New here, super bad days and days that I am fine

lovinghixon

Three months ago my world was turned upside down by some stuff I found out about in my marriage. It made me question everything in my life. I have always had somewhat of a self esteem issue with my looks and it wasn't getting better with age but this caused me to stand in front of a mirror and cry. I thankfully when distressed have no desire to eat and the last several months many days my mouth is so dry I probably couldn't eat if I wanted to. I started off weighing 209 in the middle of April and now weigh 187. I would like to get to 175 pretty quickly but will probably go further than that. The problem is that I see the scale says I weigh less, I know my pants size has went down but I can't look at myself and see the weight gone and I don't guess anyone else can either because I haven't heard anyone say anything. Anyway I could use some friends to help keep me encouraged when I don't feel like I am getting anywhere.

PaigeInTechnicolor

Hello, and welcome!

I am so sorry to hear about your troubles.

If you look at success stories, under the threads like "what no one told you about losing weight" and "unexpected thinks about weightloss" you will find you are not alone in the mind not catching up to the body thing, nor the fact that no one will say anything to you about your weightloss. In your particular case, it is most likely that people know you are having a hard time, and don't want to say anything about it.

Make sure you are eating well and enough, so your muscles remain healthy. Your heart is a muscle, too, and while it may be broken figuratively, in the literal and physical sense, you should probably keep it healthy.

Good luck on your journey. Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like.