Needing some tough love.

bihinz

Please help me. I feel so out of control. I know what I should eat and I do most of the time. But then there's that horrible awful 2% of the time that ruins everything. In a matter of 30 minutes (or less) I undo all of my hard work by eating thousands of calories at once. It's like something takes over my brain and body for a brief moment and then I'm left to deal with the aftermath. I'm 40 lbs heavier than I was three years ago and self esteem is at an all time low. I feel disgusting both physically and emotionally. I think more accountability would be so helpful. I can shake my head at myself for eating crap but I know I'll be more serious if I know others are watching. Please hold me accountable, I need some tough love!

kommodevaran

You need to be accountable to yourself. One thing you can do immediately, is to stop buying whatever it is that allows you to eat thousands of calories in one sitting. Then forget the idea that there are things you should eat and shouldn't eat. Then stop thinking about living your life and taking care of your health as "hard work". Aim to eat enough, but not too much, of anything you want. Allow yourself to enjoy it. Then practice being present when you eat.

MinuitMinuet

bihinz wrote: »

Please help me. I feel so out of control. I know what I should eat and I do most of the time. But then there's that horrible awful 2% of the time that ruins everything. In a matter of 30 minutes (or less) I undo all of my hard work by eating thousands of calories at once. It's like something takes over my brain and body for a brief moment and then I'm left to deal with the aftermath. I'm 40 lbs heavier than I was three years ago and self esteem is at an all time low. I feel disgusting both physically and emotionally. I think more accountability would be so helpful. I can shake my head at myself for eating crap but I know I'll be more serious if I know others are watching. Please hold me accountable, I need some tough love!

First, change your mind set as to what constitutes ruining your day. Stop seeing food as the enemy and dieting as your punishment for loving it so much. Start looking at the entire week average. Find your maintenance and stay under it. EVEN IF ITS ONLY BY 10 CALORIES! Count anything under for the WEEK as a win. Work towards lowering your week average.. Still try every day of course to aim for the minimum .5 pound loss a week, but if it's only .2 or .1, count that as being on the right track and a new goal to beat. YOU DONT HAVE TO EAT ONLY 1200 CALORIES TO LOSE WEIGHT! Try 1800 calories. But celebrate under maintenance no matter what it is.

Second, ditch all binge foods. Choose a day once a month to bring ONE ITEM back into your home. If you binge, don't trust it again. Choose something else next month to tempt you with.

Third, eat satiating foods. Foods that fill you up fast and keep you full longer. Stop worrying that, "OMG, this has 500 calories, I won't have much to binge on if I get hungry tonight!" That's how I use to view it anyways. Fear all calories.. Not anymore. Try bacon and eggs for breakfast.. A burger (homemade) for lunch. Steak and baked potatoes for dinner. Need a snack? Grap something high protein. PB on celery but watch that serving size of PB! Try nuts. Sauté up some onion and peppers and make a veggie wrap in a tortilla.

Four, find what works for you. Nothing worked for me till I cut out refined carbs. Breads, pasta, sugar, donuts, chips, etc etc.. did I start managing my eating better. If I have a complete keto day, under 20g of carbs, it's hard for me to eat above 1000 calories. If I eat very low carb, under 50g carbs, I notice I can stay around 1600 cal. If I eat low carb, 100g-150g carbs, I hover at 1800 to 1900 calories for the day. Carbs are my triggers. But 1900 c for me is a pound loss a week so I'm not complaining. If I go over.. say, I go out to eat with family, and binge nearly 3500 calories, I don't sweat it. Next several days I aim for a lot of meat and veggies and low carbs so I can eat less...and aim for a 1900 calorie week total.

You should see my week, it's a roller coaster..

ladyhusker39

You don't need accountability because overeating isn't your problem. It's a symptom. You need counseling to deal with the reason your overeating. Until you figure out whatever's going on there, you'll continue to struggle with food and thus your weight. Start working on what happening in your life that's driving you to eat this way. Take care of your entire self. Be well.

KelGen02

I use to eat like this often, i ate myself to 260lbs and I managed to stay 260lbs for years. I was a couch potato that took comfort in eating suzy q's and a can of pringles in one sitting then eating an hour later because I was hungry. I have degenerative disc disease and several herniated disc in my lower back and neck and I used the pain as an excuse to eat and eat and eat and of course be lazy because how could I exercise with all that pain??? I can tell you from experience food was not the issue, the issue was I was suffering from depression and used food as an outlet. Once I admitted that I was depressed and got help I was able to turn things around. Accountability is GREAT and I am on several accountability groups on Facebook that have been really helpful. However, until you get to the root of your problem, accountability means nothing. Because seriously I was able to justify EVERYTHING in my head with every excuse under the sun on why I over ate and couldn't exercise. I have since lost 70lbs and while I still have 30lbs to go I am exercising regularly, the chronic pain is not as bad and I have established a much healthier relationship with food. Food is not the enemy, there is no such thing as bad foods it all about establishing control and portions sizes. Feel free to add me if you would like, I log daily and encourage and support my friends. Good luck, you got this. #OwnIt

Kelly