Weight loss not noticed?

CryingBlue

So I know this is a fickle thing, but I'm down nearly 30 pounds and no one has said anything to me about it. I'm an apple body shape so maybe it's not as noticeable on me as other body types. But I have lost 6 inches off my waist.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?

Alatariel75

I get the frustration, but are you doing it for them or for you?

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CryingBlue

Alatariel75 wrote: »

I get the frustration, but are you doing it for them or for you?

It's for me, but it's still nice to hear

jadebugs

The Exact same boat. 27lbs down!

ccruz985

Around 30lbs or so is when people started noticing it on me. It'll come. And you're fabulous regardless.

AccountableAmber

Almost 40 lbs down and only my grandma has said she can tell. People will ask me how much I've lost, and I can tell they don't notice, and then they'll look at my boyfriend and say, "Wow, you really look like you lost weight." Side note, he's down 20. It sucks, but what you gon' do?

goldiejdb

I’m in the same boat. I’ve lost 50 lbs but I swear it’s like no one sees it

Raven_Hawk

There will be a day where all of a sudden everyone notices. Where I work I get to see customers every 4 weeks and if one day I see they have lost weight and I say "wow you look great, you have lost weight", they will usually say "thanks, yeah I have lost 20 kilos". I always feel bad that I didn't notice but I guess that is the way it works.

I think if you go buy new fitting clothes and have a change of hair-do, then all of a sudden people just see the whole big difference.

Hang in, it will happen. 30lbs is great.

TnTHawkins

You look great. I agree with another comment, do it for yourself and they will begin to notice. Keep up the good work and stay focused.

pogiguy05

CryingBlue wrote: »

So I know this is a fickle thing, but I'm down nearly 30 pounds and no one has said anything to me about it. I'm an apple body shape so maybe it's not as noticeable on me as other body types. But I have lost 6 inches off my waist.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?

Everyone should not be expecting anyone to notice a thing. You should be doing this for the most important person in your life and that is YOU. If you see and feel the changes then be happy with that. At least that is my take on it. I am doing this for me to be healthier and feel better. I have about 40lbs to go, but I already feel much better and that is what matters to me.

KosmosKitten

I've lost around the same amount since the beginning of the year and no one has noticed a damned thing since I started.

I also went out of my way to not mention my "journey" to friends or family because I didn't want them asking me a million questions or asking me if I was "starving myself".

I've just gotten used to no one noticing much of anything in my life, tbh... and that includes the slow weight loss.

Then again, it may be that I've lost it sooooooo slowly that that's the reason no one has noticed. I agree with others, just hang in there.

lorrpb

Some people aren't very observant, others are reserved or polite and don't comment on people's weight.

fiona4879

Don’t take it personally! Hey it is nice to get positive feedback but the reasons you don’t hear it are nothing to do with you.
1. Your success highlights their lack of progress or poor body image.
2. They are not focused on how you look. They are thinking about other things.
3. Jealously / envy.
4. People are not observant.
5. They are concerned that a compliment on ‘how much better you look’ could be taken the wrong way.

I’m sure there are more.

TR0berts

Many (most?) people tend to not like having their weight talked about. As such, many people don't talk about others' weights. Sure, many do, but it's kind of a weird situation.

I've noticed on people, but I tend to not say much, other than something along the lines of "you look different." I'd hate to be wrong, and have them think that I think they need(ed) to lose weight.

rsclause

When you start losing people may notice but can be hesitant to comment. As you go further into weight loss it becomes more dramatic and people will comment. When I got to my goal I was getting comments like "you lost so much weight, are you well?".

MissMaggieMuffin

In my experience, people who see me frequently don't notice (ie. co-workers, good friends) - and I can understand that. It's the people who haven't seen me for a while that notice. A few comment but many do not.

Nikitazilla

Just one of many ideas , but are you all "liked " by the people you are wanting to notice your loss? At my office, I am not all that nice, but people generally like me. When I was down 10-20-30 people noticed and commented. There is a woman I work with who no one likes. She is down 50 pounds and no one has said a thing. Now I'm sure people " notice" , but are hesitant to speak up depending on your relationship.

MelkaBielka

there will be a day when suddenly everyone sees it and thats all they can talk about. I promise you, they will notice. They might already notice something, but they arent sure what it is and dont say anything until they figure out what it is.

laur357

Another possibility - are you still wearing the same clothes, or the same style of clothing? Weight loss can be masked by frumpy and ill-fitting clothing, and a 30 pound loss likely is making your clothes fit quite differently than they did when your body was larger.

scottma3

There was a time I was losing weight and wanted people to take notice as well. If its people that are seeing you everyday though, they arent as likely to notice the change because you lost the weight gradually in fron tof them. Its the people you havent seen in awhile that might notice more. Regardless, this is about you. Keep grinding it out and get to where you want to be. You can do this!!

DamienAngelica

Do you notice those lost pounds? Isn't that the important thing? Lots of people won't say anything because talking about weight isn't always seen as polite. Keep focusing on your goal; stop worrying about what others think.

kristen8000

I lost 17lbs and I'm thinner than most people in my life have every seen me. I haven't been at this weight for 5 years. Not not one person (other than my mother) has noticed or said anything. Honestly, people don't care. You do this for you, not them.

apullum

People might feel uncomfortable commenting on your body. You never know whether those kinds of comments are welcome or not. I think that's especially true if they don't know that you're actively trying to lose weight. Sometimes people lose weight unintentionally, so no one wants to make the mistake of congratulating someone on weight loss that's actually due to illness. If the people around you know what your goals are, I think they would be more likely to congratulate you on your progress.

EDs3000

it takes 4 weeks for you to see your body changing it take 8 weeks for your friends and family it takes 12 weeks for the rest of world keep going

aeloine

I'm down 40 and literally one person outside my family has said anything. I told him that he's the only one, and he said that it's reeeeeally tough to bring up a woman's weight (especially at work) tactfully.

cwolfman13

CryingBlue wrote: »

So I know this is a fickle thing, but I'm down nearly 30 pounds and no one has said anything to me about it. I'm an apple body shape so maybe it's not as noticeable on me as other body types. But I have lost 6 inches off my waist.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?

You should do a search and look at all of the threads with people complaining that people did say something and how they don't like it.

Here's the thing...someone's weight is a rather taboo topic regardless of whether it's to compliment someone on losing weight or other comments. Frankly, a lot of people can't take a compliment...something like, "hey...you look great...you lost some weight" gets translated in their brains as, "hey...you used to look like a fat pile of *kitten*"...so it's not that people don't notice...it's that they don't comment.

I lost 40 Lbs almost 4.5 years ago...the only people to ever say anything to me was my family, and my administrative assistant at work. In my experience, most people will only talk about it after you mention something about it...most people won't just come out and talk about it on their own.

mfpchris

@aeloine Funny, I wrote this one my newsfeed yesterday

"I'm down close to 50 lbs. (24 kg, 5 stone.) It has been pretty steady since I started back on MFP in March. All of April, May, June, July, August, September, and October nobody said a word to me. All of a sudden people are coming up left and right and saying 'you lost weight' Feels good. I guess some advice to us coworkers out there be a little presumptuous and If someone seems to have drop 10 or 15 pounds we could say "hey you look like you are getting more fit..." or some other gentle acknowledgment."

I guess we are not alone.

magster4isu

It took 60 lbs before anyone said anything to me. I think people notice but don't feel comfortable saying anything.

westguy27

I'd never comment on a woman's weight no matter how much she had lost unless I knew her really well.

LiveLoveFitFab

I wouldn't worry about it. Do you notice a difference? That's all that is important.