Body dysmorphia

80210

5’2 ... not sure how much I weigh as the scale triggers me. Working on going on how I feel mentally/energetically but not sure how much weight I need to lose

Nikitazilla

Well , for example. if someone says lose 10 pounds, you're going going to have to get on the scale and see how much you weigh to lose the ten and potentially be "triggered". I'm all for getting on the scale and beating that trigger, first accomplishment. But if you truly want to avoid the scale, maybe just find exercise you love and do that because it's good for you. You'll look better and feel better.

mom23mangos

Only you can answer that. Is there a specific look you are going for? Are you healthy overall? Are you happy with what you see in the mirror and how you feel?

TavistockToad

well that depends on how you feel about your body at the moment?

FitGamerSmoak

Agreed this is a very internally personal question.
How do you feel?
What do you want to change on your body?
What do you like to do for exercise?

We can't tell you how much to lose and I too am all about beating our "triggers" but what does it trigger for you? Maybe instead of weight do measurements? or find something that would make a good non scale victory.

jemhh

If you cannot weigh yourself due to not being able to handle looking at the number, having a certain number of pounds to lose as a goal isn't going to do anything to help. You won't be able to gauge how much you've lost.

The usual advice to focus on what you see in the mirror rather than the scale doesn't work well for many of us who have body dysmorphia. What I have found helps me is focusing on performance rather than what I see in the mirror. Do you have any performance goals--running X miles, lifting Y pounds, being able to do Z yoga pose, etc?

H_Ock12

If the scale/weight is a trigger, you might try measuring (I personally measure waist, hips, thighs, neck, arms) and monitoring your progress by inches rather than pounds. To set a correct calorie goal, step on the scales with your eyes closed and have a friend record your weight...then have that friend set your calorie goal up in MFP. You'll have your daily calorie goal without having to see your weight.

tulips_and_tea

MotherOfSharpei wrote: »

If the scale/weight is a trigger, you might try measuring (I personally measure waist, hips, thighs, neck, arms) and monitoring your progress by inches rather than pounds. To set a correct calorie goal, step on the scales with your eyes closed and have a friend record your weight...then have that friend set your calorie goal up in MFP. You'll have your daily calorie goal without having to see your weight.

This is exactly what I was going to suggest. And keep taking pictures. Keep the ones you posted above and then in a couple months (or whatever time period you prefer) take new ones in the same poses and similar clothing and compare.

Nikitazilla

jemhh wrote: »

If you cannot weigh yourself due to not being able to handle looking at the number, having a certain number of pounds to lose as a goal isn't going to do anything to help. You won't be able to gauge how much you've lost.

The usual advice to focus on what you see in the mirror rather than the scale doesn't work well for many of us who have body dysmorphia. What I have found helps me is focusing on performance rather than what I see in the mirror. Do you have any performance goals--running X miles, lifting Y pounds, being able to do Z yoga pose, etc?

^^^This is exactly what I meant in my head, but you said it so much better!

Lean59man

You look good now.

It all depends on how lean you want to get.

I wouldn't lose too much more, maybe 5-10 lbs tops.

SoDamnHungry

You look healthy. It really all depends on what you want. And if you have body dysmorphia, you may not be able to trust what you think you want.

leggup

If you aren't ready to look at the scale.. you're not ready to lose weight. You need to figure out your mental stuff first. I suggest talking to a counselor.

88olds

You consider lifting?

busyPK

I would enter your stats in MFP with wanting to lose 0.5lb/wk and eat within those calories. Start walking/exercising for your mental as well as physical health. Go by how your clothes feel and how you feel mentally as you stated. There is no reason to have a set weight you want to be, or a set measurement. Be patient with the process.

LauraS92mfp

Hey going to message you personally xx

80210

SoDamnHungry wrote: »

You look healthy. It really all depends on what you want. And if you have body dysmorphia, you may not be able to trust what you think you want.

EXACTLY! In my head I feel I could lose about 30-50lbs...... BUT I also know that I’ve struggled with body dysmorohia so I’m just at a loss ... am I Normal? Am I heathy? Or am I really letting myself go and need to lose weight? .... I know I sound crazy ! But I wanted to try opening up about it and see what kind of responses I got ... I’m trying to have an honest view of my body and it’s difficult ! Thank you for your response !!!

DivineLotus

Body dysmorphia is a psychological condition. Consider treading very carefully when attempting to lose weight and do it under the supervision of a nutritionist and therapist who specializes in eating disorders.