Best ways to meet people
From_Within_
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Alright, be honest - how do you meet people? And what's the reason behind it.. sex? Friendship? I would love hear the best story you have meeting people if ya wanna throw that in there.
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Everyone I know I've either met when we were kids, met in school, met through friends or met online. People in my town are either old or on crack.6
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Sports leagues.1
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I wish I knew too ! I seriously have NO friends! A couple of online acquaintences, a couple of estranged dear friends. I need chick friends! ☹️2
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I tried using Meetup, just to get out and get involved with something, but the meetups around here are lame.2
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I practically live between one gym or another.. Most of my friends are around the gym!
That and I've had a few clients in the past that have turned into awesome friends (I even broke the golden rule of not dating a client a couple of times..)
I think that generally we meet people and interact with people we have similar interests with.
As for what to meet people for - never been a 'short term' 'one night only' guy myself - I value bonds and I don't trust easily so, when I look for 'more' I basically look for the female version of myself.2 -
I have no social life. My shyness and awkwardness keep me away from having RL "friends". Most of my friend are in my pocket... sad I know lol but to be fair, most RL people suck. My imaginary friends are awesome!5
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I have one friend and he lives in another country, I have people I know, but no one I would consider close.2
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I meet people through common interests. I skate so I've lots of friends through that. I curl, I've made friends there. I have neighbourhood friends because a e we have Kids and live in the same hood.
I have my friends I make randomly, like the guy who worked at the local drugstore and I see around town. Just be open and friendly and talk to people2 -
I don't meet people on my own. I get introduced. I'm an introvert, and not very approachable I guess. And I'm not the type to make the first move. I'm not ugly, so I think I must appear intimidating in some way. I can count the number of times someone has "hit on" me in my lifetime on one hand.
Before my husband and I met, his best friend and my best friend got married. My future husband was stationed abroad at the time, so he wasn't at the wedding. They kept telling me how perfect this guy was for me, so I was intrigued. A year or so later when he was back in town, they finally introduced the two of us. And it was an instant and perfect match. That's how I met my husband.
In terms of friends, same thing. I'm friendly, but in such a casual, standoffish way that I'm just not good at making friends. I haven't made any new friends in well over a decade. Haven't really felt the need. I wonder what it would even be like to try. I have several acquaintances, but I have very few friends - like two, and one of those is my sister. It's a lot of work to maintain fulfilling, meaningful, worthwhile relationships with people. I don't want to halfass a dozen shallow friendships just so I can say I have a ton of friends. So I just have a few key people that I spend my energy and effort on. Everybody else just kind of fades away over the years as other priorities come up.
Being a quality friend is a lot of work for an introvert like me. It can suck the energy right out of you. I've always been like that for as long as I can remember. Good thing I've got my husband. He's like the opposite of most other social relationships - instead of draining the life out of me, he re-energizes me.
From the sound of many of the other posts in this thread, we are not alone in our friendlessness...
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Have an interest/hobby/activity that many other people do. Do that thing. Meet other people who do that thing.
Know someone who is social. Meet people through them.
I met people most through school or work and after that through my husband or some very social friends.2 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »
The old people are rich. Like Whitney said, crack is cheap, God rest her soul.1 -
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So i'm not the only one!?.. I blame my situation for my dearth of close friends. . That way, I don't have to get all depressed!. . My problem is that after 20 years of interacting with friends exclusively with the assistance of beer, I quit drinking and moved to another town. . So how exactly does a dude make friends with other dudes without beer?. I simply do not have a clue how this is done. .2
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I don't meet people on my own. I get introduced. I'm an introvert, and not very approachable I guess. And I'm not the type to make the first move. I'm not ugly, so I think I must appear intimidating in some way. I can count the number of times someone has "hit on" me in my lifetime on one hand.
Before my husband and I met, his best friend and my best friend got married. My future husband was stationed abroad at the time, so he wasn't at the wedding. They kept telling me how perfect this guy was for me, so I was intrigued. A year or so later when he was back in town, they finally introduced the two of us. And it was an instant and perfect match. That's how I met my husband.
In terms of friends, same thing. I'm friendly, but in such a casual, standoffish way that I'm just not good at making friends. I haven't made any new friends in well over a decade. Haven't really felt the need. I wonder what it would even be like to try. I have several acquaintances, but I have very few friends - like two, and one of those is my sister. It's a lot of work to maintain fulfilling, meaningful, worthwhile relationships with people. I don't want to halfass a dozen shallow friendships just so I can say I have a ton of friends. So I just have a few key people that I spend my energy and effort on. Everybody else just kind of fades away over the years as other priorities come up.
Being a quality friend is a lot of work for an introvert like me. It can suck the energy right out of you. I've always been like that for as long as I can remember. Good thing I've got my husband. He's like the opposite of most other social relationships - instead of draining the life out of me, he re-energizes me.
From the sound of many of the other posts in this thread, we are not alone in our friendlessness...
You've summed up introversion very well! As an introvert, I don't have the mental energy to devote to maintaining more than a couple of close relationships. I think the definition of 'friend' also varies between intro- and ambi- or extroverts.2 -
I was, a situational introvert as; a child but was an extrovert when, the scene wasn't overly; noisy/crowded & I wasn't the, center of; attention! Parties were just too much for, me especially when it; was my own! I couldn't deal with having to, decide whose present to open 1st & when to open any of them, whom to give the slice of cake to 1st or when to've the cake and/or being the most popular 1 that, had to choose which activity I chose to; do with each child or in what order & whom I was going to sit next to! I begged, to've a; birthday party but then, hid & cried from, the pressure during; it!
As an adult my personality's that of an extrovert, I'd gladly host any; party currently &'ve even facilitated crafts at, my; apartment complex's community room but my disability otherwise, renders me an; introvert because of exhaustion & a lack of activities being within, a reasonable travel distance by; bus!1 -
I met my wife 28 years ago. I was working in a Chiropractic Office as a Licensed Massage Therapist. She was referred to me after an Auto Accident. After two years we finally went out for a cocktail. I asked her to marry me on the second date. 25th Wedding Anniversary is this Summer. I guess I didn't rub her the wrong way.7
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TheRoadDog wrote: »I met my wife 28 years ago. I was working in a Chiropractic Office as a Licensed Massage Therapist. She was referred to me after an Auto Accident. After two years we finally went out for a cocktail. I asked her to marry me on the second date. 25th Wedding Anniversary is this Summer. I guess I didn't rub her the wrong way.
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I meet people at the gym...I'm a regular and have regular friends now. I volunteer at a cat shelter and have met people through there...mostly cat ladies (not very regular people).
I met my husband in a chat room in 1998. So there's that.1 -
My best friends are people that I work with (long trips to China for work and play will bond people) and people that I've met through them. Other friends are from when I was younger and THEIR friends, people that I've met through Krav Maga, even one person that I met in RL after being friends on MFP! I'm trying to use Tinder, but trust issues make that hard...
Unfortunately, its a bit like needing to have money to make money. A LOT easier to meet new people and make new friends if you already have some and can meet people through them..1
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