The not-so-secret secret to a happy marriage

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2stepscloser
2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
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Ladies, if you want to improve your marriage, take care of your spouses so they will not go elsewhere. Regular sex will get you just about anything your heart desires :heart:

Men (especially those with small kids) HANG IN THERE... It will get better!! :drinker: Believe it or not, most women with small children honestly do not think about sex all the time. Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

Communicate with one another, speak up about your likes/dislikes and it will be all good. :wink:

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  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
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    Gee. I thought communication and understanding were key. Silly me.
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
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    Awww and I have to say you look great Meredith!
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
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    Gee. I thought communication and understanding were key. Silly me.

    We'll have none of that free-thinking, new age, women-are-equal-to-men nonsense, here! Out!
  • Nikki31104
    Nikki31104 Posts: 816 Member
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    Regular sex never hurts. After 9 years together we still have sex multiple times a week. I feel that it strengthens our relationship.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    Ladies, if you want to improve your marriage, take care of your spouses so they will not go elsewhere. Regular sex will get you just about anything your heart desires :heart:

    Men (especially those with small kids) HANG IN THERE... It will get better!! :drinker: Believe it or not, most women with small children honestly do not think about sex all the time. Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    Communicate with one another, speak up about your likes/dislikes and it will be all good. :wink:

    Anything else you care to add?

    I'd advise never put relationship issues on the internet and overall, don't get other people "involved" in your relationship unless it is a marriage counselor. The only exceptions would be circumstances like abuse, of course.
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
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    Regular sex never hurts. After 9 years together we still have sex multiple times a week. I feel that it strengthens our relationship.
    It can do sometimes......
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
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    Ladies, if you want to improve your marriage, take care of your spouses so they will not go elsewhere. Regular sex will get you just about anything your heart desires :heart:

    Men (especially those with small kids) HANG IN THERE... It will get better!! :drinker: Believe it or not, most women with small children honestly do not think about sex all the time. Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    Communicate with one another, speak up about your likes/dislikes and it will be all good. :wink:

    Anything else you care to add?

    I'd advise never put relationship issues on the internet and overall, don't get other people "involved" in your relationship unless it is a marriage counselor. The only exceptions would be circumstances like abuse, of course.


    I'm not having any relationship issues.... Just my opinions :)
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    Ladies, if you want to improve your marriage, take care of your spouses so they will not go elsewhere. Regular sex will get you just about anything your heart desires :heart:

    Men (especially those with small kids) HANG IN THERE... It will get better!! :drinker: Believe it or not, most women with small children honestly do not think about sex all the time. Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    Communicate with one another, speak up about your likes/dislikes and it will be all good. :wink:

    Anything else you care to add?

    I'd advise never put relationship issues on the internet and overall, don't get other people "involved" in your relationship unless it is a marriage counselor. The only exceptions would be circumstances like abuse, of course.


    I'm not having any relationship issues.... Just my opinions :)

    You asked if there was anything else to add. I was adding.
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
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    Regular sex never hurts. After 9 years together we still have sex multiple times a week. I feel that it strengthens our relationship.
    It can do sometimes......
    And I meant in a good way! :wink:
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
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    If you feel like something is wrong or are unhappy talk first to your spouse! It is up to the two of you to work things out. If you can't openly talk about what is wrong you are at the mercy of chance to fix your problems. No topic should be off limits between the two of you.
  • ladyark
    ladyark Posts: 1,101 Member
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    I think that it is important to fight fair.....no name calling or things you cannot take back....

    Dont sweat the small stuff that causes fights....most of it wont even matter a year from now or less....

    And just because you do have a fight...DO NOT with hold sex. Why punish yourself .....sometimes that makes for the best sex.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
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    What works for one couple may not work for the other. Patience, understanding, and cutting the other person some slack is a good place to start. No one is perfect, but if we both make an effort to treat each other the way we want to be treated then that helps some. Also don't compare your marriage to anyone else's.
  • PeanutButterLuver
    PeanutButterLuver Posts: 910
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    I agree. When my daughter was young sex was not all that important to me. Combined with working full time & raising a family you tend to not make time for one another.
    Now that I'm 40+ & my daughter is a teenager. sex is more important than it ever was.
  • kindasortachewy
    kindasortachewy Posts: 1,084 Member
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    Unless you have a hubby who does not think about sex every 7 seconds. I have the higher sex drive in my marriage, but a long shot. Bribing him with sex would get me nowhere.
  • zumbajheri
    zumbajheri Posts: 200 Member
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    Ladies, if you want to improve your marriage, take care of your spouses so they will not go elsewhere. Regular sex will get you just about anything your heart desires :heart:

    Men (especially those with small kids) HANG IN THERE... It will get better!! :drinker: Believe it or not, most women with small children honestly do not think about sex all the time. Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    Communicate with one another, speak up about your likes/dislikes and it will be all good. :wink:

    Anything else you care to add?

    I'd advise never put relationship issues on the internet and overall, don't get other people "involved" in your relationship unless it is a marriage counselor. The only exceptions would be circumstances like abuse, of course.


    I'm not having any relationship issues.... Just my opinions :)

    You asked if there was anything else to add. I was adding.

    Yeah, I took this as those ppl who advertise their ish or air their dirty laundry on fb, etc. I think there should be a level of privacy out of respect for your partner. I don't want everyone knowing every detail lol it's none of their business!
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
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    Unless you have a hubby who does not think about sex every 7 seconds. I have the higher sex drive in my marriage, but a long shot. Bribing him with sex would get me nowhere.

    Same here.............my husband can take it or leave it, LOL
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
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    Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    ...I am so confused with this statement. What's wrong with a woman asking for sex? Why will she go elsewhere? What does a man card have to do with your wife asking for sex?
  • Nikki31104
    Nikki31104 Posts: 816 Member
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    Do not allow your wife to beg for sex...in addition to losing you're man card, she'll go elsewhere for it.

    ...I am so confused with this statement. What's wrong with a woman asking for sex? Why will she go elsewhere? What does a man card have to do with your wife asking for sex?

    I think she actually means BEG for it. It is one thing to initiate it but something completely different to have to actually beg for it...unless of course you are into that kind of thing. I have known women who strutted around nude and their husbands did look twice.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,585 Member
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    Lol, practically every married man I've talked to usually agree....................................conformity works. An unhappy wife is an unhappy life..................for everyone.
    Hold your ground on stout beliefs, but go along with everything else.:wink:

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  • vaporhockey83
    vaporhockey83 Posts: 84 Member
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    Definitely not a one-size-fits-all type of situation. Obviously being physical is natural in a relationship. I just let my wife know that I'm in the mood and whether she wants to or not doesn't bother me. Having a three year-old, I understand when my wife is tired, worn from a whole day of keeping a kiddo entertained while I'm at work, or just simply not in the mood. We communicate these things and if we're not engaging a lot during spurts, I don't let it bother me. I said, "I do", and meant it. I love her and love triumphs urges I can suppress or take care of on my own if needed. I'd never stray even if it were that bad. When it reaches unbarable levels, I'll let her know. Same goes on the flip side. I'm happy overall just trying to make her happy in every capacity.

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