Has anyone offered you junk food out of concern for your health?

incisron

Has anyone said you shouldn't lose weight and offered you junk out of concern for your health?

Machka9

incisron wrote: »

Has anyone said you shouldn't lose weight and offered you junk out of concern for your health?

Nope.

middlehaitch

I second @Machka9's reply^^^. h.

lemurcat12

Not even once.

glassyo

I've been told to eat a burrito but that's about it.

VintageFeline

Um. No.

L1zardQueen

Why is this person concerned for you?

LAWoman72

No! OMG.

PinkamenaD8

I've hear of that happening when you're the most skinny in your group of friends or family. My mom isn't at all fat but she has told me to eat more or stop losing weight since I look fine at the weight I'm.

Lounmoun

Never.

tinkerbellang83

Never been offered junk food, but have been told many time by friends that I don't need to lose weight when I know I do, it's more out of politeness than concern though.

lauracups

Yup, but it wasn't out of concern, it was from an uglier place. Many years ago when I was at a mid range healthy bmi, I was at a beach picnic, chocolate covered strawberries were being passed around in a container, (chocolate can be a trigger, so if I feel I need to avoid I do) I was walking away toward water when my mother yells out to the person with the strawberries "she wants one!". I was furious, as my mother lectures me "it's rude to turn down food that someone made special ". The irony, my mother is anorexic, but would either call me a whale (when i was heavy ) or (when I was fit) say things "what you trying to prove looking like that."
If someone is truly concerned for you, they'll show compassion for your wants and needs without ulterior motive.

Chef_Barbell

Nope. I try not to think someone has ulterior motives when they offer me food. I try not to project my issues onto others.

NextPage

I would be very strange to push junk food out of concern for health. Even if someone was underweight you would encourage protein drinks, almond butter, avocados, almonds etc. - calorie dense nutritional food.

bpetrosky

That's a negative, Ghostrider.

paperpudding

Have many times been offered 'junk food' - meaning non nutrient dense food like cakes, chocolates etc.

Not by anyone concerned about my health but just because people are nice and like to share yummy treats (and I do love chocolate!)

Gamliela

I don't really consider very many foods absolute junk, but yes, I have gotten offered pastries, cake, bacon, sandwiches, chips, chocolate, by people who meant well. Its something I got used to when I was underweight, I just said 'no thanks' politely. Most people don't think about what it might mean to someone on a restricted calorie way of eating unless they are eating disordered or have been overweight themselves, so its just them being polite or generous I think.

heiliskrimsli

People at work are forever trying to push doughnuts and other junk at me because I'm "getting too skinny" and "one won't kill you".

I just decline to eat it because I don't like those things.

estherdragonbat

I think it was more sabotage than concern. I used to share an apartment with someone who had... issues. They only got worse when she developed a longterm disability. But to say that she was needy and manipulative would be an understatement. Our relationship devolved into co-dependency. And once she knew I was trying to lose weight, she'd make a point of giving me baked goods. If I turned them down? "So you mean you're NEVER having cake again?" (I've got the clarity to recognize that strawman now, but then? Not so much.) "You're getting too obsessive about this. You're going to get an eating disorder." And since she was an anorexic in recovery, I thought she knew what she was talking about.

Well. She's out of my life now and I think/hope I have a better ability to deal with her, should our paths cross again.

LAWoman72

lauracups wrote: »

Yup, but it wasn't out of concern, it was from an uglier place. Many years ago when I was at a mid range healthy bmi, I was at a beach picnic, chocolate covered strawberries were being passed around in a container, (chocolate can be a trigger, so if I feel I need to avoid I do) I was walking away toward water when my mother yells out to the person with the strawberries "she wants one!". I was furious, as my mother lectures me "it's rude to turn down food that someone made special ". The irony, my mother is anorexic, but would either call me a whale (when i was heavy ) or (when I was fit) say things "what you trying to prove looking like that."
If someone is truly concerned for you, they'll show compassion for your wants and needs without ulterior motive.

Oh my gosh, Laura, this is terrible and I can relate on the dysfunctional, competitive mom.

My mother would cal me lard-A or fat-A (at 110 lbs.) And then when I lost weight she would giggle and literally snort about how I had no boobs and point at them and squeal "They're almost real!", usually in front of my friends but especially in front of my boyfriends.

Nixi3Knox

My husband has offered me chocolate out of concern for his own health. If that counts.

cookiemonster_ashley

Several "friends" I know haven't offered me junk but have said I'm fine the way I am (I'm like 100+lbs heavier than them but yup okay I'm fine being morbidly obese) /eyeroll.
Or they try to get me to have cheat days "oh let's go to dairy Queen. One day isn't going to hurt". I'm sure it won't but still no thank you.

RelCanonical

I get the concern food pushing, but most of the time it's related to portion sizes rather than the type of food. Lots of "did you get enough to eat?" in a way that implies they think I didn't. I've never been told that I should stop losing weight.

janjunie

@incisron why are they worried about you to begin with?

Rebecca0224

RelCanonical wrote: »

I get the concern food pushing, but most of the time it's related to portion sizes rather than the type of food. Lots of "did you get enough to eat?" in a way that implies they think I didn't. I've never been told that I should stop losing weight.

My partner does this except it's "is that all your eating?"

crazyycatladyy1

No one has ever offered me food out of concern. If that's happening then I'd evaluate why. Are you at a healthy bmi? Underweight? Have a history with EDs? People trying to get you to eat is a bit concerning.

inertiastrength

No, but when my bf was cutting aggressively and was moody af I demanded that he go binge on Popeyes and not to speak to me until he had lol (more as a joke but he legit needed to up his cals!)

RelCanonical

Rebecca0224 wrote: »

RelCanonical wrote: »

I get the concern food pushing, but most of the time it's related to portion sizes rather than the type of food. Lots of "did you get enough to eat?" in a way that implies they think I didn't. I've never been told that I should stop losing weight.

My partner does this except it's "is that all your eating?"

Oh god my mom does this too when I come over. I learned it was an insecurity for her projecting onto me because she always thinks she's eating too much. Therefore, if I'm eating less than her, I'm not eating enough.

Rebecca0224

RelCanonical wrote: »

Rebecca0224 wrote: »

RelCanonical wrote: »

I get the concern food pushing, but most of the time it's related to portion sizes rather than the type of food. Lots of "did you get enough to eat?" in a way that implies they think I didn't. I've never been told that I should stop losing weight.

My partner does this except it's "is that all your eating?"

Oh god my mom does this too when I come over. I learned it was an insecurity for her projecting onto me because she always thinks she's eating too much. Therefore, if I'm eating less than her, I'm not eating enough.

I don't eat a big dinner and then I snack later so he worries unnecessarily that I'm not eating enough.

Azdak

I've had people offer me cookies out of concern for my mental health.

I accept them gratefully.

lauracups

LAWoman72 wrote: »

lauracups wrote: »

Yup, but it wasn't out of concern, it was from an uglier place. Many years ago when I was at a mid range healthy bmi, I was at a beach picnic, chocolate covered strawberries were being passed around in a container, (chocolate can be a trigger, so if I feel I need to avoid I do) I was walking away toward water when my mother yells out to the person with the strawberries "she wants one!". I was furious, as my mother lectures me "it's rude to turn down food that someone made special ". The irony, my mother is anorexic, but would either call me a whale (when i was heavy ) or (when I was fit) say things "what you trying to prove looking like that."
If someone is truly concerned for you, they'll show compassion for your wants and needs without ulterior motive.

Oh my gosh, Laura, this is terrible and I can relate on the dysfunctional, competitive mom.

My mother would cal me lard-A or fat-A (at 110 lbs.) And then when I lost weight she would giggle and literally snort about how I had no boobs and point at them and squeal "They're almost real!", usually in front of my friends but especially in front of my boyfriends.

Sorry you experienced that! The way I look at experiences like that though, it gives us a clear cut example of what not to do or act.