Feeling angry with myself

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  • claire47
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
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    Hi. I'm feeling so angry with myself. 4 years ago I got down to 9st 3lb. And I've fluctuated alot but for years stayed between 9 and a half to 10 stone. Since November I have put on 14lb and now sit at 10st 8lb. I'm 5'3 and 30. I've allowed this to happen and I'm so upset with myself but scared I won't find the motivation to get back to being healthy. My clothes are tight and I have back fat now and I just want to feel better but comfort eating just keeps getting the better of me. Any advice, Help, support, or MFP friends would be appreciated! Claire x
    Well you're not upset enough to change it. When you do, then you do the things necessary to change it. And then commit to it till you reach your goal.
    People can easily "desire" anything. Going out and doing what it takes for that desire is a totally different thing.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
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    And she's taking the first step by coming here onto MFP and asking for support.
    And asked for "advice" which I gave. Support doesn't always mean having to be "oh, you can do this" of "you got this". It can come in the form of giving constructive solid advice. It's not like I don't do this for living or anything.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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    I appreciate your advice. It's true, it has to click in your head that you have the drive to achieve it. I guess it's taken me a little bit for the anger to make me do something about it. I'm on the right path for now I just hope I can stick to it. Cx
    Have a plan, make sure it's reasonable and be consistent. I have my clients be SPECIFIC with their plans. If you're not sure, here's what I give them.

    1. Write it down and keep records (daily if possible)
    Goal
    Milestones
    Daily schedule
    Month to month schedule
    Research to go to if you need help

    2. Be specific in your planning
    Know how you're going to achieve your goal
    Set achievable way to do it
    Implement plan consistently

    3. Set measurable milestones
    It may be weight loss per week (though it's not linear), it may be how much weight you can lift,
    how far you want to run by then, what your clothing size is, etc. Don't get overzealous though.

    4. Schedule how your day goes
    If exercise is going to be part of it, MAKE A SPECIFIC TIME for it. Same with sleep, work, and
    time with family or hobbies.

    5. Put timelines on everything.
    Don't lollygag on something like watching TV too long. It's easy to get lazy if one spends too much
    time on not doing something conducive towards their goal.

    6. Celebrate your successes
    Small ones matter and help create confidence on other harder goals.

    7. Know that there will be obstacles and deterrences and have a back up plan
    Things aren't always in your control, so have options available in case this does happen. My kid
    hasn't stayed home sick for a long time (almost 5 years now), but I do have a plan set aside if she
    does. Same with party invitationals and eating out.

    8. Don't stop till you make it!
    If you follow your plan consistently, you should reach your goal. Even if you don't meet it at the
    proposed timeline, DON'T STOP till you do!



    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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    Thank you so much for all your help. I really appreciate it! Cx

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