I Cant Stay Motivated

SweetGamer17

It has been 4 months I still use the site and weigh every now and then but I have lost my motivation. My brother had passed away in March and ever since then I cant seem to get back to where I was eating and exercise. Exercise is too hard to do right now cause due to my brothers passing his doctor said due to his reason for passing our family needed to get checked for left heart abnormaltiys so im afraid to do any exercise really, what can I do :-( disappointed.

kyleekay10

I'm really sorry to hear about your brother, that must be tough.

Before you can re-motivate yourself for weight loss, you need to take care of yourself mentally (and make sure you get checked for the heart problems).

I'd recommend going to see your primary doctor, getting checked, and discussing what type of exercise routine/diet would be suitable for you. After (or while) you do that, I'd maybe seek out therapy. Being able to discuss your emotions and feelings could help you cope with the loss of your brother, and you may be able to identify what triggers you when you gain weight.

I wish you the best. You can do it!

SweetGamer17

Thanks a lot yea I'm about to go see my doctor for all that in a week.

carefulkate

I can't imagine the pain of losing a sibling look after yourself, be kind to yourself and when the time is right the weight will be easier to shift you need your head to be in the right space
Maybe in time you will be able to get your health checked out and begin gentle exercise and weight loss but you need to grieve first
good luck
xxx

jljshoe1979

So sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is wise to wait on the exercise until you hear from your doctor.

With that said, if everything comes back okay and you can exercise...maybe your motivation could be training to do something like walking/running a 5k and raise money/awareness for the condition that affected your brother.

curvykent

Oh gosh I am terribly sorry to hear that. I can not imagine losing my brother.

Grieving is extremely exhausting. It takes over your whole body. I lost my dad unexpectedly when I was 22 and it took a long time to go through the process. Be gentle on yourself. Try to make the best decisions you can around food because it will help your mental state. If you can do some light walking try to do it during the day when the sun can help heal you. (Maybe too hippy dippy trippy but I believe sunshine is healing)

I know it's hard to find motivation when the pain in your heart ways you down but being healthy physically leads to being healthier mentally which helps you to heal spiritually. It all works together.

Best of luck to you during this tough time.

elly1979

I'm very sorry about your brother. That is a huge loss.

I don't have any scientific data to back this up, but I suspect grief and stress take a toll on our systems, not just mentally, either. They require energy, and we might find ourselves devoid of additional energy to put toward meal planning, exercise, etc.

Instead of trying for major changes, aim for small adjustments each day. A 10-minute walk. Or well-being related self-care, like baths and good music.

Being healthy is more than what we eat and how we move. It's how we care for ourselves mentally, too. Sometimes giving yourself a break, while practicing moderation, can be the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.