Support/Coaching/Constructive Critisism is always welcomed

jacquelinaaa706

Hey everyone,

Looking for any support that I can get as the struggle is real and I was recently asked to be the maid of honor for my best friends wedding! In 2013, I lost about 80 pounds - I was the smallest I had ever been and happy! I was great at calorie counting, exercising daily...struggling with weekends but was still where I wanted to be. I kept the weight off for a good year...in 2014 my grandmother who was more like my mother passed away. I turned to alcohol and food to console me. I am now 90 lbs heavier and bigger than I have ever been even after 3 children.

Emotionally I am still somewhat of a wreck even after almost 3 years but I am noticing alot of it also attributes to my weight gain and the fact that I am not happy with where I am at physically. I feel like I am stuck. I can not force myself to make healthier decisions and when I do, I fall off within a week.

I feel like I am not sure how to shop healthy, cook healthy, eat healthy, I am always on the go and a mother of 3 boys because of depression and anxiety I feel like I am not as active as I should be although I know that being more active will improve these things. I know in my mind what I want and need to do and it is so hard for me. Most importantly I want to be healthy for my kids and myself and also just do not want to be embarrassed to be in my best friends wedding. I know these all sound like excuses but I feel like if there is anyone who has gone through something similar and can help me understand that they understand and provide me with some tips on how to overcome these barriers or how they have overcame these barriers, it would be greatly appreciated.


Thank you all very much! I appreciate your time.

tulips_and_tea

I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is very individualized and we all process it differently. Just because it's been 3 years doesn't mean you are just supposed to get over it. Try to work through the grief and let yourself feel it instead of drowning it in food and alcohol. At the same time, don't beat yourself up for turning to those things in the past.

Depression and anxiety are REAL and are not excuses. Are you receiving treatment for them? Therapy? Medication? You don't need to disclose that here. Just mentioning it because you have a lot going on and perhaps some sort of therapy or counselor would help.

In the meantime, use the calorie counting system here and weigh, measure, and log everything you consume. Don't make drastic changes. Just a few here and there and build on those changes as they become habits. Good luck and don't give up!

jacquelinaaa706

Thank you so much for reaching out. I appreciate the support and advice!!