Feeling discouraged and paranoid

xopatd

Hey everyone, first post and all. I am 21, F and 5'4. Kinda feeling down in the dumps today. I've recently started the ketogenic diet, and everyday the weight on the scale has been moving lower and lower. Currently I am at 236 lbs. I'm just feeling discouraged and perhaps a little paranoid. I follow a couple ketogenic related forums where other woman post their progress photos and such. Well, I've been comparing my body to the woman who are at the same weight as I am. Well it seems to me that most woman at 236 lbs don't have the huge gut I do. And it's making me self conscious and feeling discouraged. I carry, a lot, if not all, my weight in my stomach and boobs. I have a huge gut that sticks right out. I feel like my scale is lying to me. That I weigh more than 236....I don't know. I just needed to rant and possibly ask if there's any woman out there who are around my weight and look like I do?

cugogirl2017

I know how you feel, I am trying not to compare myself to anyone. You are consistently losing weight and that is fantastic. Trust it and keep going. I am telling myself that this may be a slow process and in time my body will change and reflect all the hard work. Keep going and good luck! You are off to a great start, be proud of that!

SLLeask

Don't be so mean to yourself!! How cross would you be with a friend and what would you say to her if she did the same thing you are doing? Comparing your shape to someone else's is silly. We are all genetically different. I have a friend who is basically the same weight as me, within an inch or so of my height but we look very different side by side in photos. All her weight is in her tummy so she looks rounder, my weight sits on my bum and thighs and I have small boobs, so a good pair of jeans and heels and I can look slimmer than her but she has gorgeous slim legs, so put her in a short skirt and she looks fantastic whilst mine look like a couple of tree trunks poking out of a skirt. Oh and I have a double chin, no matter how slim I get (boo hoo), so if it's just a head shot of us, I look waaaayyyy heavier than her. Just concentrate on your journey and look for the good in YOU, it's there in everyone, just maybe in a different place! Best of luck.

Siran12001

Every person is different and every body carries its weight in a different form. Where you lose weight first, depends on genetics and is different for each person. It is quite possible that you look better than that person after you lose a few more pounds.

Don't compare yourself to other people. Take a picture of yourself at you starting weight (or if you didn't take one than, take one now). Take some measurements of your body. Start comparing yourself to yourself.

If the weight is going down, you are doing something right.

kommodevaran

Don't compare yourself to others, but if you have to, at least compare yourself to comparable others - you're not so tall, so 236 pounds will look a lot different on someone taller. Also keep in mind that even though a picture can say more than a thousand words, a picture can hide the truth as well. And people often don't tell the truth in words, either, sometimes in the form of outright lies, other times they are just in denial. And don't talk about yourself like that, would you say those things about someone else that you care about?

88olds

I'm a guy. I lost from 285 lbs to 178 as of last WI I've been maintaining for 11 yrs. as low as 168 at one point, high of 186.

Seems like every bit of fat on my body parks right at my middle. Seems that way for all the men in my family. The idea that weight loss will make you a fitness model is wrong. Life has limits. We don't get everything we want.

You may get more of what you want with proper training.

But the reason I responded to your post is this. "Not good enough" is a dangerous thing in WL.
Accept that for a while you are only going to work on the number on the scale.

Stick to facts. That # is a fact. You don't know what you're going to look like even at 200lbs. Don't know what your goal is but assuming it's lower.

What you've done is decided you can see the future and it's not good enough. Short step to why bother. But you can't see the future. You don't know the final outcome.

Not a fan of keto, but if that's your program stick to it. Quit looking at pictures if it's not helpful to your efforts.

Suzanne_the_foot_lady

I carry much of my weight on my belly, hips too. We all have different bodies and comparing is self destructive. I have lost 10lbs but I still have my belly, I realise that I will have to wait for the next 7 or 8 lbs before I notice a reductuon, and need to start doing sit ups and crunches! Not my favoutite, hence the belly.

leggup

Most people are going to say, "Don't compare yourself to others." I say don't compare yourself to a small group of others. People taking progress photos are trying to look their best. Instead, I like mybodygallery.com. I just put in your stats (just weight and height) and saw women who carried weight in their stomachs, some in legs, some who look smaller, some bigger. Pay less mind to people who photograph from high angle.