Revenge body in the making

TavistockToad

emmydoodles83 wrote: »

jcstevens86 wrote: »

Why is it when us men are physically fit or have a nice physique women are insecure about it....its like we cant be fit if in a relationship because we will be more appealing to other women...males no sense

lol actually it's more of when one is fit and not the other. It went the same way when my cousin started losing weight, her husband thought she was getting fit for someone else. So it goes both ways. What didn't make sense to me is that he said his wife was petite and healthy, so I am not sure why she would be insecure, of course we only know a very very little bit, I am sure it was more complicated than just that.

so if you're thin you're not insecure?! :huh:

jcstevens86

That's the thing i don't like thin petite women....i like some thickness to women...

ipmac22

Jancandoit7 wrote: »

jcstevens86 wrote: »

Why is it when us men are physically fit or have a nice physique women are insecure about it....its like we cant be fit if in a relationship because we will be more appealing to other women...males no sense

Totally make no sense to me either- it's insecurity to be sure- my partner and I are doing it together- which def makes it much easier (cooking and such)- but I'd take a healthy partner any day! It's more than just looking good-

Agreed, my boyfriend and I are often working on our separate goals together. We often go to the gym together, or at least help each other make room in our schedules so we can go when we want.

Grimmerick

TavistockToad wrote: »

emmydoodles83 wrote: »

jcstevens86 wrote: »

Why is it when us men are physically fit or have a nice physique women are insecure about it....its like we cant be fit if in a relationship because we will be more appealing to other women...males no sense

lol actually it's more of when one is fit and not the other. It went the same way when my cousin started losing weight, her husband thought she was getting fit for someone else. So it goes both ways. What didn't make sense to me is that he said his wife was petite and healthy, so I am not sure why she would be insecure, of course we only know a very very little bit, I am sure it was more complicated than just that.

so if you're thin you're not insecure?! :huh:

I'm not making that sweeping generalization at all, when I said it's more of I mean it's more like (as in a lot of situations) stating that it happens to both men and women, not just women. And even on MFP you do hear a lot of one person trying to get fit and the other is unsupportive or insecure. But obviously insecurity knows no shape,size or reason.

FitGamerSmoak

Keep it up! Divorce is hard, relationships are hard, but "revenge" can make the body harder LOL. Okay my useless funny for the day. Even if you aren't exacting revenge you are still getting back to you and that's what's important. Keep it up and you will have an amazing journey. Great job getting back to you!

jgnatca

When my dad divorced he bought himself a Ram truck and tuned the radio to Country. Who knew? When my hubby divorced his first wife he joined the gym and got pretty darn good at step aerobics. One of the big positives of a breakup is you get to do those things that's more "you" than "us".

I'm not so cool on revenge goals as the motivation should wane with time. Then what you gonna do?

But you are doing what makes you strong and happy. Great work!

riaanaugustyn

I think it had a lot to do with attention.She is very very good looking and 8 years younger than me. The attention she got never bothered me, as I actually felt good that she was mine. When I started getting some attention, she couldn't handle it. My opinion anyway. I will propably never know and to be honest don't really care.

jcstevens86

riaanaugustyn wrote: »

I think it had a lot to do with attention.She is very very good looking and 8 years younger than me. The attention she got never bothered me, as I actually felt good that she was mine. When I started getting some attention, she couldn't handle it. My opinion anyway. I will propably never know and to be honest don't really care.

im thinkin mine and yours were sisters lol

riaanaugustyn

jcstevens86 wrote: »

riaanaugustyn wrote: »

I think it had a lot to do with attention.She is very very good looking and 8 years younger than me. The attention she got never bothered me, as I actually felt good that she was mine. When I started getting some attention, she couldn't handle it. My opinion anyway. I will propably never know and to be honest don't really care.

im thinkin mine and yours were sisters lol

Bwahahahaha

riaanaugustyn

jgnatca wrote: »

When my dad divorced he bought himself a Ram truck and tuned the radio to Country. Who knew? When my hubby divorced his first wife he joined the gym and got pretty darn good at step aerobics. One of the big positives of a breakup is you get to do those things that's more "you" than "us".

I'm not so cool on revenge goals as the motivation should wane with time. Then what you gonna do?

But you are doing what makes you strong and happy. Great work!

Sure it will fade. From there the new motivation would be to meet someone new who accepts me the way I am, and love to exercise and eat healthy with me. Rather join me than break me down.

Fit_B4_Forty

Amazing Transformation! You should be proud of yourself.

FatWithFatness

Divorce sucks, I've been there. (Still feels like I'm going through it 7 years later) I know it's hard to get under the barbell when you're down, some mornings... I sit in the car, sipping my coffee, talking myself into it. But you know it's the therapy you need and you'll feel better if you do it. There's something cathartic about physically exhausting yourself with strength training.