Nasty comments from strangers

jpoehls9025

CrazyComicLady wrote: »

Hi there, I had an unpleasant experience with a woman I see occasionally when I walk my dog, she said it looked like I'd put on weight, complete with unflattering hand gestures indicating how fat I was, I got as far as to say 'I suffer from disabilities' before she cut me off and said that was no excuse. I'm really upset and angry about this, she doesn't know me or anything about my life. The last few days I've been having to use crutches around the house because my condition as been so bad, I can't use them when I take the dog out because I need both hands to control her so I manage as best I can without them, often hobbling and limping my way home. (I suffer from partly fused ankles/tarsal coalitions and Ehler danlos syndrome). She has no right to judge me, the stupid thing is that I haven't gained any weight in the few weeks since I last saw her. I have put on about 12 lbs this year because I've been really struggling with a lot of stresses in my life but I'm still 22lbs less than I was 2 years ago. I've always struggled with my self esteem when it comes to my appearance but to have it confirmed by a stranger is so soul crushing, I feel so discussing. I hate myself.
She even said I 'should use one of those tablet things' to help. (I've been on this app since late 2015) I walked away at that point. Ive struggled with eating disorders since I was a teen. I've been a battling my emotional eating for 16 years. God knows I try.
I'm so deflated and upset. Other people's thoughtless comments can be so damaging when your not in a good headspace. I'm 5'4 and 157lbs

Have you guys had any similar experiences or received comments from people which has shaken your confidence?

I hope this does not seem offensive and really want to help:

accept and LOVE yourself for who you are and pay no mind to others thoughts. You define the kind of person you are going to be not someone else. If I listened to what others had said to me I would still be 275lbs or more and would have never met anyone much less get married and been in the Military. I know its hard sometimes, it feels like the entire world and circumstances are stacked against you, but I must tell you something, you must strengthen your mind before your body. Once you have found what is causing you to feel the way you do and realize your life is in your control no mater what condition you might be in you will then find the confidence to turn a new leaf and move forward destroying everyones expectations (loosing weight, ect) and define how you want to be to the world instead of letting others in the world to define you.

Good luck friend and enjoy the journey, stay strong, remember you don't need easy, you just need possible!

88olds

Yeah, I've had lots of people say things in the course of my life that have shaken my confidence. But that generally just has to do with me.

Then there's this: I'm likely older than you, something I've observed- people are nuts. Some of them very nuts. She may have her walls papered with tinfoil for all you know.

Chef_Barbell

SezxyStef wrote: »

no sorry I haven't...people are intimidated by me for some reason...so if they wanted to say something they wouldn't.

But i know this happens a lot...I just SMH...and remember this...unless that person has a role in your life...then they can't dictate how you feel...

or a fav quote

If you got a problem with me call me/text me...if you can't cause you don't have my number you don't know me well enough to have a problem with me.

This for me too. People seem scared of me and I am rarely confronted with BS.

amtyrell

"You seem particularly bitchy these days. Have you thought about going on a personality cleanse??"

Don't worry about the opinions of people who you don't respect. This person is not worthy of respect.

anechka1981

This is harsh

mazdauk

Drop your dog's "package" where she will tread on it, or put it by the wheel of her car.
She needs to get a life, and stop looking at magazines full of airbrushed stick insects so she's forgotten what a normal person looks like.
Don't let it get to you, people like that are not worth bothering with.

ccruz985

Get one of those hooks you can put on a belt loop and hook your dog's leash to it so you can use a cane when you walk them so that you have something handy to smack some sense into her the next time you see her.

mazdauk

ccruz985 wrote: »

Get one of those hooks you can put on a belt loop and hook your dog's leash to it so you can use a cane when you walk them so that you have something handy to smack some sense into her the next time you see her.

Love this idea!

elizarizo

My brothers kids always tell me how squishy I am

tinkerbellang83

tcunbeliever wrote: »

stop renting space in your head to fucktards...you have zero control over other people, the only thing you can control is how you react to them.

oooooh how have I not realised that one of my favourite idiot descriptors is not a kittenable offence!

tinkerbellang83

CrazyComicLady wrote: »

Hi there, I had an unpleasant experience with a woman I see occasionally when I walk my dog, she said it looked like I'd put on weight, complete with unflattering hand gestures indicating how fat I was, I got as far as to say 'I suffer from disabilities' before she cut me off and said that was no excuse. I'm really upset and angry about this, she doesn't know me or anything about my life. The last few days I've been having to use crutches around the house because my condition as been so bad, I can't use them when I take the dog out because I need both hands to control her so I manage as best I can without them, often hobbling and limping my way home. (I suffer from partly fused ankles/tarsal coalitions and Ehler danlos syndrome). She has no right to judge me, the stupid thing is that I haven't gained any weight in the few weeks since I last saw her. I have put on about 12 lbs this year because I've been really struggling with a lot of stresses in my life but I'm still 22lbs less than I was 2 years ago. I've always struggled with my self esteem when it comes to my appearance but to have it confirmed by a stranger is so soul crushing, I feel so discussing. I hate myself.
She even said I 'should use one of those tablet things' to help. (I've been on this app since late 2015) I walked away at that point. Ive struggled with eating disorders since I was a teen. I've been a battling my emotional eating for 16 years. God knows I try.
I'm so deflated and upset. Other people's thoughtless comments can be so damaging when your not in a good headspace. I'm 5'4 and 157lbs

Have you guys had any similar experiences or received comments from people which has shaken your confidence?

I am sorry that you have had to deal with this horrible fucktard. In that situation you shouldn't try to explain yourself, she is not someone in your life that is concerned for you, she was just being a *kitten* and you shouldn't feel like you have to justify yourself to her. At your current weight yes you are overweight, but you can lose weight which you have been if you're down 22lbs, You're not that far from a healthy BMI, but it will take her a lifetime to change her personality to improve it.

If you have earphones I would just put them in and blank her in future.

DebLaBounty

I hope that you continue to go outside, proudly take your walk, and just know that the woman is one crazy, messed up, miserable b&%#h. You just keep doing you. Congrats on your weight loss!