Looking for kind ways at address my weight loss.

cbeutler

I'm down about 50# in the last season, and not only have people started to notice some have become fairly aggressive in asking me personal questions. Getting asked what I weigh or how much I have lost. I usually try and acknowldge the loss with Yes a little bit. But this isn't working very well anymore. Since these are friends and acquaintances I'm looking for kind ways to handle this. I respond to rude comments with Mexican diet pills and Coke, or I have Collins Syndrome.

beaglady

A silent, icy stare usually works. JK. My real life response is 'just being more careful what I eat', followed by changing the subject.

Need2Exerc1se

I haven't had anyone be rude about my weight loss, but when people ask I just answer the questions honestly. If I don't want to talk about it I change the subject.

jemhh

cbeutler wrote: »

I'm down about 50# in the last season, and not only have people started to notice some have become fairly aggressive in asking me personal questions. Getting asked what I weigh or how much I have lost. I usually try and acknowldge the loss with Yes a little bit. But this isn't working very well anymore. Since these are friends and acquaintances I'm looking for kind ways to handle this. I respond to rude comments with Mexican diet pills and Coke, or I have Collins Syndrome.

I would start with "sorry, that's a bit personal and I'd rather not discuss it." For most people, that will end it. After that, if people are still being pushy, I'd be more stern and say something like "I'm not discussing this issue with you, now could you please pass the dinner rolls?" You get what I mean--change the subject. They may be your friends or family but that doesn't mean that you have to let them steamroll you.

Good work, by the way!

LZMiner

Hmmmm. I guess my question is, why wouldn't you tell them? I know, it's none of their business, but you were quick to start your post with it. Be proud! They're noticing your hard work! By sharing your story, you may be helping someone else get started! Just another perspective...

usmcmp

I don't care if people know how much I weigh now, but previously when they would ask me how much I weigh I would turn right around and ask them how much they weigh without answering their question first. It usually helps them to see that it's personal.

As for answering how much you've lost, you just told a bunch of strangers, why can't you tell people you know? You might inspire them.

If they make a rude comment call them out on it. Let them know that it was uncalled for.

cbeutler

LZMiner wrote: »

Hmmmm. I guess my question is, why wouldn't you tell them? I know, it's none of their business, but you were quick to start your post with it. Be proud! They're noticing your hard work! By sharing your story, you may be helping someone else get started! Just another perspective...

Interesting question. I shared it here because I thought it relevant to the question. As a long time obese person with lots of ups and down weight wise I'm pretty picky about what I share IRL. The difference here was relevancy and also that I chose to share it. I don't know if that makes sense or not.

adillon7000

I just usually tell people I've adapted a healthier lifestyle and steer the conversation away after that. This way the rumor mill doesn't start to question my health and I don't have to delve more into the subject than I want.

lorrpb

How much have you lost? "A lot. Thanks for your support!"
How much do you weigh? "A lot less than i used to. Thanks for your support."
OR just smile and say "thank you"

Gisel2015

While back one lady that I didn't care for at all, and had always asked question about my weight and/or made nasty comments (mind you that I was back then about 105 or 106 lbs), asked me how much did I weigh My snarky answer was: obviously, much less than you... She never asked again and the next time that I saw her (6 years go), she avoided me. I was soooo happy!