Hi I'm Monique & a self-sabbotager

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  • beanfacekilla
    beanfacekilla Posts: 69 Member
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    JeromeBarry1 wrote: »
    moniquemtzquiros wrote: »
    jgnatca wrote: »
    What happens when you reach your goal?

    For everyone, it is saboteur.

    My only goal is to get to below 200.

    Why such an easy goal? At a typical woman's height you'd be still obese at 199.

    Dude.... good grief.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,627 Member
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    JeromeBarry1 wrote: »
    moniquemtzquiros wrote: »
    jgnatca wrote: »
    What happens when you reach your goal?

    For everyone, it is saboteur.

    My only goal is to get to below 200.

    Why such an easy goal? At a typical woman's height you'd be still obese at 199.

    its called babysteps ya jerk.

    i break down my goals into 5-10 pound increments. I lost 80 pounds doing it that way. ill lose the last 40 the same. its easier to think in smaller more realistic numbers than 120 pounds which can seem insurmountable.
  • GrammaTree
    GrammaTree Posts: 22 Member
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    Hi, Monique. My name is Theresa and I'm right there with you.
  • pizzafruit
    pizzafruit Posts: 317 Member
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    Hi Monique. I too am a self saboteur. I hesitated replying to your post after reading some of the responses, but here I am. For many of us it isn't just about the calorie deficit; it's about the why. It's like giving someone an address, no directions, and telling them not to get lost. How we get there is the first part of the challenge. If it were simply about the deficit, we'd all be at a healthy weight and sites like MFP wouldn't be necessary. Sometimes just getting through a portion of the day can be overwhelming. I haven't figured it all out yet but I sure understand your school of thought. It's so easy when things aren't going right to feel alone but you're not. I am where I was 7 years ago and I'm still working on it. I'm not giving up and I hope to read of your success no matter what it may be.
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
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    pizzafruit wrote: »
    Hi Monique. I too am a self saboteur. I hesitated replying to your post after reading some of the responses, but here I am. For many of us it isn't just about the calorie deficit; it's about the why. It's like giving someone an address, no directions, and telling them not to get lost. How we get there is the first part of the challenge. If it were simply about the deficit, we'd all be at a healthy weight and sites like MFP wouldn't be necessary. Sometimes just getting through a portion of the day can be overwhelming. I haven't figured it all out yet but I sure understand your school of thought. It's so easy when things aren't going right to feel alone but you're not. I am where I was 7 years ago and I'm still working on it. I'm not giving up and I hope to read of your success no matter what it may be.

    Educate yourselves, that's my recommendation. Read the most helpful posts in this section:

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads
  • moniquemtzquiros
    moniquemtzquiros Posts: 8 Member
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    Orphia wrote: »
    pizzafruit wrote: »
    Hi Monique. I too am a self saboteur. I hesitated replying to your post after reading some of the responses, but here I am. For many of us it isn't just about the calorie deficit; it's about the why. It's like giving someone an address, no directions, and telling them not to get lost. How we get there is the first part of the challenge. If it were simply about the deficit, we'd all be at a healthy weight and sites like MFP wouldn't be necessary. Sometimes just getting through a portion of the day can be overwhelming. I haven't figured it all out yet but I sure understand your school of thought. It's so easy when things aren't going right to feel alone but you're not. I am where I was 7 years ago and I'm still working on it. I'm not giving up and I hope to read of your success no matter what it may be.

    Educate yourselves, that's my recommendation. Read the most helpful posts in this section:

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads

    Thank you for your thoughtful & understanding response.
  • moniquemtzquiros
    moniquemtzquiros Posts: 8 Member
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    JeromeBarry1 wrote: »
    moniquemtzquiros wrote: »
    jgnatca wrote: »
    What happens when you reach your goal?

    For everyone, it is saboteur.

    My only goal is to get to below 200.

    Why such an easy goal? At a typical woman's height you'd be still obese at 199.

    Well, weight-loss goals can mean the difference between success and failure. Realistic, well-planned weight-loss goals keep you focused and motivated. They provide a plan for change as you transition to a healthier lifestyle.

    But not all weight-loss goals are helpful. Unrealistic and overly aggressive weight-loss goals can undermine your efforts. For me, being a saboteur I constantly undermine my own efforts when I set an overly aggressive goal however coming down so little is a lot more effective for me. Not only is it effective but it is realistic. For me, this is a SMART goal.

    Specific. A good goal includes specific details. For example, a goal to exercise more is not specific, but a goal to walk 30 minutes after work every day is specific. You're declaring what you will do, how long you will do it, and when you will do it.
    Measurable. If you can measure a goal, then you can objectively determine how successful you are at meeting the goal. A goal of eating better is not easily measured, but a goal of eating 1,200 calories a day can be measured. A goal of riding your bike is not measurable. A goal of riding your bike for 30 minutes three days a week is measurable.
    Attainable. An attainable goal is one that you have enough time and resources to achieve. For example, if your work schedule doesn't allow spending an hour at the gym every day, then it wouldn't be an attainable goal. However, two weekday trips to the gym and two weekend trips might be attainable. If a particular type of exercise, such as running, is physically too difficult for you, then running every day would not be an attainable goal.
    Realistic. For most people, a realistic outcome goal is losing 5 to 10 percent of their current weight. Process goals must also be realistic. For example, your doctor can help you determine a daily calorie goal based on your current weight and health. Setting an unrealistic goal may result in disappointment or the temptation to give up altogether.
    Trackable. Goals are best achieved if you keep a record of your progress. If you have an outcome goal of losing 15 pounds, record your weight each week. If your goal is to eat 1,400 calories a day, keep a food diary. Keeping track can help you evaluate your progress and stay motivated.

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