Struggling and down

Hollisamara

I am so down I can't stop crying about my weight.
I had my baby in February and have been calorie counting, I've lost a pound each week so far. Since I've started excersing 2 weeks ago my weight has gone up a few pounds and won't shift.
It's making me really depressed. I hate the way I look, I put so much weight in when I was pregnant I have two more stone to lose.

tinkerbellang83

When you start new exercise it can cause you to retain water, you also need to bear in mind that you won't lose weight consistently every week, women's weight can fluctuate upwards of 5lb due to hormones and there are many other factors. Log accurately and keep at it, you will get the results you want and remember it didn't go on overnight, it won't come off that way either.

Silentpadna

jellytot3 wrote: »

I am so down I can't stop crying about my weight.
I had my baby in February and have been calorie counting, I've lost a pound each week so far. Since I've started excersing 2 weeks ago my weight has gone up a few pounds and won't shift.
It's making me really depressed. I hate the way I look, I put so much weight in when I was pregnant I have two more stone to lose.

Having emotional reactions to this is a real thing. I hope nobody tells you otherwise. But, that should not stop you from making rational decisions. Counting calories and working the process are positive, active things that you can do that are independent of your feelings at a given time. But it may not be the most important thing at the moment.

My wife has carried 3 children and gained weight each time. She was healthy and beautiful each time - not in spite of the weight she carried, but partly because of it. It was a show of what an incredible process that taking part in the creation of a new life is. The weight came off eventually, but her worth is/was not tied up in how she looked.

Post pardem depression is a real thing too. If that's a possibility for you, don't be afraid to seek help for that and to make it a top priority. That is much more important than some pregnancy weight.

MaggieGirl135

Please consider counseling.

janjunie

jellytot3 wrote: »

I am so down I can't stop crying about my weight.
I had my baby in February and have been calorie counting, I've lost a pound each week so far. Since I've started excersing 2 weeks ago my weight has gone up a few pounds and won't shift.
It's making me really depressed. I hate the way I look, I put so much weight in when I was pregnant I have two more stone to lose.

They scale weight you saw go up was probably water weight from starting a new exercise regime.

It's easy to say you are being too hard on yourself, but your feelings can be very amplified after having a baby. Sleepless nights, hormones, baby blues and post partum depression are all things you need to consider about why you are feeling this way. If you can see if there is a counsellor you can talk to about how you feel.

pinuplove

Silentpadna wrote: »

jellytot3 wrote: »

I am so down I can't stop crying about my weight.
I had my baby in February and have been calorie counting, I've lost a pound each week so far. Since I've started excersing 2 weeks ago my weight has gone up a few pounds and won't shift.
It's making me really depressed. I hate the way I look, I put so much weight in when I was pregnant I have two more stone to lose.

Having emotional reactions to this is a real thing. I hope nobody tells you otherwise. But, that should not stop you from making rational decisions. Counting calories and working the process are positive, active things that you can do that are independent of your feelings at a given time. But it may not be the most important thing at the moment.

My wife has carried 3 children and gained weight each time. She was healthy and beautiful each time - not in spite of the weight she carried, but partly because of it. It was a show of what an incredible process that taking part in the creation of a new life is. The weight came off eventually, but her worth is/was not tied up in how she looked.

Post pardem depression is a real thing too. If that's a possibility for you, don't be afraid to seek help for that and to make it a top priority. That is much more important than some pregnancy weight.

1. This is a beautiful post!
2. Seeing a gain on the scale upon beginning an exercise routine is normal. It's just water weight, OP.
3. OP, definitely consider whether postpartum depression may be contributing to your feelings right now. I'd encourage you to speak to your ob/gyn or family doctor as a starting point.