Why is it so hard to commit to this?

Smdgrad11

I really want to lose this weight that I have but every time I get started with watching what I eat, by the end of the day I have already let myself slip up. I am not the most active person as I have a full time job at a desk. I have always been a stress eater so that is a huge challenge. I feel like despite wanting to lose this weight my habits and mentality are always in the way.

76Crane76

I agree. It is super tough to break habits. I did exactly what you're doing countless times. I found my first month on MFP, my day would be great until I got home. My family didn't help at first, seemed like they were sabotaging me at times. I just kept at it. Every day. Even when I slipped at supper. Eventually, I became stronger and firmer and told my family "I am not eating that pizza, burger, etc" and when I stuck to it and they knew I meant business, the sabotage subsided. I'm not putting blame on my family, by any means, this was how we had been eating and they are all much thinner than me without the medical issues.

TeaBea

Smdgrad11 wrote: »

I really want to lose this weight that I have but every time I get started with watching what I eat, by the end of the day I have already let myself slip up. I am not the most active person as I have a full time job at a desk. I have always been a stress eater so that is a huge challenge. I feel like despite wanting to lose this weight my habits and mentality are always in the way.

We ALL screw up. You need to just move on.... continue this journey. Weight loss doesn't just happen when you string together 180 "perfect" days. It bet it would also happen if you just had 160 "perfect" days.

Make improvements in your eating habits......we need progress, not perfection.

88olds

Do you want to lose weight or do you just wish you weighed less?

If you want to lose, start a food diary. Don't worry about the numbers yet. Right now today with your next meal you can keep a record of everything you eat or drink. You can use paper and pen. You don't have to use any gadgets if you don't want to. A food diary/journal is the #1 weight loss tool.

You don't have to exercise to lose weight. After you are in the habit a keeping a record, you can start filling in some numbers. There is a learning curve in this. The research takes time. At some point figure out how many calories you can eat to lose at a modest pace. Then see if you can get your numbers in line.

You don't need some big aha transforming moment. You only need a few good//better habits. You can do it.

anahata188

I understand how you feel and I'm going through the same phase... sometimes I also feel I just want to "let go" and just eat and of course always end up regretting! Anyone here would like to start being a buddy to help motivate each other?

ltlldybug

I'm in the same boat, I have to improve my diet so I don't die. I've got a horror story family history as far as health conditions, and I'm stubborn. I'd be happy to help you if you want to help me!

JeromeBarry1

"Really want" and "Committed to" are two very different mental states.

kommodevaran

You need to change habits and mentality, because you can't lose weight. What you can do, is consistently eat less, and if you consistently eat less, your body uses up excess fat. That's not really that hard. (Most people just make it hard, I don't know why, but some seem to enjoy it.) To be successful, you need to focus on what you can do. What do you think you have to commit to? It has to be something you find unpleasant enough to want to stop doing it. What does "watching what you eat" mean? It doesn't sound like "accurate and honest logging of food intake, hitting calorie goal +/- 50 every day", which is something that guarantees weight loss, provided you have set the right calorie goal and do it long enough.

tabletop_joe

Because it's a bummer and it takes time for it to pay off. If you are like me and have a hard time finding joy in the process, consider setting goals with rewards that you will not receive ever unless you hit your goals.

nyponbell

I so needed your post today. I make things harder on myself and often try to change so many things at once. Habits are difficult to change when they are mindless ones, so trying to change several at a time is hard work, with a lot of flailing (I refuse to see it as failings). What I try to remind myself of is that even if I didn't have a "perfect day" (in terms of doing my exercise or eating what I planned) I at least did some of it. And 50% is better than 0%, any day. Will it take you longer to reach your goal? Sure it will and it can be discouraging, but if you stick with it you will get to a mental place of wanting to do better than the day before and when it feels easier to do so. Use the saying "fall down 7 times, get up 8" to remind yourself that you only actually fail when you stop trying at all.