Sabotage? Really?

ethompso0105

Sabotage? Really?

Friends, we're all adults here. Unless you're being strapped down and food is being forced into your body, nobody is really "sabotaging" you. I know we all have days where we feel like people aren't being supportive of our choices, but it's important to remember that these are OUR PERSONAL CHOICES.

I know it's my own viewpoint, but I'm so sad when I log on here every day and see multiple postings about SO's/families/co-workers/etc. "sabotaging" or otherwise "messing" with our methods. If you're running into someone who is *trying* to force you to eat, it's likely due to their own insecurities. Continue to love your body and your choices--it may inspire them to do the same.

And if you really must view this as sabotage, how about working to sabotage their efforts with your own healthy choices? :bigsmile:

Here's wishing the best of luck to each of you!

Followingsea

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

dirtnap63

I reserve the right to hold someone else accountable for my actions! It's in the constitution dammit!

ethompso0105

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

Oh absolutely. I don't deny that whatsoever. But it worries me that so many people think that this is done maliciously. Maybe, in some cases, it is. I think, more often than not, it's simply that other person not realizing how difficult it makes things for us.

I realize that I'm very lucky to have a supportive (or at the very least neutral) close-knit support system. However, I have quite a few people at work who actively try to tempt me with things I shouldn't/can't have. Maybe my viewpoint is just skewed because of the support system I *do* have.

1PatientBear

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

Bull. Those are excuses. It all comes down to (A) what you put in your body and (B) how much/what kind of exercise you get. I'm not perfect by ANY stretch of the imagination. But when I sleep in or when I eat a hamburger, I own the fact that I made a choice. If you ever want long-term success, you have to own your failures too.

dirtnap63

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

Bull. Those are excuses. It all comes down to (A) what you put in your body and (B) how much/what kind of exercise you get. I'm not perfect by ANY stretch of the imagination. But when I sleep in or when I eat a hamburger, I own the fact that I made a choice. If you ever want long-term success, you have to own your failures too.

Shhh. That kind of rational thinking will get you labelled a bully around here.

1PatientBear

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

Bull. Those are excuses. It all comes down to (A) what you put in your body and (B) how much/what kind of exercise you get. I'm not perfect by ANY stretch of the imagination. But when I sleep in or when I eat a hamburger, I own the fact that I made a choice. If you ever want long-term success, you have to own your failures too.

Shhh. That kind of rational thinking will get you labelled a bully around here.

A badge I will wear with honor with the way people whine around this place.

Followingsea

There is a difference between not being supportive/being neutral, and actively trying to undermine someone's efforts to get healthier, though.

Little things like making sure that 'trigger' foods/unhealthy snacks make onto the grocery list, or encouraging bad attitudes ("oh, you're tired? it won't matter if you miss one day at the gym, no big deal") can make things even more into an uphill battle.

Bull. Those are excuses. It all comes down to (A) what you put in your body and (B) how much/what kind of exercise you get. I'm not perfect by ANY stretch of the imagination. But when I sleep in or when I eat a hamburger, I own the fact that I made a choice. If you ever want long-term success, you have to own your failures too.

Sure. You're responsible for your choices. I never said otherwise.

But that doesn't mean people around you can't exercise their right to be jerks and (consciously or not) make things harder for you.

shadus

I've known a few circumstances people were sabotaged, legitimately, one by his parents... who when they found out he was dieting started slipping butter into ~everything~ and another who's husband did similar. Shy that, it's just mostly lack of support.

lostdogg

Sorry. I tried to read it all. Into the third sentence the song sabotage from the beastie boys popped into my head. Now it's stuck there. So. I'll adjourn from reading as I dig thru my cd collection.

For the record, we make our own choices. I sabotage myself. No one else does it for me.

eblakes93

I've known a few circumstances people were sabotaged, legitimately, one by his parents... who when they found out he was dieting started slipping butter into ~everything~ and another who's husband did similar. Shy that, it's just mostly lack of support.

WTH. Why would someone's PARENTS do that to them.

Alatariel75

Actually, I was trying to lose weight a while back and this real cow who I thought was my friend convinced me that these diet bars she was getting from South Africa would completely help with my losses.

So I started eating them all the time and started gaining weight but she told me it was water weight and that after a week or so, I'd lose a whole heap of weight. I trusted her, and kept eating them and before I knew it, I had to wear sweat pants on jeans day!!!

THEN I found out she was a dirty two faced liar and that the bars were, like, the OPPOSITE of weight loss bars and she wanted me to get fat!!!

She got her commuppance though. Everyone ended up hating her and now she is a dirty washed up skank.

.....

oh wait. That was Mean Girls with Lindsay Lohan.

Mahihkan

Yes... if pasta exists, it's because it's conspiracy to slow me down on losing weight.
I have discover the scheme a year ago.
Nice work Catelli & Barilla!

ethompso0105

I've known a few circumstances people were sabotaged, legitimately, one by his parents... who when they found out he was dieting started slipping butter into ~everything~ and another who's husband did similar. Shy that, it's just mostly lack of support.

WTH. Why would someone's PARENTS do that to them.

Well yeah...that's a true case of sabotage, and it's so very sad! Who does that to someone else? Ugh...like I said (or think I said) there are always going to be exceptions to the rule.

ethompso0105

Actually, I was trying to lose weight a while back and this real cow who I thought was my friend convinced me that these diet bars she was getting from South Africa would completely help with my losses.

So I started eating them all the time and started gaining weight but she told me it was water weight and that after a week or so, I'd lose a whole heap of weight. I trusted her, and kept eating them and before I knew it, I had to wear sweat pants on jeans day!!!

THEN I found out she was a dirty two faced liar and that the bars were, like, the OPPOSITE of weight loss bars and she wanted me to get fat!!!

She got her commuppance though. Everyone ended up hating her and now she is a dirty washed up skank.

.....

oh wait. That was Mean Girls with Lindsay Lohan.

I was reading this thinking, "wow...that sounds so familiar..." LOL Yay for a Mean Girls reference!

cmcollins001

kerricolby

Sorry. I tried to read it all. Into the third sentence the song sabotage from the beastie boys popped into my head. Now it's stuck there. So. I'll adjourn from reading as I dig thru my cd collection.

For the record, we make our own choices. I sabotage myself. No one else does it for me.

This is all I could think about too.

Factory_Reset

You had me at being strapped down


what's going on here?

farmboyphotography

Stop it! You're sabotaging my attempts to be a victim!