Filling People in on Weight Already Lost

newheavensearth

Hi all. I'm having a touchy situation at work. I've been at my current job for almost 2 years, and only maybe the 5 people in my office know that I was heavier than when I started work them (I was maintaining when I started, lost 15 while there, 70 total lost). So the other people on my floor assume I was always the size I am now. Yes I still have weight to lose, but it's only another 15 til my goal of 125.

One particularly weight judgemental woman ran into me yesterday when I was leaving and she saw my gym bag and said "Oh you're going to the gym now? Good for you! " So I told her I've been working out for a while, it's nothing new and kept it moving. This same woman once asked me why I was eating ice cream at work in front of a full lunch room when I was actually eating vegetable soup out of an old Enlightened container. See, judgy.

So knowing her, the fact that another coworker outed me as being on Weight Watchers (she was pissed she wasn't losing weight and I was, we ended up at the same meeting once or twice), and that this subject most likely will not drop, how to do I state that I did not just now start losing weight and I lost a large amount and been keeping it off for some time? I'm on finishing touches mode now Thanks.

pamfgil

Ask, "do you enjoy judging people when you don't know their history?" Judgers are gonna judge, You could point out that it's harrassment, good luck

kimny72

I guess I don't understand. Why do you need to tell her this? What would it change?

I used to hear it all the time when I would get fast food for lunch, people would always say how "lucky" I was that I was naturally skinny and could eat like that, and I should watch out that I wouldn't be lucky forever. Of course, I worked my kitten off to be a healthy weight and got fast food that fit into my calorie goal, but other people don't care about that, so I just smiled and shrugged.

newheavensearth

pamfgil wrote: »

Ask, do you enjoy judging people when you don't know their history?

You know that's what I always think. These people don't even know me or what I've been through. Smh...

nicolepburgess91

Smile and say "I can lose the weight, but it's a shame you can't fix your ignorance"
I'm only kidding. But on a serious note. Find the comfort in yourself that you know what you're doing. You know how hard it's been. Take comfort in that. Who cares what other people thing about it

TimothyFish

So, let me get this straight, you don't think she should judge you, but you have no problem with complaining about her method of interacting with people? People say and do what they do for various reasons. Often, people react to the current situation because they don't know enough about the person to do more than that. If it bothers you that someone said, "good for you" then maybe you should ask, "would you care to join me?"

JeromeBarry1

If you want her to know, the next time you see her take a moment and say, "I did not just now start losing weight and I lost a large amount and been keeping it off for some time. I'm on finishing touches mode now." That's enough.

jemhh

newheavensearth wrote: »

One particularly weight judgemental woman ran into me yesterday when I was leaving and she saw my gym bag and said "Oh you're going to the gym now? Good for you! " So I told her I've been working out for a while, it's nothing new and kept it moving. This same woman once asked me why I was eating ice cream at work in front of a full lunch room when I was actually eating vegetable soup out of an old Enlightened container. See, judgy.

Not seeing judginess in either situation.

So knowing her, the fact that another coworker outed me as being on Weight Watchers (she was pissed she wasn't losing weight and I was, we ended up at the same meeting once or twice), and that this subject most likely will not drop, how to do I state that I did not just now start losing weight and I lost a large amount and been keeping it off for some time? I'm on finishing touches mode now Thanks.

Nobody cares that you previously lost weight. Get over it.

newheavensearth

Thanks for the fabulous advice.

melissawill2017

You do not owe her any explanations for anything that you do. She doesn't know about the obstacles you've faced and the battles that you have won. Be confident in yourself and your accomplishments. She sounds like a miserable person who puts others down to cover her own insecurities. A strong and confident woman never feels the need to judge or put other women down. Be proud of yourself and ignore the haters!

victoria_1024

I lost 90 lbs and I've been in maintenance for a year. Most of my coworkers now didn't know me when I was obese. I made a comment to a coworker about something weight loss related and she replied "oh but you're tiny, you don't have to think about this stuff" or something to that effect. She wasn't being judgy or rude, I think she was trying to compliment me more than anything. It surprised me to realize that there's this whole piece of my life that many people don't even know about. Because I'm not really close to this coworker I just let the comment go and didn't say anything. Maybe if it had been someone else, I may have talked about my own experiences.

I guess my point is you can choose to share your history, or you can shrug it off and go about your day. Her comments didn't sound particularly rude to me or anything, it may be that they just touched a nerve with you because of your experiences. We've all been there.

Lounmoun

You seem a bit overly sensitive to comments that don't really sound like judgement to me. They sound like attempts to start conversations.
If you smiled and said, " Yep, I like to hit the gym after work. Do you go to a gym?" or "Ha! Not unless they started making vegetable soup flavor! Just reusing an old container. I make a big pot of soup to bring for lunches. What did you have for lunch today?" you might start a conversation.
If you know someone is trying to lose and they bring it up you could say "I know it is challenging but don't give up! I lost 70 lbs a couple of years ago and am working on my last 15 lbs now. You can do it!"