My body is weird

wellthenwhat
wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I don't think I have a completely healthy relationship with food, when I was in school I went through a lot of trauma, and it was one of my only comforts. But anyway. I tend to binge on weekends, mostly psychological, I'm usually at my mom's a little bored, and she has lots of great food around. I went over my calories both days, and was so full I felt sick both days. (if I estimated right, it was only a couple hundred, and definitely less than 1000 over, but I felt so full my stomach hurt) even though I was full, and uncomfortable, I kept eating. Monday, I only ate around 850 calories if I counted right, and I was pretty careful. I wasn't trying to keep it that low, just wasn't interested in food. Today all I have had this morning was coffee sweetened with a hot chocolate pack, and it filled me up, I have no interest in food at all at the moment. I don't understand why I have such an intense urge to keep eating even after I'm overfull at her place.

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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    You could look at your weekly calorie consumption instead of just daily. On the app I believe you go to nutrition and weekly and can see a bar chart of your calories for the week.
    Some people choose to eat less calories during the weekdays and have more calories for weekends. Search the message board for banking calories.
    If you ate quite a bit a couple of days and did not change your activity level it probably is natural to be less hungry for a day or two. Your body isn't weird.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    There really is nothing wrong with eating the way you describe if you still keep a calorie deficit overall, except for the fact that you don't seem happy with eating this way. If you are bored at your mom's try and find something you enjoy doing. Read, take up a hobby, play a game or go for a walk. Whatever entertains your. Boredom eating isn't weird.
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    I'm the same way at my parents house. There is all this food around that I usually don't have. I eat it like I'll never see it again. It's probably because instead of practicing moderation in my own home, I just don't have that hyper-palatable calorie dense food around...so my brain is like "get it while it lasts". I don't think it's healthy because it bothers me and is kind of bingey. It's a goal of my to overcome this. Baby steps.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    bbell1985 wrote: »
    I'm the same way at my parents house. There is all this food around that I usually don't have. I eat it like I'll never see it again. It's probably because instead of practicing moderation in my own home, I just don't have that hyper-palatable calorie dense food around...so my brain is like "get it while it lasts". I don't think it's healthy because it bothers me and is kind of bingey. It's a goal of my to overcome this. Baby steps.
    EXACTLY!!! Not to mention my dad eats everything in sight, so I have to get it quick or he'll literally eat it all. I'm trying to pace myself out a bit, but it's hard. Baby steps really are where it is.

  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    I know the boredom will get better once summer comes, because we'll be going out, and going swimming a lot.
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    bbell1985 wrote: »
    I'm the same way at my parents house. There is all this food around that I usually don't have. I eat it like I'll never see it again. It's probably because instead of practicing moderation in my own home, I just don't have that hyper-palatable calorie dense food around...so my brain is like "get it while it lasts". I don't think it's healthy because it bothers me and is kind of bingey. It's a goal of my to overcome this. Baby steps.
    EXACTLY!!! Not to mention my dad eats everything in sight, so I have to get it quick or he'll literally eat it all. I'm trying to pace myself out a bit, but it's hard. Baby steps really are where it is.

    I actually notice that I eat MORE than my family members when I'm there, and they're obese. They're just used to eating it every day...so they stop. I don't stop. I sneak it too when no one is around. It's kind of *kitten* up.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    It's almost an obsession, like now I'm done with this, what else can I eat? I hate it. I don't mind planned eating more on weekends, but this is really hard to control. I guess the first step is recognizing it, right? Also my stomach seems a lot smaller now than it used to be, so super full now would be just getting started before, lol
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
    There really is nothing wrong with eating the way you describe if you still keep a calorie deficit overall, except for the fact that you don't seem happy with eating this way. If you are bored at your mom's try and find something you enjoy doing. Read, take up a hobby, play a game or go for a walk. Whatever entertains your. Boredom eating isn't weird.

    I used to (and sometimes lapse back into) the same relationship with food. It's definitely comforting. Alcohol is even more so. Like you, I'll eat until I'm sick to my stomach. It's idiotic. I hate it. I am getting a little better at stopping it.

    I quoted Need2Exerc1se bc I like the last two sentences. My attitude toward work: not only do I make more money when I work; I also do not have the ability to spend money. Similarly, if you spend your spare time doing something even slightly active, not only are you burning more calories and creating more of a deficit, but you also aren't eating and decreasing the deficit.

    I think you need to experiment. A lot. I still haven't figured it out and I've been doing this fairly seriously for over the last six years. Good luck!
  • winejunky143
    winejunky143 Posts: 153 Member
    bbell1985 wrote: »
    I'm the same way at my parents house. There is all this food around that I usually don't have. I eat it like I'll never see it again. It's probably because instead of practicing moderation in my own home, I just don't have that hyper-palatable calorie dense food around...so my brain is like "get it while it lasts". I don't think it's healthy because it bothers me and is kind of bingey. It's a goal of my to overcome this. Baby steps.
    EXACTLY!!! Not to mention my dad eats everything in sight, so I have to get it quick or he'll literally eat it all. I'm trying to pace myself out a bit, but it's hard. Baby steps really are where it is.

    My sister was and is super skinny. Less than 5% BMI. Her metabolism is super fast and she has to eat a ton or her body will start eating itself basically. When we were kids she would eat so fast and so much so I tried to keep up and get food quick so that I could eat too. This resulted in me being overweight since my metabolism was and isn't as fast.. After she moved out I still found myself eating too much past the point of being full. It took a lot of discipline to get myself to stop and back to a healthy weight but it is possible to break the habit.
  • nickiphillips1
    nickiphillips1 Posts: 114 Member
    I have had some trouble with eating when I am bored and eating when I am stressed. This was a problem since I was a child.

    I would like to recommend that you talk to your doctor and see about getting some help. I have stuffed my feelings into food for many years. I have MS and got sick with severe depression about 5 years ago. I got help and did an outpatient treatment center for a few weeks. I am still on anti-depressants.

    I have found other ways to deal with my feelings instead of eating. It is a daily struggle, but I am so much happier.

    You even mention that you don't have a healthy relationship with food. Please reach out for help. Life doesn't have to be this way.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    I have had some trouble with eating when I am bored and eating when I am stressed. This was a problem since I was a child.

    I would like to recommend that you talk to your doctor and see about getting some help. I have stuffed my feelings into food for many years. I have MS and got sick with severe depression about 5 years ago. I got help and did an outpatient treatment center for a few weeks. I am still on anti-depressants.

    I have found other ways to deal with my feelings instead of eating. It is a daily struggle, but I am so much happier.

    You even mention that you don't have a healthy relationship with food. Please reach out for help. Life doesn't have to be this way.
    I agree that would be helpful. I have struggled with mild depression off and on as well, also due to the childhood trauma. I've never sought professional help as an adult, because it's never affected my life severely enough to justify the expense.

  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    I have had some trouble with eating when I am bored and eating when I am stressed. This was a problem since I was a child.

    I would like to recommend that you talk to your doctor and see about getting some help. I have stuffed my feelings into food for many years. I have MS and got sick with severe depression about 5 years ago. I got help and did an outpatient treatment center for a few weeks. I am still on anti-depressants.

    I have found other ways to deal with my feelings instead of eating. It is a daily struggle, but I am so much happier.

    You even mention that you don't have a healthy relationship with food. Please reach out for help. Life doesn't have to be this way.
    I agree that would be helpful. I have struggled with mild depression off and on as well, also due to the childhood trauma. I've never sought professional help as an adult, because it's never affected my life severely enough to justify the expense.

    Ditto. Things got bad enough this fall that I seriously started looking for professional help, but life started chilling out a bit and I started feeling more normal...I still think it would be worthwhile at least for me, to speak to someone.
  • xsmilexforxmex
    xsmilexforxmex Posts: 1,216 Member
    It could be the specific cue of being at your mom's house that triggers your overeating - check this out:
    http://charlesduhigg.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/A-guide-to-changing-habits.pdf
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    bbell1985 wrote: »

    Ditto. Things got bad enough this fall that I seriously started looking for professional help, but life started chilling out a bit and I started feeling more normal...I still think it would be worthwhile at least for me, to speak to someone.
    It was getting worse, but then my work situation changed, and I'm a lot happier because of that. Also spring coming, and I don't feel so stuck inside.

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