Sexier in the bedroom due to weight loss

SynMonte
SynMonte Posts: 15 Member
edited November 17 in Chit-Chat
Does anyone else feel like they would be more open to different things in the bedroom and/or have a higher sex drive if you were more confident with your body?????
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  • KylaBlaze
    KylaBlaze Posts: 136 Member
    That's totally true, I'm much more confident when I'm on eating right and working out!
  • joshgallant_1986
    joshgallant_1986 Posts: 20 Member
    100 %
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
    I used to be a bit overweight. I liked sex then, and I like sex now. My honey liked the changes in my body when I lost weight, though.

    Lifting weights (and even gaining muscle weight in the process) has had the same effect, but in overdrive.
  • nitromaniac
    nitromaniac Posts: 2,479 Member
    Yes I do. My drive is higher and I am more confident and proud of my body.
  • KJC1200
    KJC1200 Posts: 5 Member
    Oh most definitely !
    I can't keep my clothes on ... lol
  • gcibsthom
    gcibsthom Posts: 30,145 Member
    I most definitely have a higher sex drive....probably because of increased blood circulation, better mobility, and the obviously arrogant "holy S I'm hot now factor" (ok, that one is only found in MY mind...but it is a contributing factor...). and dammit, I'm married, so I don't have anyone to share that sex drive with...
  • EricNewark
    EricNewark Posts: 295 Member
    gcibsthom wrote: »
    I most definitely have a higher sex drive....probably because of increased blood circulation, better mobility, and the obviously arrogant "holy S I'm hot now factor" (ok, that one is only found in MY mind...but it is a contributing factor...). and dammit, I'm married, so I don't have anyone to share that sex drive with...

    I'm with ya. My drive is more as well but my wife's seems less so it's like... wtf. Lol
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    SynMonte wrote: »
    Does anyone else feel like they would be more open to different things in the bedroom and/or have a higher sex drive if you were more confident with your body?????

    open to different things - no, I think I'm open to whatever interests me regardless of confidence

    higher sex drive - no - I don't think so

    Honestly, body confidence is something I think I may never have totally under my control. Moods, perspective, a feeling that I can always improve something, confidence is going to wax and wane for me.
  • gcibsthom
    gcibsthom Posts: 30,145 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    SynMonte wrote: »
    Does anyone else feel like they would be more open to different things in the bedroom and/or have a higher sex drive if you were more confident with your body?????

    open to different things - no, I think I'm open to whatever interests me regardless of confidence

    higher sex drive - no - I don't think so

    Honestly, body confidence is something I think I may never have totally under my control. Moods, perspective, a feeling that I can always improve something, confidence is going to wax and wane for me.

    I agree that confidence will always wax and wane...but for me, when I was much heavier....there was NO confidence...so anything is an improvement....and I think that confidence is one of several factors involved in the libido...As far as being open to different things....for me, again, yes...again due to confidence...
    Just wish I had someone in my life who would appreciate the new me....
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Of course. Not only that, but even a big meal can lead one to feel less sexy. I doubt anyone has sex after Thanksgiving dinner.
  • JeffreyOC
    JeffreyOC Posts: 810 Member
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  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    SynMonte wrote: »
    Does anyone else feel like they would be more open to different things in the bedroom and/or have a higher sex drive if you were more confident with your body?????

    you mean like using my less dominant hand (aka the stranger)?

    Now that's kinky
  • ParadigmShifter
    ParadigmShifter Posts: 289 Member
    I doubt anyone has sex after Thanksgiving dinner.
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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    I guess this could be true for most people.. but I haven't noticed a difference from when I was younger and less heavy, to now (when I've been at my heaviest). Really, the only thing that changed for me was not weight, but my mental state related to my appearance. I realized I could look decent/good at any weight and it was about how I projected myself to others.

    Self-love (and not the kind you perverts are probably thinking of) went a long way toward getting me out of that dark place, also.

    Then again, I guess I'm super fortunate that I have a partner that liked me when I weighed 170.. and was totally fine with me when I weighed 225. He's never been unsupportive or unwilling to participate in extracurricular activities, lol.
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  • ItIsTJ
    ItIsTJ Posts: 116 Member
    I can, without a doubt, say that sex is so much better since I've gotten lean.

    Sex lasts longer to the point where my partner needs a tap out. It's more comfortable. I'm far more confident.

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  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Of course. Not only that, but even a big meal can lead one to feel less sexy. I doubt anyone has sex after Thanksgiving dinner.

    We have sex right at thanksgiving dinner. The table is just always set so nicely!

    But that's before stuffing your faces, right?
    Or while? Cuz that would be kinky af
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I guess this could be true for most people.. but I haven't noticed a difference from when I was younger and less heavy, to now (when I've been at my heaviest). Really, the only thing that changed for me was not weight, but my mental state related to my appearance. I realized I could look decent/good at any weight and it was about how I projected myself to others.

    Self-love (and not the kind you perverts are probably thinking of) went a long way toward getting me out of that dark place, also.

    Then again, I guess I'm super fortunate that I have a partner that liked me when I weighed 170.. and was totally fine with me when I weighed 225. He's never been unsupportive or unwilling to participate in extracurricular activities, lol.

    That has nothing to do with the partner thoug. The partner can think you are super hot and you still might feel fat and not attractive.
    I have never been overweight, other than during pregnancy, but even if I lose ten pounds I feel lighter and sexier. During bulking time I feel fat and blah. The plus mInus ten pounds doesn't change the way my husband sees me, yet it can change how sexy I feel.
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  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Of course. Not only that, but even a big meal can lead one to feel less sexy. I doubt anyone has sex after Thanksgiving dinner.

    We have sex right at thanksgiving dinner. The table is just always set so nicely!

    But that's before stuffing your faces, right?
    Or while? Cuz that would be kinky af

    I can tell you've never done "it" in a mound of mashed potatoes.

    That reminds me of a food fetish vid I once came across​. Lets just say I have never eaten apple sauce since then.
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  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Why nobody does white rice fetish vid for *kitten* sake. Or cheese vids. I will get ripped in no time
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    edited May 2017
    I guess this could be true for most people.. but I haven't noticed a difference from when I was younger and less heavy, to now (when I've been at my heaviest). Really, the only thing that changed for me was not weight, but my mental state related to my appearance. I realized I could look decent/good at any weight and it was about how I projected myself to others.

    Self-love (and not the kind you perverts are probably thinking of) went a long way toward getting me out of that dark place, also.

    Then again, I guess I'm super fortunate that I have a partner that liked me when I weighed 170.. and was totally fine with me when I weighed 225. He's never been unsupportive or unwilling to participate in extracurricular activities, lol.

    That has nothing to do with the partner thoug. The partner can think you are super hot and you still might feel fat and not attractive.
    I have never been overweight, other than during pregnancy, but even if I lose ten pounds I feel lighter and sexier. During bulking time I feel fat and blah. The plus mInus ten pounds doesn't change the way my husband sees me, yet it can change how sexy I feel.

    I've been some form of overweight my entire life. I have never been what most people around here would consider to be "lean". My point is that for me (and me personally), my weight has never factored into my libido nor hindered my ability to perform. It has not hindered my ability because I have always had a high libido and as a woman, I guess it's easier to find people willing to participate than if you are a man (I could be wrong on that). I've always maintained a level of flexibility and endurance even when I was 225 and even now (nowhere near where I want to be). The OP was asking if people had noticed a difference from when people were heavier to when they were less heavy (in my case 160 is the lowest I've ever been). She was also asking if they would be more confident with that weight loss to try new things. For me I honestly found I was more willing to participate in sex when I was heavier than when I weighed less and a lot of that has been time learning to accept my self-image as it is instead of being bitter and resentful of what it isn't or what I want it to be. My self-image is what allows me to participate in sex without the lights off or to be willing to try kinky things that might uh.. surprise my partner, lol.

    I merely mentioned that I was fortunate in the fact that my partner currently (and others in the past) have never really cared about my weight so that was not a factor in my libido or my perception of myself that either increases or decreases it. There's also the fact that I have always typically been the more kinky partner in any pairing I've been in.

    The OP asked and I answered: for me it does not matter. My weight has never been a factor in my ability to perform, even at my highest of 225 (while I was pregnant) and my maintained weight of 215ish that I had for two or three years before deciding it was time to lose it. My self-image is what changed my confidence level and for me it had nothing to do with my weight. It is better now at a higher weight than it was when I was 20 and a lower one. I get that I might be an outlier.

    But perhaps that's because I have never been under 160 my entire adult life.
  • tsortsor
    tsortsor Posts: 830 Member
    I'm glad I'm fat no pressure
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    Yeah. I'm just happy I don't feel like I need the lights off anymore.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    I guess this could be true for most people.. but I haven't noticed a difference from when I was younger and less heavy, to now (when I've been at my heaviest). Really, the only thing that changed for me was not weight, but my mental state related to my appearance. I realized I could look decent/good at any weight and it was about how I projected myself to others.

    Self-love (and not the kind you perverts are probably thinking of) went a long way toward getting me out of that dark place, also.

    Then again, I guess I'm super fortunate that I have a partner that liked me when I weighed 170.. and was totally fine with me when I weighed 225. He's never been unsupportive or unwilling to participate in extracurricular activities, lol.

    That has nothing to do with the partner thoug. The partner can think you are super hot and you still might feel fat and not attractive.
    I have never been overweight, other than during pregnancy, but even if I lose ten pounds I feel lighter and sexier. During bulking time I feel fat and blah. The plus mInus ten pounds doesn't change the way my husband sees me, yet it can change how sexy I feel.

    I've been some form of overweight my entire life. I have never been what most people around here would consider to be "lean". My point is that for me (and me personally), my weight has never factored into my libido nor hindered my ability to perform. It has not hindered my ability because I have always had a high libido and as a woman, I guess it's easier to find people willing to participate than if you are a man (I could be wrong on that). I've always maintained a level of flexibility and endurance even when I was 225 and even now (nowhere near where I want to be). The OP was asking if people had noticed a difference from when people were heavier to when they were less heavy (in my case 160 is the lowest I've ever been). I honestly found I was more willing to participate in sex when I was heavier than when I weighed less and a lot of that has been time learning to accept my self-image as it is instead of being bitter and resentful of what it isn't or what I want it to be.

    I merely mentioned that I was fortunate in the fact that my partner currently (and others in the past) have never really cared about my weight so that was not a factor in my libido or my perception of myself that either increases or decreases it.

    The OP asked and I answered: for me it does not matter. My weight has never been a factor in my ability to perform, even at my highest of 225 (while I was pregnant) and my maintained weight of 215ish that I had for two or three years before deciding it was time to lose it. My self-image is what changed my confidence level and for me it had nothing to do with my weight.

    But perhaps that's because I have never been under 160 my entire adult life.

    Hi
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    I guess this could be true for most people.. but I haven't noticed a difference from when I was younger and less heavy, to now (when I've been at my heaviest). Really, the only thing that changed for me was not weight, but my mental state related to my appearance. I realized I could look decent/good at any weight and it was about how I projected myself to others.

    Self-love (and not the kind you perverts are probably thinking of) went a long way toward getting me out of that dark place, also.

    Then again, I guess I'm super fortunate that I have a partner that liked me when I weighed 170.. and was totally fine with me when I weighed 225. He's never been unsupportive or unwilling to participate in extracurricular activities, lol.

    That has nothing to do with the partner thoug. The partner can think you are super hot and you still might feel fat and not attractive.
    I have never been overweight, other than during pregnancy, but even if I lose ten pounds I feel lighter and sexier. During bulking time I feel fat and blah. The plus mInus ten pounds doesn't change the way my husband sees me, yet it can change how sexy I feel.

    I've been some form of overweight my entire life. I have never been what most people around here would consider to be "lean". My point is that for me (and me personally), my weight has never factored into my libido nor hindered my ability to perform. It has not hindered my ability because I have always had a high libido and as a woman, I guess it's easier to find people willing to participate than if you are a man (I could be wrong on that). I've always maintained a level of flexibility and endurance even when I was 225 and even now (nowhere near where I want to be). The OP was asking if people had noticed a difference from when people were heavier to when they were less heavy (in my case 160 is the lowest I've ever been). I honestly found I was more willing to participate in sex when I was heavier than when I weighed less and a lot of that has been time learning to accept my self-image as it is instead of being bitter and resentful of what it isn't or what I want it to be.

    I merely mentioned that I was fortunate in the fact that my partner currently (and others in the past) have never really cared about my weight so that was not a factor in my libido or my perception of myself that either increases or decreases it.

    The OP asked and I answered: for me it does not matter. My weight has never been a factor in my ability to perform, even at my highest of 225 (while I was pregnant) and my maintained weight of 215ish that I had for two or three years before deciding it was time to lose it. My self-image is what changed my confidence level and for me it had nothing to do with my weight.

    But perhaps that's because I have never been under 160 my entire adult life.

    Hi

    Yo.

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