Accepting body shape?

NadNight

It sounds silly to get down about your body shape (like bone structure, where you naturally hold weight etc) because you can't actually change that. But I get really down over my thighs (each thigh is 1.5 inch smaller than my waist...like one leg=almost the same as my torso?!) and struggle to accept that I will never have skinny legs unless I actually starved myself (as it is I'm 5 ft 6 and 110 lbs). How do you accept that you just can't change some things?

tinkerbellang83

@NadNight Hard to say, you know you can't do anything about it but it's up to you to work on the way your mind sees it. Try and appreciate them more maybe? If you have bigger legs they are likely a lot stronger. Give this a read, it might perk you up http://elitedaily.com/women/want-my-thighs-thick/988008/

xandra47

For me it was just a matter of rewiring my thinking over time. Every time I caught myself thinking about an aspect of my body negatively, I'd redirect my thoughts to one of the features I really like about myself. In the beginning it'd just be "ugh look at my stomach!" "Don't worry about that, look at your eyes, they're great!" But as I kept doing it I could come up with more and more things I like about my body. Now I can say to myself "Yes, I'm never going to have those little "runway legs" but damn my "hiking legs" are looking pretty good!" For me it was all about changing my inner dialogue over time.

stanmann571

xandra47 wrote: »

For me it was just a matter of rewiring my thinking over time. Every time I caught myself thinking about an aspect of my body negatively, I'd redirect my thoughts to one of the features I really like about myself. In the beginning it'd just be "ugh look at my stomach!" "Don't worry about that, look at your eyes, they're great!" But as I kept doing it I could come up with more and more things I like about my body. Now I can say to myself "Yes, I'm never going to have those little "runway legs" but damn my "hiking legs" are looking pretty good!" For me it was all about changing my inner dialogue over time.

I've always thought of/heard them referred to as "dancers legs"

givesometogetsome

Since you're a tad underweight, have you thought about gaining a few lbs? I was in a similar position once, but gaining 10 lbs caused me to look more proportionate because the weight went to my upper body. If you train with heavy weights and eat enough over your TDEE to gain about a lb a week, you'll start seeing good results within a couple of months.

And don't skimp on training your legs. Better to have big shapely thighs than wimpy dimply ones.

NadNight

givesometogetsome wrote: »

Since you're a tad underweight, have you thought about gaining a few lbs? I was in a similar position once, but gaining 10 lbs caused me to look more proportionate because the weight went to my upper body. If you train with heavy weights and eat enough over your TDEE to gain about a lb a week, you'll start seeing good results within a couple of months.

And don't skimp on training your legs. Better to have big shapely thighs than wimpy dimply ones.

Nope to gaining weight unless it's in muscle, I'm more or less happy with my upper body. Like @xandra47 said above about focusing on the positives, my waist is my favourite part of my body and I absolutely wouldn't make it bigger!

sardelsa

To be honest, I am terrible at accepting certain things. While I try to accept the things I can't change, if I know I can do it (by bodybuilding), I try my best to do it. For me there are certain stubborn areas are hard to grow (booty) and lose (back of legs). So I gained muscle in both of those areas and it definitely helped.

But not everyone has to go down that same road, learning to love your body is the most important thing.