still feeling bad....

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Kkangel21
Kkangel21 Posts: 46 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Only this time it's because I know I haven't done well, but it doesn't help that my fiancé is taking a picture of my stomach, while I am sitting here, bc he apparently doesn't think I know I am fat.

I am trying, it's hard, and I don't need him making me feel worse. I haven't done as well as I would have hoped, but for him to stoop that low hurts. really really hurts.
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  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
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    I'm confused. He took a picture of you and you think it's because he's trying to document how large you are?

    I think you're projecting.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
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    Is he being a jerk or just trying to be funny? Either way it sucks, but is he really trying to make you feel badly? He asked you to marry him right?
  • Rilzy
    Rilzy Posts: 59 Member
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    Did he tell you that he was taking a photo of you so that you could see how fat you are?
  • bakingforlife
    bakingforlife Posts: 132 Member
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    Heres one for you ,he told me to suck my gut in .why ?......sounds silly but have no idea why he would come sit down by me and then say that!!!!
  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
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    Soooo why are you choosing to marry him again?

    If he's being verbally abusive toward you about your weight, methinks it's time to drop him.
  • kherrons
    kherrons Posts: 99 Member
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    Soooo why are you choosing to marry him again?

    If he's being verbally abusive toward you about your weight, methinks it's time to drop him.

    ^^ this. Never settle just because you don't thinks you'll ever do better. I would have smacked that ***hole in the throat.
  • greatwestescape
    greatwestescape Posts: 49
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    You need to tell him outright that it really hurts your self esteem when he does things like that. Confront him and stand your ground. Sometimes people don't realize they are being jerks because to them, something like weight has never been an issue or concern. If he cares about you, he will apologize and make you feel better. If you brood about it, and talk about it to everyone else except him, you can't expect anything to change!
  • Rilzy
    Rilzy Posts: 59 Member
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    Soooo why are you choosing to marry him again?

    If he's being verbally abusive toward you about your weight, methinks it's time to drop him.

    ^^ this. Never settle just because you don't thinks you'll ever do better. I would have smacked that ***hole in the throat.

    This is why I asked the OP to tell us if he specifically said he was doing this. There's also the chance that she is projecting.
  • greatwestescape
    greatwestescape Posts: 49
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    +1

    This is why I asked the OP to tell us if he specifically said he was doing this. There's also the chance that she is projecting.
  • splutschak
    splutschak Posts: 17
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    you need a man who will love you no matter what!!! through thick and thin! you deserve SO much better!
  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
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    Redacted!

    I need to learn how to read names.
  • kherrons
    kherrons Posts: 99 Member
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    My response was to the sucking in the gut part. To me that doesn't sound acceptable for any reason. I completely believe some women have a lot of things going on that are "only in their heads."
  • kherrons
    kherrons Posts: 99 Member
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    She just described how he tells her to suck in her gut. Thus why I waited to say anything drastic. :flowerforyou:

    +1
  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
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    Herrons, we got the wrong chick!

    :laugh:
  • kherrons
    kherrons Posts: 99 Member
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    Herrons, we got the wrong chick!

    :laugh:

    I take back all I said and now I'm going to get my *** off these boards cause clearly I can't read and have a bad case of foot in mouth :laugh: but for the girl who said the gut thing, seriously, smack him in the throat
  • Kkangel21
    Kkangel21 Posts: 46 Member
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    he took the pic bc he thought i was gaining again. He wanted to help me see for myself i was looking large again. So frustrated. But it apparently wasn't malcious.
  • nomeejerome
    nomeejerome Posts: 2,616 Member
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    :huh:
  • HerpDerp745
    HerpDerp745 Posts: 223 Member
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    It sounds like he's really worried about you. How much have you let yourself go?
  • adorable_aly
    adorable_aly Posts: 398 Member
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    Men sometimes have weird ways of showing that they are concerned. Sometimes they are not the most sensitive, but most of the time well intentioned. Maybe that's what is happening here?

    And well some of them are just idiots.
  • Kkangel21
    Kkangel21 Posts: 46 Member
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    we have been together 13 yrs, i have had 3 kids with him. I went from 125 when we met / 22
    to 60 lbs heavier.

    It is his way of being concerned i guess.

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