Pressure to reveal weight

eddodeddo
eddodeddo Posts: 2 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I have lost 15 pounds so far by being 80% Paleo. My joints are in heaven. My cousin who is also doing this is telling me I should tell her my weight to her so she can help me. While I appreciate it, I find it intensely personal. Conflicted.

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  • gertrude_hinz
    gertrude_hinz Posts: 1 Member
    "No thank you"
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    eddodeddo wrote: »
    I have lost 15 pounds so far by being 80% Paleo. My joints are in heaven. My cousin who is also doing this is telling me I should tell her my weight to her so she can help me. While I appreciate it, I find it intensely personal. Conflicted.

    'thanks but i'm happy with my weight loss doing what i'm doing. if i need any help in the future, i'll let you know'
  • livingleanlivingclean
    livingleanlivingclean Posts: 11,751 Member
    That's weird. She can help you without knowing your weight if she feels like it... If you even need her help (doesn't sound like you do)

    I'd tell her you're fine doing your thing
  • Macy9336
    Macy9336 Posts: 694 Member
    Would you be ok with sharing your BMI instead?
  • Chef_Barbell
    Chef_Barbell Posts: 6,644 Member
    Say... "I'm good."

    Done.
  • Hamsibian
    Hamsibian Posts: 1,388 Member
    Congratulations on the weight loss so far. I find it strange that she wants to know how much you weigh, it's not necessary if she wants to help. I offer to "help" by suggesting to do active things with each other. It's more fun and motivating that way for everyone. Otherwise, just tell her thank you, but you're doing fine.
  • lgrix
    lgrix Posts: 160 Member
    Congratulations on the weight loss, keep doing what you are doing. I'm sure she means well, but no need to share.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,372 Member
    This is weird. I feel like she has an ulterior motive. She doesn't need to know your weight to help, if she even has help to give.
  • sporangia
    sporangia Posts: 50 Member
    Just ignore it or say "I don't want to share my weight."
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I look puzzled and say "I forget".
  • monet4190
    monet4190 Posts: 9 Member
    Tell her you're focused on how you feel, not a number on a scale. :smile:
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    eddodeddo wrote: »
    I have lost 15 pounds so far by being 80% Paleo. My joints are in heaven. My cousin who is also doing this is telling me I should tell her my weight to her so she can help me. While I appreciate it, I find it intensely personal. Conflicted.

    Do you want your cousin to help you? Do you even need help? Why would she need to know your weight?
    If you feel weird about it then don't share it. You can support each other without having that information.

    I personally don't feel the need to keep my weight a secret but I also don't need to tell everyone. I get help anonymously on the internet.
  • 88olds
    88olds Posts: 4,540 Member
    No. It's probably too late to unscramble this egg, but the less said to others about what you are doing the better. Practice some weight loss cliches. Really. Think up some no answer answers to questions. Stand in front of the mirror and practice. When people noticed I was losing they started asking questions about what I was doing. "Old fashioned diet and exercise." And I'd keep on moving.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    That's completely illogical.
  • Theo166
    Theo166 Posts: 2,564 Member
    eddodeddo wrote: »
    I have lost 15 pounds so far by being 80% Paleo. My joints are in heaven. My cousin who is also doing this is telling me I should tell her my weight to her so she can help me. While I appreciate it, I find it intensely personal. Conflicted.

    Not sure why she needs to know your weight to help you with advice? Just be firm and let it pass (extended family)
  • ireallylikemuffins
    ireallylikemuffins Posts: 72 Member
    Unless your cousin is a doctor, dietitian, or nutritionist, I'd stick with what most other people advised and say "Thanks, but no thanks." Weight can be very personal, and it seems like she's just being nosy...maybe even oddly competitive.
    Oh, and congrats on the weight loss! :smile:
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