"Are you trying to find a man?"

PAGinger

I don't know about anyone else, but it drives me NUTS every time someone comments on my weight loss and then asks me if I'm trying to get a boyfriend.

First of all, "finding a man" is the last thing on my mind since I already have someone. Second, there are more important reasons I'm working on getting off this weight; my knee replacements could last longer than 10-15 years, clothes look better (and easier to find than when I was a size 32), and most important, I'll live a longer, healthier life.

Why on earth does anyone think a woman's main goal for losing weight is getting male attention? Anyone want to chime in their thoughts?

Just_J_Now

Yes.

_pi3_

Preach, Henny

But like that's what people expect. You know like men are supposed to be with women, men and women wear men and womens clothing and the whole life goal of a woman is to find a man

I'm kind of old school. I appreciate taking care of my man but anyway

Yeah

Jyster

As a male very few people have asked my motive for losing weight. One woman asked and I told her the truth, doctor said if I didn't, i'd be dead. She doesn't ask me questions anymore.

Just_Mel_

I've found plenty of men even being bigger. Hell, I'm still a big girl and have had no issue with that. My ex hubs used to get upset when I was losing weight though. I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

_pi3_

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I've found plenty of men even being bigger. Hell, I'm still a big girl and have had no issue with that. My ex hubs used to get upset when I was losing weight though. I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

Haha .. that's funny about your ex

DasItMan91

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I've found plenty of men even being bigger. Hell, I'm still a big girl and have had no issue with that. My ex hubs used to get upset when I was losing weight though. I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

Well he's your ex for a reason.

FireTurtle75

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

Is this a common thing?

TsitoB

FireTurtle75 wrote: »

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

Is this a common thing?

Insecurity is a damn fine *kitten*.

_pi3_

FireTurtle75 wrote: »

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

Is this a common thing?

My bf says something to that

So yeah

pamfgil

I've never had that, but my suggestion would be to say "no, I have health issues and if you keep bringing it up I'll tell you all about them in detail"

MFPSK1977

Avocado_AS5 wrote: »

I've found plenty of men even being bigger. Hell, I'm still a big girl and have had no issue with that. My ex hubs used to get upset when I was losing weight though. I always got the "oh you're gonna get thin and leave me" types of *kitten*.

"Ex". Curious now.

Vikka_V

So my response is not really on topic, but it make me want to say that I hate it when people assume that because I am single I want a relationship.

I hate it when people try to set me up or suggest I do something about my single status.

I've had distant friends (basically just acquaintances) try to set me up with random people (seriously, people they just met) just because I am single and they assume I want a relationship.

browneyedgirl749

People get a "I feel sorry for you" look on their face when I tell them my reasons. I hate that look. I don't need that look. I've accepted it, I don't need pity. I wish people just wouldn't ask me.

SomebodyWakeUpHIcks

I get asked that ALL the time. And I say "what? I'm not gay!"

(Not that there's anything wrong with that)

LittleHearseDriver

I'm trying to find my pants.

RunHardBeStrong

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

I'm trying to find my pants.

Did you look under HIS bed?

dc8066

I'd say 'Yes' to this question and explain that men like to hide in very narrow and hard to reach places, that's why I need to be very fit and strong

LittleHearseDriver

RunHardBeStrong wrote: »

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

I'm trying to find my pants.

Did you look under HIS bed?

Found em! They were hanging from the chandelier in the entryway.

RunHardBeStrong

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

RunHardBeStrong wrote: »

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

I'm trying to find my pants.

Did you look under HIS bed?

Found em! They were hanging from the chandelier in the entryway.

Oh, that makes complete sense. I am guessing your shirt was on the front porch then?

healthypelican

It is for some people: me

Ouiser8

God, I'm like the biggest mystery to coworkers and relatives - I haven't had a relationship in years (my choice) and people become obsessed with my single status. I'm 29, apparently I should be fishing. When I was overweight, they could just assume that it was because I was fat and no man wanted me. Um, no, it's cause I don't want no man. But now that I'm on a diet, suddenly I'm getting all the "who is he" questions. Blah.

I just... don't wanna. I don't want to justify why I'm not with anyone.

SomebodyWakeUpHIcks

@LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

I'm trying to find my pants.

You left them over here

LittleHearseDriver

RunHardBeStrong wrote: »

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

RunHardBeStrong wrote: »

LittleHearseDriver wrote: »

I'm trying to find my pants.

Did you look under HIS bed?

Found em! They were hanging from the chandelier in the entryway.

Oh, that makes complete sense. I am guessing your shirt was on the front porch then?

Socks and shoes were on the front porch. My shirt was in the freezer with my beloved Halo Top.

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Jdismybug1

PAGinger wrote: »

I don't know about anyone else, but it drives me NUTS every time someone comments on my weight loss and then asks me if I'm trying to get a boyfriend.

First of all, "finding a man" is the last thing on my mind since I already have someone. Second, there are more important reasons I'm working on getting off this weight; my knee replacements could last longer than 10-15 years, clothes look better (and easier to find than when I was a size 32), and most important, I'll live a longer, healthier life.

Why on earth does anyone think a woman's main goal for losing weight is getting male attention? Anyone want to chime in their thoughts?

First off I think you're an inspiration. Not everyone is here for the same reasons, and you have a wonderful outlook.
I would tell the people that assume why you're losing weight to shove it.
You shouldn't have to explain why you're losing weight, if they can't figure it out it's their problem. It's your body, your life.

PAGinger

retro_gamer wrote: »

Are you by chance a ginger from Pennsylvania? lol because I am too

As matter of fact, I am!

TorStar80

I never understood this either. Lots of fat people meet and fall in love and get married.. etc etc... when people ask that stuff I immediately know how shallow they are.

seltzermint555

People will always find some sort of weird rude question to ask.
I lost the majority of my weight right around age 34-37 and at that time I was already in a relationship/married, but multiple acquaintances asked if I was trying to conceive.
I have been staunchly childfree by choice since my teens.

During that period of time we had a major pregnancy scare and my then-boyfriend (now husband) had a vasectomy, as well, to avoid an oops in the future. Made it even funnier and more obnoxious when they asked about trying to conceive. smh

BoosDimples

Yes. I mean, how on Earth could I live life without a man?.... Oh, wait.................................... Yay for brains and the ability to use them!

SRSY?! WTF!