see all the healthy shenanigans that my MFP friends have already been up to.

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socalrock

Don't weight yourself every day. things like water weight, and undigested food can throw off scale readings, I weigh in every tuesday in the morning before eating or drinking anything and I would recommend the same, (day of the week up to you obviously) good luck

readytobeatfat54

Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »

Good for you for not allowing someone with a hallow shell for a head to make you feel like less of a human.

It's all too easy to fall into the trap of "so-in-so called me fat", thereby feeling bad and causing myself to eat. I wish people who didn't struggle with weight could realize that it's not as simple as "eat less and exercise more", the emotional aspect of eating has little to do with an "eat less, exercise more" mentality. Sure, I want to get in shape, but when I'm feeling glum my go to has generally been to eat. No diet can correct that. But a focus on healthy lifestyle certainly can help to learn new coping mechanisms.