Children's nutrition help?
TiffanyWallis
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Is there an app or game to help teach kids healthy eating? Games and rewards seem to work well and a fun app could be helpful? My son isn't gaining weight at all, he's 7, a horrible picky eater, who now falls asleep fighting the battle at the table. 
I really need help.
I really need help. 0
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The best way is to lead by example. Cook and eat healthy foods yourself, and expect him to do the same by not buying "special" kid foods and cooking separate meals for him out of unhealthy foods that he finds acceptable. If kids see that they aren't going to get a different meal if they whine and complain about the one that you cooked, they'll eventually get hungry enough to eat what you prepared. Even if they end up skipping a meal or two, just keep offering what you cooked for the rest of the family, and they'll eventually eat.
This is coming from a former ultra-picky eater that would wait out meals at the table until mom would cook me something that I approved of, no matter how long doing that took. In retrospect, I wish that she would have done this for me.8 -
He's old enough to have some involvement in planning meals, shopping, preparing food, and doing a little clean up. He should not have a lot of pressure, but he can learn about food by "doing" food.5
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I don't think it's worth "fighting the battle at the table" as by the sound of it, you aren't winning if he's falling asleep. It'll just make you more stressed, he'll pick up on it and realise that he, not you, is in control of the situation.
My friend had a son who went through a "picky" stage and would only eat yoghurt and drink milk. My friend tried to get him to eat other foods as she was worried about malnutrition but he just wouldn't. In the end she took him to a dietitian who told her to stop trying to get him to eat other food and to let him eat what he wanted whilst the rest of the family carried on with their normal diet. The dietitian said that he'd get over the picky stage and would want to eat what the rest of the family were having.
And it worked. The picky stage lasted about six months and then he started to eat the same food as the rest of the family and now, aged 18, is a healthy individual who eats anything.3 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »I don't think it's worth "fighting the battle at the table" as by the sound of it, you aren't winning if he's falling asleep. It'll just make you more stressed, he'll pick up on it and realise that he, not you, is in control of the situation.
My friend had a son who went through a "picky" stage and would only eat yoghurt and drink milk. My friend tried to get him to eat other foods as she was worried about malnutrition but he just wouldn't. In the end she took him to a dietitian who told her to stop trying to get him to eat other food and to let him eat what he wanted whilst the rest of the family carried on with their normal diet. The dietitian said that he'd get over the picky stage and would want to eat what the rest of the family were having.
And it worked. The picky stage lasted about six months and then he started to eat the same food as the rest of the family and now, aged 18, is a healthy individual who eats anything.
This.. My son went through a pancakes and chicken nuggets phase that lasted it seemed like forever. Now he's a 15 year old eating machine and needs a dang job. :laugh:6 -
I highly recommend "Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook" by Ellyn Satter.2
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TiffanyWallis wrote: »Is there an app or game to help teach kids healthy eating? Games and rewards seem to work well and a fun app could be helpful? My son isn't gaining weight at all, he's 7, a horrible picky eater, who now falls asleep fighting the battle at the table. I really need help.
Uhg! My seven year old is driving us crazy too. She understands being healthy, but she's so damn picky. We have resorted to punishment for not eating small portions of what we serve, because she is anemic and has other issues from refusing to try anything new. I hate doing it, but we tried the positive approach for 7 years and it hasn't worked. The punishment route is.1 -
Chef_Barbell wrote: »Madwife2009 wrote: »I don't think it's worth "fighting the battle at the table" as by the sound of it, you aren't winning if he's falling asleep. It'll just make you more stressed, he'll pick up on it and realise that he, not you, is in control of the situation.
My friend had a son who went through a "picky" stage and would only eat yoghurt and drink milk. My friend tried to get him to eat other foods as she was worried about malnutrition but he just wouldn't. In the end she took him to a dietitian who told her to stop trying to get him to eat other food and to let him eat what he wanted whilst the rest of the family carried on with their normal diet. The dietitian said that he'd get over the picky stage and would want to eat what the rest of the family were having.
And it worked. The picky stage lasted about six months and then he started to eat the same food as the rest of the family and now, aged 18, is a healthy individual who eats anything.
This.. My son went through a pancakes and chicken nuggets phase that lasted it seemed like forever. Now he's a 15 year old eating machine and needs a dang job. :laugh:
My daughtrs picky stage has lasted 7 years. It's seriously affecting her health now. I'm done being patient :-(1 -
Chef_Barbell wrote: »Madwife2009 wrote: »I don't think it's worth "fighting the battle at the table" as by the sound of it, you aren't winning if he's falling asleep. It'll just make you more stressed, he'll pick up on it and realise that he, not you, is in control of the situation.
My friend had a son who went through a "picky" stage and would only eat yoghurt and drink milk. My friend tried to get him to eat other foods as she was worried about malnutrition but he just wouldn't. In the end she took him to a dietitian who told her to stop trying to get him to eat other food and to let him eat what he wanted whilst the rest of the family carried on with their normal diet. The dietitian said that he'd get over the picky stage and would want to eat what the rest of the family were having.
And it worked. The picky stage lasted about six months and then he started to eat the same food as the rest of the family and now, aged 18, is a healthy individual who eats anything.
This.. My son went through a pancakes and chicken nuggets phase that lasted it seemed like forever. Now he's a 15 year old eating machine and needs a dang job. :laugh:
My daughtrs picky stage has lasted 7 years. It's seriously affecting her health now. I'm done being patient :-(
We had to supplement with Pediasure. Maybe ask about that.1 -
My son is autistic and will starve himself until severely underweight, he has lack of hunger response, can't hold much attention, among other issues.
The therapists started offering spoonfuls of treats in between each bite, like one skittle... yup every bite, then weaned it to every 3 bites etc until it became treats after meal (he's 3). The best treats are ones he's been asking for. But the rule is, you can't have sugary treats if you don't eat healthy food first. So if he refused to eat, no treats until after the next meal.
We also make his serving small, so not to over whelm him. Like 2-3 chicken nuggets. And added a visual timer of 40 mins later on.
He needs none of it now.
He went from refusing to barely eat for over a year with no weight gain, to regular eating within about 3-4 months. It was a fight, but a severe case. It's worth trying if you're more concerned with weight loss and health issues over healthy eating which can be taught later.
Offering dessert after a meal at first was just too big of an ask. You gotta break it waaay down.5 -
My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!1
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@alyangel123 oh my life, what you have had to go through with your son must have been such a tough time! I'm so glad to hear he is eating more normally now. Great job Mom!!1
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Punishment will create more anxiety around food, and may end up with food issues later on (need to control).
There is a difference between picky eating and restrictive eating. I have a son with autism as well as a child with restrictive eating/adhd. It's hard. Never ever punish for their selective eating.
We have made progress with smoothies and smoothie popsicles. We can add avocado, flax, spinach etc now with blueberries and they can't see the veggies in it. I'm thinking of saving for a Vitamix for this reason alone (for the kids nutrition).
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Strawblackcat wrote: »The best way is to lead by example. Cook and eat healthy foods yourself, and expect him to do the same by not buying "special" kid foods and cooking separate meals for him out of unhealthy foods that he finds acceptable. If kids see that they aren't going to get a different meal if they whine and complain about the one that you cooked, they'll eventually get hungry enough to eat what you prepared. Even if they end up skipping a meal or two, just keep offering what you cooked for the rest of the family, and they'll eventually eat.
This is coming from a former ultra-picky eater that would wait out meals at the table until mom would cook me something that I approved of, no matter how long doing that took. In retrospect, I wish that she would have done this for me.
I agree with this method to a point. If a child has any medical issues that might complicate it, then you just need to feed your child even if it means cooking a separate meal.3 -
OliveGirl128 wrote: »My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!
My son is medicated for adhd. Although it suppresses appetite, he has increased his appetite before he takes his meds and in the evening. Before, part of the lack of eating issue was due to inattentiveness or the inability to slow his mind down to want to eat (not as fun as other things). You may be surprised. We make sure calories count. So, at school sometimes we will throw a cookie in his lunch for extra calories to entice him to eat something. (Schools here hate sugar in lunches but I tell them to not intervene /take it away). He consumes the bulk of his eating between 7 and 8am, and 6 and 730pm. We remind him often though to drink water throughout the day though.2 -
OliveGirl128 wrote: »My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!
My son is medicated for adhd. Although it suppresses appetite, he has increased his appetite before he takes his meds and in the evening. Before, part of the lack of eating issue was due to inattentiveness or the inability to slow his mind down to want to eat (not as fun as other things). You may be surprised. We make sure calories count. So, at school sometimes we will throw a cookie in his lunch for extra calories to entice him to eat something. (Schools here hate sugar in lunches but I tell them to not intervene /take it away). He consumes the bulk of his eating between 7 and 8am, and 6 and 730pm. We remind him often though to drink water throughout the day though.
^^THIS^^ My son is 6 and also on ADHD meds on top of already being a picky eater. He eats more in the AM and in the evening, but always skips lunch (the school can't force him to eat...). We feed him Pediasure right before bed (then brush his teeth and make sure he pees
). I find that not only do the ADHD meds suppress the appetite, but also mess with the way foods taste and how he accepts food textures.
Right now we just want him to EAT, so we fix foods we know he'll eat.3 -
OliveGirl128 wrote: »My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!
My son is medicated for adhd. Although it suppresses appetite, he has increased his appetite before he takes his meds and in the evening. Before, part of the lack of eating issue was due to inattentiveness or the inability to slow his mind down to want to eat (not as fun as other things). You may be surprised. We make sure calories count. So, at school sometimes we will throw a cookie in his lunch for extra calories to entice him to eat something. (Schools here hate sugar in lunches but I tell them to not intervene /take it away). He consumes the bulk of his eating between 7 and 8am, and 6 and 730pm. We remind him often though to drink water throughout the day though.
Take away sugary foods? What on earth! Are they the parents now? Nonsense.
Lol and yeah not giving dessert doesn't need to be punishment if you frame it right. It's more...omg look at the amazing treat you get when you finish, I can't wait. Quick eat up, the cake is waiting. omg just three bites and you get apples wow..and if they don't eat, well never mind, you can have it next time....Not, you can't have any of this cake until you eat because you're bad by not eating now eat or never have cake again haha
Imagine if I told you: you can't have something if you don't do as I say, a part of you would be like, alright screw you then I don't need it that much, thank you very much lolol that's what I imagine my son thinks when I'm bossing him about, he certainly gives me that look haha1 -
TiffanyWallis wrote: »Is there an app or game to help teach kids healthy eating? Games and rewards seem to work well and a fun app could be helpful?
My kids love playing the games on the choose my plate website. They are particularly fond of "Blast Off" and "Trainer."
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Let me preface this with my kids are healthy, mentally and physically... well sometimes I question mentally
I'm pretty strict with meals. They have to eat a small portion of what I make. If they don't it gets wrapped up for their next meal. Eventually they will be hungry enough to eat it. My older two caught on fairly quickly and will eat without much complaining. My youngest (4 year old) will announce that she's saving her dinner for breakfast. And yes she will eat it at breakfast. Sometimes she'll even save it for lunch...
Having my kids help prepare dinner has really opened them up to trying food. They get excited about it.
I also eliminated snacks in between meals. We eat 3 square meals a day. If they are snacking they won't be properly hungry for their next meal. I may have to rethink this as my kids are getting more and more into sports and school activities.
I've also witnessed my kids coming around to meals that they sobbed over having to eat. After eating it a few times they tell me they love it. That's why I believe making them try dishes a few times is good for them.0 -
OliveGirl128 wrote: »My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!
My son is medicated for adhd. Although it suppresses appetite, he has increased his appetite before he takes his meds and in the evening. Before, part of the lack of eating issue was due to inattentiveness or the inability to slow his mind down to want to eat (not as fun as other things). You may be surprised. We make sure calories count. So, at school sometimes we will throw a cookie in his lunch for extra calories to entice him to eat something. (Schools here hate sugar in lunches but I tell them to not intervene /take it away). He consumes the bulk of his eating between 7 and 8am, and 6 and 730pm. We remind him often though to drink water throughout the day though.
Oh my, I didn't even think there may be a connection but that makes perfect sense! He seriously cannot sit still and stands at the dinner table (or is under it
). We pulled him from traditional school last year and he does an online program through a local district now, so he has the freedom to move around and not be around other kids, which is a trigger. Being around him all the time now though makes me realize how bad it is-both with his attention issues and then his food issues. He has his appointment on Thursday with the pediatrician and I'm getting a referral for the testing, (pediatrician recommended it last year but we had bad insurance that wouldn't cover it), and I'll for sure bring this up, thanks so much!
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Our kids are allowed to stand at the table as well to eat. We also have a couple high stools with backs that they seem to like. We are pretty relaxed now with meals as our priorities have shifted (want calories in them vs sitting) or having something else to do while eating (book, colouring, watching ipad, etc) . ADHD is excruciating to have and only eat and do one thing at the time, lol. Very hard for them. Whatever works for your family is okay! Us asd/adhd parents understand 2
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OliveGirl128 wrote: »OliveGirl128 wrote: »My 9 year old son has his annual dr. appointment next week and this is on my 'to talk about' list. The kid seriously just doesn't care about eating and if I don't get after him he would go all day without food. He was labeled failure to thrive as an infant and has always been small, and unfortunately this is carrying over into his older years sigh.... I'm especially concerned because he needs to get tested for ADHD (he has every symptom of it, so the test will just be a formality), and I've heard that most of the meds are appetite suppressants ugh. We might have to put him on Pediasure or something. So no advice but I totally get where you're at!
My son is medicated for adhd. Although it suppresses appetite, he has increased his appetite before he takes his meds and in the evening. Before, part of the lack of eating issue was due to inattentiveness or the inability to slow his mind down to want to eat (not as fun as other things). You may be surprised. We make sure calories count. So, at school sometimes we will throw a cookie in his lunch for extra calories to entice him to eat something. (Schools here hate sugar in lunches but I tell them to not intervene /take it away). He consumes the bulk of his eating between 7 and 8am, and 6 and 730pm. We remind him often though to drink water throughout the day though.
Oh my, I didn't even think there may be a connection but that makes perfect sense! He seriously cannot sit still and stands at the dinner table (or is under it ). We pulled him from traditional school last year and he does an online program through a local district now, so he has the freedom to move around and not be around other kids, which is a trigger. Being around him all the time now though makes me realize how bad it is-both with his attention issues and then his food issues. He has his appointment on Thursday with the pediatrician and I'm getting a referral for the testing, (pediatrician recommended it last year but we had bad insurance that wouldn't cover it), and I'll for sure bring this up, thanks so much!
Have you tried the little yoga seats? You blow them up, they have little sensory soft spikes on them and they can wiggle on them and move around. Theyre good fun and my boys liked them for a while. Weighted or compression vests made a massive difference too, but you can use a backpack with water bottles and fun toys. Mine love those, they think they're all cool wearing them and tell each other to put them on haha they went from, not tolerating each other and minimal sign language, to full sentences and to best friends in less than a year.
Also there's been a change and you don't even need a disorder to get behavioural therapy now. Just a signed Drs note about it. They learn all sorts of school stuff with their therapists and have a blast. It gives you a break, and they have some cool techniques to help you, they're always in your corner even if they don't fully agree with you. Plus who doesnt need a backup sometimes with these kinds of kids? It's made mine n the kids relationship so much stronger and I've learnt a lot about them and how to meet their needs Anand get their education up to scratch.3
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