Living away from your spouse/life partner.

distinctlybeautiful

Under what circumstances, if any, would you freely choose to live far away from your spouse or life partner to whom you're happily married or committed?

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tmanfromtexas

For a lot of people it is their job. I have been working away from home for years.

MrStabbems

if the opportunity arose.

distinctlybeautiful

@happilymegan In what case do you think your partner being in the military would cause you to want to live apart?

@newmeadow I'm not sure I understand. If they're being held against their will, where does the choice come in?

@tmanfromtexas Do y'all live apart completely, or do you just work away, causing you to be gone a lot?

Timshel_

There are all kinds of short and long temporary life circumstances that might have you living apart. They are never wanted but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

If you are actively seeking separation, that is completely different.

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kwph

If we don't like the same shows

KyleGrace8

I'd only deal with it if it was for their or my job. I'd rather have my lover with me every day though. I don't understand why someone would choose to live far away if it wasn't for a job, education or sick family.

Chieflrg

distinctlybeautiful wrote: »

Under what circumstances, if any, would you freely choose to live far away from your spouse or life partner to whom you're happily married or committed?

Far away is relative to the individual's thoughts. I never heard of one relationship that everybody involved was with each other 24/7.

If I love the person and we are happy, then we aren't far away from each other.

VeryKatie

Only if it was short term and temporary. But I doubt either of us would choose that.

tmanfromtexas

distinctlybeautiful wrote: »

@happilymegan In what case do you think your partner being in the military would cause you to want to live apart?

@newmeadow I'm not sure I understand. If they're being held against their will, where does the choice come in?

@tmanfromtexas Do y'all live apart completely, or do you just work away, causing you to be gone a lot?

I just work away. I go home and she comes here on a regular basis. It works for us.

Motorsheen

MrStabbems wrote: »

if the opportunity arose.

Boy Howdy!

sarraheclark

My fiance (now husband) and I did it for 3+ years when he went back to school. 900 miles is a long way but it was something he needed to do for himself. I wasn't ready to make the move, but we both agreed we were up for the challenge.

I have always felt that you have to be good for yourself to be good for someone else. The long-distance relationship proved that for me, but it may not be true for everyone. I am extremely independent; sometimes it can be a personality flaw.

cbstewart88

My husband and I got married a couple of years ago. We are both in our 60s. He already had a home he loved, I have one I love. About 10 miles apart. He is retired, I still work. He comes here Friday-Monday, goes back to his house during the week while I am working. We LOVE it.... we get our space and our weekends are like honeymoons!

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bizgirl26

2 homes side by side with conjugal visits :0

jennybearlv

My husband can move away as long as he keeps paying the mortgage. I've been married for ten years. I could use a vacay.

Timshel_

bizgirl26 wrote: »

2 homes side by side with conjugal visits :0

Not too close, now.

EZDUZIT68

I'm sorry - is this a trick question? You had me daydreaming for like an hour thinking through the possibilities...

CharlieTheMujc

I am in a long distance relationship for over 8 years now (4 of them marriage), and it seems to be working out just fine. For us, the reason is job. I would of course like to live with him, but for both of us, our jobs are important, and moving in would mean that one of us made the sacrifice of not doing the job anymore, and we are not ready for that. So we keep on keeping on, and of course there are rough periods, but mostly it's ok.

distinctlybeautiful

Thanks for all the responses! I live on an army base in Germany, and I hear about spouses going back home to live in the states while the soldier stays over here for up to three years. I just can't fathom voluntarily spending that much time living apart from my husband. That's all, but to each his own.

Glasscandle

Have been in a commuter relationship (3 hr drive) 10 years because jobs in different universities. Trade weekends back & forth. Difficult but continues to survive.

4BabiesStrong

Yeah, the only reason I would live apart is for military mission, like I am on now. I only choose a year and would not do any longer. I also would miss my children. I need their laughter and smiles in my life. It is hard to not see them everyday, when you normally are there since they were born. It is hard. But sometimes it is necessary.

kwph

I spend hours in the bathroom, so I totally relate ..By the time I come out were like total strangers 2 each other

ddeliciosa

Right now I'm in grad school on the east coast and my boyfriend of 4 years is a pilot in the midwest. We both started working on our careers at the same time, and unfortunately neither of us were really willing to budge when it meant putting school or work on hold to be together. We did break up for about ~3-4 months but got back together. Do I want to live away from him? Absolutely not. I would choose living far away and being with him than not having him at all. I think our mutual motivation to better ourselves though really fuels the relationship. I'm 100% invested in him and one day starting a family but there's so much more to me than that.

kwph

It's funny cuz alot if couples I know may live 2ghtr,but they're in separate rooms watching TV ,some sleep in separate beds (which I'm not opposed 2) The guys got the man cave etc .....So they may reside at the same house, but live 2 separate lives under the same roof .....