"Are you expecting"
Amee2017
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This happened to me today. I am 5'2" and 142. I've been small my whole life untiil 2011 when I got preggers and had two kiddos since. I am working on it!!!! I've joined here and went from 145 to 137... but then back to 142. I am so upset.
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So many people have seen my pst and no one has replied
Boo hisss
I could use some supportive words4 -
Okay but it's also only been 23 minutes so10
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I mean, that's awful!
People can be really mean, even when they don't mean to be. Maybe it was coming from a good place, and they were trying to be excited for you.
Don't let this get you down! Get back on track, there's a really supportive community here, especially when you give your post some time to reach the best people. I usually let my posts hang out for 24 hours.
Find an accountability buddy, find exercise that makes you happy, and remember that at the end of the day your two kiddos love you regardless of how you look.0 -
This happens to me all the time. Even when I was at my goal weight - see profile picture. That's me at 130lbs, four years ago. I have diastis recti from having a huge baby and it doesn't go away, even when I'm below a healthy weight. I especially got it from women in the Dominican Republic, even the ones who were fatter than me. At one point I just put back on the 30 lbs I had lost because I was like, who cares, I look fat even when I'm skinny. I would get so mad I'd be yelling and screaming at them in the grocery store...my poor husband doesn't understand Spanish and it would freak him out, until it happened for the tenth time and then he'd just let me go at them. Some people are rude as heck. Depending on where you are, some people actually have no filter I guess.
This time I'm actually going to get a tummy tuck and muscle repairs if I can get to and stay at my goal weight for six months. The baby is 18 now, so it's now or never.
Don't worry about what people say. People are stupid. They are rude. There used to be books on etiquette to prevent this stuff, but now people don't care about being polite, so even if there was such books, people wouldn't read them. Some folks just wander through life acting like idiots and being rude to others without a care in the world. Don't let them get you down. Just use it as fuel to the fire.3 -
I'm sad
And
Now I'm wanting more comfort food
This is awful
And I was beginning to feel remotivated
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But why? You have two choices, get back in shape or eat crappy food and feel like crap. I have an actual medical problem, but I'm not quitting....why would you? People are stupid. I know this for a fact because I drive and I see it in action daily. Don't let stupid people affect you.3
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People say crappy ish all the time. You gotta let that roll off your back.3
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"Are you expecting?"
"Yes, I'm expecting...you not to bug me about my weight!"
no, I don't say it I just think it.
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My response to that question and similar questions was "nope, just fat" as I patted my belly and shrugged. It usually left people with nothing else to say.
If I was really irritable, the response was "yep....that's my food baby. I'll birth it sometime tomorrow".6 -
I love when people ask me that. I make it as awkward as possible. Wide eyes, open look, quizzical smile "Expecting what?"
"When are you due?" "Due where?"
"Oh, do you have good news?" "Yes! The rash isn't contagious!"
You can't control what people say, but you can control how it affects you. If you go and chow down on comfort food, you're not actually going to feel better.4 -
Thank you all for taking time to give me words of encouragement, your kindness means a lot. I'm refocused today on my goals.
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Good job getting your head back in the game!1
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I have always loved this column by Dave Barry: wanderings.net/notebook/Main/ThingsLearn50YearsDaveBarry
One of the things that may resonate in this instance is this: "You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment."
Sounds like some people still have a lot to learn.7 -
Chef_Barbell wrote: »People say crappy ish all the time. You gotta let that roll off your back.
So much this. You can't control the aholes of the world. You can only control how you respond.1 -
Yup it's happened to me. I said "nope I'm just fat". I hope it taught that person to think before they speak!1
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MotherOfSharpei wrote: »My response to that question and similar questions was "nope, just fat" as I patted my belly and shrugged. It usually left people with nothing else to say.
This is exactly what I said/did the two times I was asked if I was pregnant (which I wasn't, and never have been), and that's the reaction I got from people. Startled, embarassed, and fumbling for the words to "make it better." That way I keep a positive attitude about it (no point in flying off the handle), but I hope that their discomfort makes them think twice about saying that to someone again.
(And yes, sometimes posts get buried in the forums. It's nothing personal. There's just a LOT of posts that happen every day here.)
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I quickly responded to her
"Nope I'm just fat"
She became incredibly uncomfortable and so I added "...and bloated bc my period is due soon" which was true.
Meanwhile my young daughter may have overheard me say "I'm just fat" and so I'm wishing I would have simply responded honestly with "no Im not expecting" and maybe added "what makes you ask?" To mess with her!
Anyways
I'm getting over it.
Had a successful day today staying on target.
Again thanks for the support guys2 -
I got that a month ago at three months postpartum. Shopping (pushing stroller) when some rude hag asked when I was due. I was so confused at first. Then just answered "may 10th"...
So she looked down into the stroller and realized her mistake, instantly embarrassed and I just walked away while she was fumbling with trying to say the "right thing" to make up for her dumbness
I cried in the car but since then I've been motivated to get back in shape! But yeah it hurts but we gotta use it as fuel & let it go!!!!!2 -
Totally agree--- it's definitely remotivated me to buckle down and get to my goals!!!!!!! Using it as fuel over here too! Good luck to you...I got that a month ago at three months postpartum. Shopping (pushing stroller) when some rude hag asked when I was due. I was so confused at first. Then just answered "may 10th"...
So she looked down into the stroller and realized her mistake, instantly embarrassed and I just walked away while she was fumbling with trying to say the "right thing" to make up for her dumbness
I cried in the car but since then I've been motivated to get back in shape! But yeah it hurts but we gotta use it as fuel & let it go!!!!!
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