The fat sibling

SkylerisSquid

Is anyone else the fat sibling? I have three siblings. I am the youngest girl and until adulthood both my sisters were thin. I was two hundred pounds in eighth grade and can't remember a time where I wasn't being shamed by my pediatrician about my weight. Whereas they were size 0s. My brother is still a teen and has always been very lean.
It was always strange being the youngest,tallest, and heaviest daughter. My father is a very large man both in height and weight so I have been compared to him my entire life. When all my siblings are like my mother. That always made sense to me like I was destined to be fat but even he didn't gain his weight until his late 20s. (A little off topic) Anyway, I always had to deal with snickering remarks when I was called their little sister because I was never really little despite being very active. Both of them have kids now and have gained quite a bit of weight or their metabolism has slowed down into adulthood.
It's hard not to continue comparing myself to them even now that we are all adults. I have lost almost 50 pounds since I began to actually weigh myself and I just realized I weigh less than my older sister who I am 5 inches taller than. Is it bad to be proud of this.? She is trying to lose weight but hasn't been able to commit to any sort of life style change so it almost feels like I am taking pleasure in her failure.
I can't help but feel this goes both ways as well. They are just beginning to notice my changes I have always been prone to wearing hoodies so it wasn't very noticeable and they really aren't supportive and are making remarks implying I starve myself. (I don't)
This is starting to turn into 4 am rambling. But has anyone had similar experiences if so I would like to hear about it.

TavistockToad

comparison is the thief of joy...

HealthyAshes88888

I understand. I was always the fat one growing up and even into early adulthood. Now that I'm smaller than my younger sisters, it's hard to not have a sense of "ha-ha" I know it's wrong and I totally agree that comparison is the thief of joy^^^, but when you have been compared to your siblings your whole life it's hard not to be bitter and feel this way.
Since she is struggling, why don't you try to change this way of thinking by helping her along? See if she wants to be a walking partner! I know it feels good to be "winning", but it feels so much better when you can be supportive and help her achieve goals too
Good luck with everything, and I hope you can change this way of thinking because it's really toxic to your relationship

iamthemotherofdogs

I've always been the fat & funny one.

KyleGrace8

I can relate but all of my family has weight issues now. My little sister used to be absolutely ruthless in comparing us together and hasn't made the best comments to me throughout the years. Now I'm the thinner one and there is a place in the back of my mind that is evil laughing but I do hold my tongue. I know how it feels and I'm not about to stoop to that level. I try to give my family members advice but I don't think people will listen until they're ready for a real change. Just worry about yourself. Let others say what they want. I'm also not trying to have karma bite me in the *kitten* later and I find myself as a whale later in life.

Lounmoun

Growing up we were all pretty slim. I was the youngest and shortest but probably weighed the same as my older sister as a teen. I suppose I might have looked more sturdy next to her but was thinner than the average girl my age I got called names at school for how thin I was or asked if I was anorexic (not with concern). My family didn't shame me.
In my mid 20's I started gaining and got overweight. I have lost and gained over the years. I am still working on getting to and maintaining a healthy weight.
My older sister remained very thin for her height. She has health and life issues I do not have. Pretty sure she is at the low end of a healthy weight or underweight. I don't covet that for myself.
Last time I saw my brother a year ago it looked like he was bigger than he used to be. I'm not sure if he is overweight.
My siblings and I don't live in the same states and haven't been all in the same room for maybe 6 years. We communicate maybe once a year. I don't really compare bodies or discuss weight loss with family.

Not outweighing my own husband is a more meaningful milestone to me. Getting to where I feel good and healthy is the best milestone.

seltzermint555

I am not sure if it counts since I don't have biological siblings. But I have a stepsister. When our parents married, she was 21 yrs old and size 0. I was 12 yrs old and size 12, ladies clothing. By the time I was 16 years old I was in plus sizes 22/24. She remained in the 0-2 range and it continued that way for years and years. I was fat, she was thin, no one really made a fuss and again I'm sure a lot of that is us not being related by blood.

I remember when she got married and I "inherited" her old bedroom and size 0 jeans were in the closet and even my skinny friends (age 13-14) couldn't fit into them! We just laughed, actually, it was not a big deal.

Now we're 41 and 49. I am currently a size 10/12 after my major weight loss, and she's around size 8 and dieting like mad because she thinks she is fat all of a sudden as she hit her mid forties. She is the #1 person who goes on endlessly about my weight loss. She buys me (AWESOME) clothes for my birthday and Christmas and honestly she was never once rude or mean to me about my weight even when I was at 300 lb. She and my stepmom both always made excuses for me about being curvier, having Italian heritage, etc (things that did not apply to them) and it made me feel better.

Caporegiem

Can't be the fat sibling if you're the only sibling.....you know what to do.

gamerbabe14

Use to be! Not any more.

rainbow198

I was the biggest person in my family for most of my life. Gulp.

After losing 80+ pounds and keep it off for years I no longer stand out anymore as everyone are all average weight/athletic.

With hard work and consistency you can change it around.

PaulaWallaDingDong

Hi! Until maybe last year I've always been the fat sister out of four of us. Now I'm the 2nd lightest. Never really felt resentful or anything and it sucks seeing the two heavier ones suffering, but you know when they ask for advice, they don't actually use it.