Anyone successfully help a spouse / significant other lose weight?

SilverBells

This has been a very timely post and replies. I was slender and healthy until my mid 30's when I ran into health problems and certain medications. Over a period of years I gained over 100 lbs. My husband has never said a word to me and has never held what I used to be, over my head. We are in our 60's now. I still struggle with the weight I gained, but he has been putting on weight recently. As near as I can tell, it is because he eats the same as when he was younger. I found myself riding him to do something about how he was eating. I would love him no matter what he weighed. But you can see the trouble here, it's me and my comments. I have stopped totally. He will lose when and if he is ready and if not, c'est la vie. My point is in all this, that I have thoroughly enjoyed having him not nag me, now I will return the favor. Best of luck to you and yours!

Brabo_Grip

My SO has struggled on and off with weight loss for years (she is currently significantly overweight). I gained steadily in my 30's and dropped 85lbs at around age 40 after making significant lifestyle changes. I keep my mouth shut about her journey. I am supportive and always willing to take the kids if she wants to go to the gym. I never engage in any discussion of our respective diets, because I have learned in the past that no matter how positive or seemingly innocent the discussion she gets her feelings hurt because she perceives it as a criticism.

It's her journey. I can't help, I can only hinder.