Stress and too much pressure

wendypark811

Hello,

I'am 53yr old have gone from 64.8kg to 55.1 in over a year. Lots of excerise and food lifestyle change. At 64yr old husband 33/32yr old children one lives at home the other with his girlfriend. I have a usual stomach that hangs over like they do.

Recently even with a trainer my stomach refuses to move while everywhere else looks good, even my upper body is defined now yay. My Dr took me off Hormone replacement tabs in October but 2wks ago put me back on (my body reacted badly due to full hysterectom 24yrs ago). Recently my son whi moved out is causing stress due to us paying a debt for him and not paying us back or contacting the company to change to his name ( we cant stop paying that will cause him to be a bad debter), now my husband and daughter are behaving like children she is now instead of talking normally now sounds like dictating or shouting at us like we are the children, we have tried talking to her about it but it causes even more problems has I'am writing this she only comes out of her room for food refusing to talk to us. I could go on but well tension is not good.

I also watch people at the gym work less then me and have better results, yes I have tried training less but didnt work either, ( 1 day cardio another leg work another weights) It frustrating me and well suprise stress eating with both matters.

On a low carb, med fat and high protein diet by trainer. Can't stop buying cakes, biscuits etc cause of others in the household. I need to learn no de stress and stop heading for the food cupboard.

Sorry to on. It didnt help putting it down either.

Wendy

middlehaitch

Sorry you are having such a stressful time of it.

Without knowing your height it is hard to say whether you are within the normal BMI range or not. It may just be that you still have to lose a few pounds to lose the abdominal fat. For a lot of people, especially those who are apple shaped, (me) it is the last place one loses the fat.

It can also take up to 2 years for lose skin to contract, and even then it is up to genetics just how much will.

Take photos and measurements as well as weighing yourself. Sometimes you can't see small changes in the mirror, but if you put a few photos side by side you will notice a gradual change.

I lost my weight at 54 mid menopause, and although I am fit and healthy and on the lower end of the BMI scale, I have realized that to have the stomach I would like, I would have to be a lot more dedicated to my weight lifting routine that I am, and I am not ready for that at this point in time. I have too many other things that I enjoy doing, so I will be happy with a giggly jiggly belly, even in a bikini

Sometimes it is being the best you can be at that particular point in time, accepting it, and loving yourself for it.

Keep going with your plan. It sounds like you have a good rapport with your trainer. And yes, try to de-stress.

Cheers, h.

LessCookiess

Hi,

Sorry about the stress you're going through as well. I know one can't spot reduce or decide where fat will come from ones body it could be your stomach may be the last section go possibly. Eat at a caloric deficit enter the goals into MFP and eat the calories provided to you.
Good job on toning up other sections as you mentioned.
I won't be providing advice about the family situation that's currently going on, but maybe speaking with someone else might be helpful such as a counselor or a therapist often speaking about stress and receiving professional advice will help. In regards to the debt you're paying off consider speaking with a lawyer some places do offer free legal advice I think programs do exist for that.

Good luck on things, and I really do wish you the best working out is a great way to help with reducing stress, but speaking about will help as well.

leejoyce31

I hope I'm not out of line by saying you may need to consider allowing your adult children to stand on their own. If your son messes up his credit, let him take responsibility. If your daughter has the nerve to live under your roof and disrespect you, kindly suggest she take up residence elsewhere. We may not be able to remove all life stressors, but I think the stress you are experiencing from adult children can be alleviated.