Depressed, and having no friends? Why

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weightloss_acc
weightloss_acc Posts: 109 Member
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I'll be 21 may 30th, I rent my own house, I pay my bills and I work a full time job. I've been out of the house since I was 18, I feel like all I do is workout , work , and sleep, I can honestly say I have no friends. I work at a nursing home and I love talking to the older crowd . I can talk to them about anything . But when it comes to people my age. Despite me being nice they are still rude and i'dk why... I've always been this way

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  • crushingitdaily12345
    crushingitdaily12345 Posts: 577 Member
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    I'll be your friend :) I am 39, and don't have many friends either. I have always kept my circle small... but feel like now is the time to be more social. :)
  • vnb_208
    vnb_208 Posts: 1,359 Member
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    Add me ! I have no friends either lol work, workout, cooking, cleaning (mom life) sleep vicious never ending cycle which takes from having a personal life ! oh & I'm 26 :)
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited May 2017
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    People your age are rude to you? Sounds awful.

    Hang out with an older crowd.. I am quite older, but I will be your friend.
  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
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    I'm sorry - that sucks, and I can kind of relate. I've got a few close friends NOW, but I've definitely gone through periods when I really didn't - I can be a little bit anti-social, and I'm not good at maintaining friendships. And I'm at an age where even those close friendships are mostly maintained by text message or a rare lunch - we're all busy. I miss the days when I was in college and me and my friends just hung out together, doing nothing. Adulthood doesn't really lend itself to that kind of friendship, and it can be lonely.

  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
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    I'll be your friend. I'm unemployed though.
  • mollyingrid92
    mollyingrid92 Posts: 41 Member
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    I'm 24 and I totally agree with the people in our age group being rude. My circle is very small. But I'll be you're friend!
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
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    I'm 32 now and I was like you when I was your age. I tend to get along a lot more with those who are older because my own generation often treats me with disdain or are interested in things I will never be interested in. And much like you, I've had adult responsibilities foisted on me since I was 16 or so, so it does make a difference how you view the world and what your experiences at a certain age will be.

    There's nothing wrong with that, in my opinion. As to the depression and having no friends? Well, I'm in that boat, too. Difference is, I've dealt with life long anxiety and depression and true friends are extremely rare. Most people pass one another in life, stay adrift for awhile and then sail in opposite directions. People I was friends with for ten years are no longer there.

    I have very few "friends" and only a couple of acquaintances now. And of those, none live where I do (I move every few years). And those I consider friends, well.. I've had to accept that they aren't going to talk to me most of the time because well.. life. I just had to learn to be okay on my own and deal with the depression when it comes.

    As to the people in your age group? Well, I can't speak about them because I don't hang around people in their 20s often (anymore), but the people in my own age group were mostly rude, too. The ones that weren't were the people I associated with and they were still a rarity. I think that says more about how you are raised or not raised than anything about a specific generation.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    meberle53959 wrote: »
    I'll be your friend :) I am 39, and don't have many friends either. I have always kept my circle small... but feel like now is the time to be more social. :)

    When you are 40 trying to pick up 21 year olds it is better to have fewer people around to ask questions.
    Sage move amigo.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,492 Member
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    Timshel_ wrote: »
    meberle53959 wrote: »
    I'll be your friend :) I am 39, and don't have many friends either. I have always kept my circle small... but feel like now is the time to be more social. :)

    When you are 40 trying to pick up 21 year olds it is better to have fewer people around to ask questions.
    Sage move amigo.

    well... if a fella don't ask, the answer is always: No
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    OutOfUserName wrote: »
    Timshel_ wrote: »
    meberle53959 wrote: »
    I'll be your friend :) I am 39, and don't have many friends either. I have always kept my circle small... but feel like now is the time to be more social. :)

    When you are 40 trying to pick up 21 year olds it is better to have fewer people around to ask questions.
    Sage move amigo.

    lmao! .... wait im hitting 40 in 4 years dammit!

    Do you have a small circle of friends?
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    weightloss_acc wrote: »
    I'll be 21 may 30th, I rent my own house, I pay my bills and I work a full time job. I've been out of the house since I was 18, I feel like all I do is workout , work , and sleep, I can honestly say I have no friends. I work at a nursing home and I love talking to the older crowd . I can talk to them about anything . But when it comes to people my age. Despite me being nice they are still rude and i'dk why... I've always been this way

    Typical transition for maturity for younger people. I was emancipated at 16 and living on my own. Found out the hard way that not everyone is at that level at 16 and by the time I was in college I was already done with most things people brag about from their college years. I tended to hang out with the older crowd a lot.
  • DasItMan91
    DasItMan91 Posts: 5,753 Member
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    I got friends but I do also got a decent amount of friends that are older than me, you can learn alot from these older people....or not depending on how mature and established they are. I've known guys who were in their 30s that still lived with their parents but we're still cool with each other. Wait til you get to your mid 20s, people (not all) tend to get more mature. Men and women in their early 20s can be annoying to deal with but some of them are cool. It might also be the area you live in and everyone is different.
  • Svanel
    Svanel Posts: 6,255 Member
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    when i was your age, i was always hanging out with people older than me by at least ten years lol and i got along with them just fine. these days, i kinda tend to keep to myself. friendships for me are hard to maintain, i'm constantly busy with work, family life, worrying about my mother lol and it seems like if i do make friends - the friendships just kinda wane as time passes. so i tend to fly solo 95% of the time lol and i'm 95% fine with it. there are days (that 5%) when i feel it but it passes. then i'm back to being me and being happy. i also have found that the older i get the less i expect from people around me. probably because i expected so much before and always got torn apart haha life experiences, i tell ya. it's also been alot easier for me to strike up conversations with random people these days. i suspect because i no longer assume or expect anything in return. it's a season in your life. learn as much as you can from it while you can. nothing ever stays the same for long, things/situations/people always change and who knows you may just find friends your age next month, or a couple months from now. you never know. life is a funny thing sometimes. :)
  • Fflpnari
    Fflpnari Posts: 975 Member
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    I'm right there with you. My social life consists of talking to people at my gym... I'm 23

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