Christmas Jumper woes

LiveLoveProgress

Hi - I've lost 65lbs this year (almost 50lbs thanks to myfitnesspal) and I think it must've just gotten noticeable despite hiding under my huge work fleece...

I'm expected to wear a Christmas jumper this week to work, a few people have mentioned that I've gotten a bit thin/lost too much ect ( I'm still at a 24 bmi... ) apparently because I only counted calories and continued to eat crisps and chocolate ect I must've starved myself...

Do I wear my old xl Christmas jumper which is now rather roomy and continue to try and hide it from my colleagues or do I wear my daughter's smaller sized one and deal with the comments, knowing that there will be some unkind remarks on my appearance

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jemhh

Wear the smaller one and tell your coworkers to stop talking about your body. It's unprofessional.

TavistockToad

LiveLoveProgress wrote: »

Hi - I've lost 65lbs this year (almost 50lbs thanks to myfitnesspal) and I think it must've just gotten noticeable despite hiding under my huge work fleece...

I'm expected to wear a Christmas jumper this week to work, a few people have mentioned that I've gotten a bit thin/lost too much ect ( I'm still at a 24 bmi... ) apparently because I only counted calories and continued to eat crisps and chocolate ect I must've starved myself...

Do I wear my old xl Christmas jumper which is now rather roomy and continue to try and hide it from my colleagues or do I wear my daughter's smaller sized one and deal with the comments, knowing that there will be some unkind remarks on my appearance

wear the smaller one and if someone comments on your weight loss reply with 'and would you now like me to comment on your body?'

Muscleflex79

LiveLoveProgress wrote: »

Hi - I've lost 65lbs this year (almost 50lbs thanks to myfitnesspal) and I think it must've just gotten noticeable despite hiding under my huge work fleece...

I'm expected to wear a Christmas jumper this week to work, a few people have mentioned that I've gotten a bit thin/lost too much ect ( I'm still at a 24 bmi... ) apparently because I only counted calories and continued to eat crisps and chocolate ect I must've starved myself...

Do I wear my old xl Christmas jumper which is now rather roomy and continue to try and hide it from my colleagues or do I wear my daughter's smaller sized one and deal with the comments, knowing that there will be some unkind remarks on my appearance

am I the only one that thinks it is weird you have to wear a christmas jumper to work this week? out of curiosity, what kind of work do you do? I can't imagine being told I have to wear a christmas jumper to work! wouldn't happen!

(and yes, as everyone else said - wear the smaller one and screw what everyone thinks/says)

oocdc2

This works:

(Yes, wear the smaller jumper. Wear it well.)

LivingtheLeanDream

Wear the smaller one and ignore the comments, they're only jealous. Be proud of your weight loss achievement

dsboohead

Yes wear it proudly!

maggibailey

Is there a reason you seem uncomfortable with your weight loss? You should be proud of yourself and screw anyone who tries to take that from you.

LiveLoveProgress

Thanks guys for putting my mindset into perspective! I should wear it, and do so with pride!
I totally love the suggestions about repeating to HR and commenting on there bodies instead - if only I had the confidence, maybe one day when I hit goal.

tcunbeliever

I usually go with "I'm sorry you feel that way" when people are being weird and slightly inappropriate. It usually shuts them up and is less confrontational...no point burning bridges at work.

WhereIsPJSoles

I don’t know the dynamic of your workplace, but mine is kind of sarcastic and jokey so when I get comments about me starving myself I either go back at them with sarcasm “only air and lettuce, baby” or if I really want to shut that *kitten* down “I’m actually really proud of what I’ve been working for” and literally no one knows how to handle someone having pride in their body so they back off.

RachelElser

Jumper must be English for American Sweater? You could go and buy a purposefully hideous one that fits your current size. And if someone says something to you about being smaller say "It's really creepy/inappropriate that you're keeping track of how I look." and then walk away.

Lounmoun

You seem very timid for some reason.
You know you have not lost too much and that it is rude to comment on someone's body. You are not losing weight for someone else or going to regain weight just to suit a co-worker right? Be happy with your accomplishments. Tell people you are happy with your progress and change the subject.
Wear whichever jumper you like better and feel most comfortable in. If you regularly wear clothes that fit your body better you will probably look and feel better than if you are always in baggy clothes.

kenyonhaff

I try not to keep too big clothing in my wardrobe. Much less Christmas specific clothing I would wear a handful of times unless I would also wear it in January.

Muscleflex79

Relser wrote: »

Jumper must be English for American Sweater? You could go and buy a purposefully hideous one that fits your current size. And if someone says something to you about being smaller say "It's really creepy/inappropriate that you're keeping track of how I look." and then walk away.

oooh, didn't realize it meant sweater...I was picturing everyone wearing something like this to work and was like WTF??

crazykatlady820

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers.

Anyway, you should be proud of all your hard work and I'm sorry your co-workers are making you uncomfortable. I hope you find your voice and let them know that you wish they wouldn't talk about you like that.

LivingtheLeanDream

crazykatlady820 wrote: »

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers. - no, thats a pinafore

Goal179

Wear what makes you feel your absolute sexiest self. Who cares about other people's comments or what they have to say. They can kick rocks. If you feel more comfortable in the larger one, then rock it. But if you want to show a few fleeced out curves, then wear the smaller. Be happy and confident, that is all that matters

ritzvin

crazykatlady820 wrote: »

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers.

Anyway, you should be proud of all your hard work and I'm sorry your co-workers are making you uncomfortable. I hope you find your voice and let them know that you wish they wouldn't talk about you like that.

They are in the US (or at least in regions thereof). It's one of the (many) clothing items for which the US and UK have completely different terminology.

Spiderpug

Ive given my last years one (men's XL) to a work colleague and bought a size 12/14 to fit.
Just found out I have Christmas jumper day rota-ed off, so will wear it at home!

lemurcat12

crazykatlady820 wrote: »

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers.

Anyway, you should be proud of all your hard work and I'm sorry your co-workers are making you uncomfortable. I hope you find your voice and let them know that you wish they wouldn't talk about you like that.

Yeah, in the US they are.



I knew what the OP meant, but that's what I picture too.

TavistockToad

lemurcat12 wrote: »

crazykatlady820 wrote: »

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers.

Anyway, you should be proud of all your hard work and I'm sorry your co-workers are making you uncomfortable. I hope you find your voice and let them know that you wish they wouldn't talk about you like that.

Yeah, in the US they are.



I knew what the OP meant, but that's what I picture too.

In the UK that is a pinafore dress

HellYeahItsKriss

@LiveLoveProgress -- I have a huge backbone, i don't have a lot of confidence in myself but i do not let people push me around or allow them to think that its okay.

Co workers can be a little intimidating, but when you stand up for yourself, you do not have to do it maliciously.
There is tactful ways, I don't think lowering yourself to their level and commenting on their bodies will really right the wrong.

I was told by someone that i looked sick and gaunt. All i said was that my friends and loved ones are really proud of me and think i look fantastic, so does my doctor, If you had put hard work into something personal to you, would you want someone to make you feel like everyone else must be lying?

I didn't make her feel awkward about her own body, because even saying something about commenting on her body is just dancing around the fact that you must also think something negative about them and we have to stop shaming people in general for their bodies and be supportive towards goals, like they should be with you.. but my comment to my co worker let her relate better, everyone has put hard work into something personal about themselves and no one would want someone to sour that for them.

If this co worker still doesn't get it.. then you know what? in your own mind you know that this person is just naturally inconsiderate towards others and you can be proud that you are not that kind of person.

TavistockToad

HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »

@LiveLoveProgress -- I have a huge backbone, i don't have a lot of confidence in myself but i do not let people push me around or allow them to think that its okay.

Co workers can be a little intimidating, but when you stand up for yourself, you do not have to do it maliciously.
There is tactful ways, I don't think lowering yourself to their level and commenting on their bodies will really right the wrong.

I was told by someone that i looked sick and gaunt. All i said was that my friends and loved ones are really proud of me and think i look fantastic, so does my doctor, If you had put hard work into something personal to you, would you want someone to make you feel like everyone else must be lying?

I didn't make her feel awkward about her own body, because even saying something about commenting on her body is just dancing around the fact that you must also think something negative about them and we have to stop shaming people in general for their bodies and be supportive towards goals, like they should be with you.. but my comment to my co worker let her relate better, everyone has put hard work into something personal about themselves and no one would want someone to sour that for them.

If this co worker still doesn't get it.. then you know what? in your own mind you know that this person is just naturally inconsiderate towards others and you can be proud that you are not that kind of person.

For the record I didn't say to comment on their bodies, I said to ask them if they would like their body to be commented on.

HellYeahItsKriss

@TavistockToad -- you didn't but the OP did say that.

tomteboda

tcunbeliever wrote: »

I usually go with "I'm sorry you feel that way" when people are being weird and slightly inappropriate. It usually shuts them up and is less confrontational...no point burning bridges at work.

"'I'm sorry you feel that way" is such a work - horse

crazykatlady820

Ahh! I see! A pinafore! I think somewhere in the back of my mind I knew it was also called that. But I had no clue a sweater was called a jumper. Neat!

Fitnessmom82

Wear the smaller one!! It's nobody's business. Do what makes you happy and ignore everyone! Chances are, they are criticizing you because they have their own issues with themselves.

lynn_glenmont

crazykatlady820 wrote: »

I was picturing one of those dresses that you often wear a shirt under since they don't have sleeves. You know the ones? I thought they were always called jumpers.

Yes, in the U.S., historically those were called jumpers. I don't hear the term much anymore.

Clothing terms differ from one English-speaking country to another. Like pants.

DmaMfz

Is the question really about wearing a smaller sweater or not? Please clarify