Difficult to eat healthy with new husband
_super_sarah_
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Really trying to find balance, I just got married to someone who loves to eat out. I'm finding it very difficult to work around this, sometimes he'll eat the food I cook for us, but mostly he wants to go out, and expects me to eat with him. Lately I've been refusing, but this means going most of the day fasting or only eating small snacks until we get home (we stay out most of the time), or making him eat awardly by himself while I just sit there. Help please, any suggestions are welcome
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Learn to cook.
Seriously. Anything I can get at a restaurant (that i would order) I can make BETTER, healthier, and far less expensively at home.
that said, i lost 80 pounds when i was with my ex, and we ate out almost every day. It was typically my only meal of the day and I worked out as well. So it can be done.
I am glad my fiance prefers eating at home - for the cost savings AND better taste and nutrition.17 -
I travel on holiday and face the eating out challenge quite a bit. What seems to help me is tending toward grilled rather than "sauced" entrees, substituting steamed vegetables for the pilaf or potato or whatever the starchy options are, drinking water as beverage much of the time, and refusing to feel guilty about leaving some on the plate. If there is a place that has decent grilled fish or shellfish, I opt for that much of the time, too.2
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Pick the places that have the lighter options. It's possible.4
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Honestly, I’d ask him to eat at home more. I understand loving to eat out and try different places, but food can be just as good (if not better) at home. And if he wants to go out for the social aspect, I can definitely relate to that. Just find things to do that don’t revolve around food. I feel it should be an equal partnership and if one person has a particular goal in mind at the moment, then the other person can really help and support. There will be several examples of this over the years with your husband, and it’s a give and take. I’m certain he’ll need your support in something at some point which will mean a sacrifice on your part. It’s normal and healthy and I really believe this is one example of that.2
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Why can't you eat out while making healthy choices and limiting your portion sizes?10
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Maybe he enjoys the social aspect of it... it might not be about the food itself as much as enjoying people watching or just being surrounded by people.. maybe suggest an alternative activity? Or compromise on how many times you go out.4
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Yeah my hubby likes to eat out as he is the extrovert in our pair.
Find the lower calorie options in your restaurant of choice.
Eat half, bring back half in a takeaway container.
Negotiate at least one night eating together during the week.
Prefer restauraunts with heart healthy options.8 -
Just wait until you have kids and the snacks that come with them.. then read posts about keeping trigger foods out of the house.. LoL8
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Try and compromise, eating at home more often. Maybe do some sums and tell him you can reach goals quicker if you eat at home (e.g. Upgrade cars) and when you do go out choose lighter options like grilled meat/fish and veg/salad.1
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Pick your battles and meals wisely.3
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naw no divorce- just compromise- he may really enjoy eating out- MOST chain restaurants have the menu calorie counters online- so figure out where you want to go- then during the day- find a couple of light options that you can enjoy- many times it may be a seafood or veggie entree- then eat half and have the waiter put the other half in a box even before it gets to the table or order a lunch portion- I remember being newly wed and the fun to" eating out" You tow can DO this thing!- YOU have to make the healthy choice for "yourself"1
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Did you not spend any time together before getting married? How can this only be coming up now? (not being snarky--genuinely curious)31
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Why don't you suggest to him that instead of spending all your money on restaurant meals, you save some of that so you can have a really great vacation in a few months?8
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Compromise and set a number of times to eat out each week. The rest of the time eat at home.
Plan meals together. Get a new cookbook of a favorite type of food and work through it together for fun.
Save more calories for the meals out.
Find something on the menu you can fit in your goals. There are decent choices at most restaurants if you think about it.4 -
My advice is to save calories for that meal out and look for the healthier version of the menu. Some have calories on the menu, if it does search it up they more than likely have it on their website! I also only eat half the meal because there's always more than just one serving on your plate so I eat half and the other half I put in a to go box and save it for later or tomorrow0
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