My mind won't catch up to my body!

ashleesatterthwaite

I've lost about 70 lbs since October 2016, going from a size 20 to a size 10. My original goal size was a 12, but I'm still about 25ish lbs short of goal weight. Regardless, I'm finding myself often still feeling/seeing the 265lb girl I used to be. Any advice as to how to combat that? I feel like a wire is loose. I can't pretend like I'm not wearing a size 10 now...I just need my brain to catch up with my body!

Rammer123

This isn't meant to sound mean or anything. But you have to love yourself regardless of where you are. If you didn't love yourself (in terms of your weight and body) at 265, you will not love yourself when you are 165 or 155 or 145. You have to love yourself NOW, always. If you're always looking to lose a little more weight, or tighten this up, or this or that, you'll never be happy. It's almost like you have to make a conscious switch in your head to just be SOOOO proud of yourself and your body all the time.

Look at how far you've come! Not many people can say they've lost 70 pounds, gone down 10 sizes, and obviously I don't know the exact numbers but everything on your body has clearly gone down in size a significant amount. Be proud of that! Remind yourself how strong your body has been for you. It worked as hard as it could to keep you healthy then and it continues to work hard to keep you healthy now.

You're doing awesome, but I think there's a mental switch that you have to almost consciously make, until it becomes naturally to love your body all the time, no matter the flaws (whether they are real or imagined by you).

runningjen74

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Maybe work on some mindfulness. I know it's all in vogue at the moment, but I've been trying to give it some time as I'm susceptible to over reacting to stress and am trying to build up some new skills for next time something comes up.

I've tried journaling and positive talk and honestly I think they can help. Writing down all your non scale victories, new clothes that fit, new fitness achievements, new confidence.... Write it down and keep reading it back! You clearly done really well now give yourself some credit for it, and start to accept you for who you are now and not a future you where you keep changing the goal posts.

jemhh

You look great! The only suggestion that I can make is to be kind to yourself and allow your brain time to catch up. It can take longer than you'd think. I lost my weight over the course of 2014 and I'd say it took a full year after that (so to the end of 2015) to cut back on the majority of my "big" thinking. And even now I have times when I still feel like the older version of me.

kazz882

I can totally relate to this, I am down 60 pounds, from a uk size 22 to a 14 and still see the same person in the mirror, I even put on smaller size clothes and think they are just big made, one thing that makes me realise how much I've actually lost, is trying on clothes that were tight a few years ago and are way too big now, weird how our mind plays trick on us!